One Great Love or One True Love...
By bebe_bonsai
@bebe_bonsai (112)
Philippines
December 14, 2006 7:09pm CST
I feel like i'm cheating on my husband because of constantly wanting to know the activities of my former boyfriend. I know I love my husband with every bit of myself, but why am i feeling this way? A friend told me that there is such a thing as ONE GREAT LOVE and ONE TRUE LOVE... what's the difference?
6 responses
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
15 Dec 06
My ex-husband called me years later asking me for the phone number of a guy. He wanted to talk to him because he believed he was the reason for the break-up of our marriage. Like I said, this was years later, I had remarried and had two children (still do). I told him to get over it. Move on. The past is the past. You can't change it. Move forward with the one you love and are married to.
I still have dreams about my EX and that drives me crazy. I just want him to disappear from my brain. That chapter, that BOOK closed a long time ago.
I don't know the difference between GREAT love and TRUE love. I just know how I feel now, in the moment. Be grateful for the man you have now. I hope he is better than what you left behind. Or perhaps he is not? Is that why you are obsessing about your EX? I feel the reason I have dreams about my EX (who morphs into my current husband) is because a) they have similarities and b) I've got a better guy now. Both are true. I have enough worries and stresses in my life without having past ones haunt me. Don't you?
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
thanks for sharing your thoughts. without batting an eyelash i'm telling you straight that i'm head over heels inlove with my husband. there are countless reasons why this is so. in my hearts of hearts i believe that my husband is way better than my EX ( in some departments ) and i wouldn't trade him for anything even if this EX comes crashing back into my life. there are just so many WHAT IFs inside my head and for such a long time we kept the communication going, wishing that there's still a chance for a reconciliation. but, sadly, we just lost track of each other and the only time i get to look at his good pictures are when i acess his profile on site. maybe because he was just too good to be true when we were together and the chances of us parting ways were just too low that's why it was difficult to get over him during the first year after we broke up. but, hey, i've come to terms with that. my marriage is going stronger everyday and i can't imagine anything that could destroy the marriage... well, my friend who is a shrink said that you're one great love doesn't mean that he's your one true love...
@wvchell78 (564)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I have always been curious about my first love because of how our relationship ended. I have since talked to him only by chance because he was visiting my neighbor and parked in my driveway. Talking to him made me realize that what we had was very special but it is also the past. I have a very wonderful husband who I love completely and who loves me.
@mygreyparrot (1461)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Just remember he is your ex for a reason. Sometimes I wonder what happened to my ex's. I don't think it's that weird really. I'm totally in love with my BF but I still wonder if their lives turned out alright.
@123Jackey (284)
• China
15 Dec 06
the great love which you have expirenced,a true love is which you want keep rorever.
@surpluscars (315)
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Are you just curious with the activities of your ex-boyfriend? or are you wanting to bring back the communication that you had with him? If so, you might be cheating with your husband in a way. I think there's not much difference in ONE GREAT LOVE and ONE TRUE LOVE...they're basically the same..
