December 15, 2006 12:11am CST
how will u explain ourage??? Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway. I like the definitions of courage above, which all suggest that courage is the ability to get yourself to take action in spite of fear. The word courage derives from the Latin cor, which means "heart." But true courage is more a matter of intellect than of feeling. It requires using the uniquely human part of your brain (the neocortex) to wrest control away from the emotional limbic brain you share in common with other mammals. Your limbic brain signals danger, but your neocortex reasons that the danger isn't real, so you simply feel the fear and take action anyway. The more you learn to act in spite of fear, the more human you become. The more you follow the fear, the more you live like a lower mammal. So the question, "Are you a man or a mouse?" is consistent with human neurology. Courageous people are still afraid, but they don't let the fear paralyze them. People who lack courage will give into fear more often than not, which actually has the long-term effect of strengthening the fear. When you avoid facing a fear and then feel relieved that you escaped it, this acts as a psychological reward that reinforces the mouse-like avoidance behavior, making you even more likely to avoid facing the fear in the future. So the more you avoid asking someone out on a date, the more paralyzed you'll feel about taking such actions in the future. You are literally conditioning yourself to become more timid and mouse-like. Such avoidance behavior causes stagnation in the long run. As you get older, you reinforce your fear reactions to the point where it's hard to even imagine yourself standing up to your fears. You begin taking your fears for granted; they become real to you. You cocoon yourself into a life that insulates you from all these fears: a stable but unhappy marriage, a job that doesn't require you to take risks, an income that keeps you comfortable. Then you rationalize your behavior: You have a family to support and can't take risks, you're too old to shift careers, you can't lose weight because you have "fat" genes. Five years... ten years... twenty years pass, and you realize that your life hasn't changed all that much. You've settled down. All that's really left now is to live out the remainder of your years as contently as possible and then settle yourself into the ground, where you'll finally achieve total safety and security. But there's something else going on behind the scenes, isn't there? That tiny voice in the back of your mind recalls that this isn't the kind of life you wanted to live. It wants more, much more. It wants you to become far wealthier, to have an outstanding relationship, to get your body in peak physical condition, to learn new skills, to travel the world, to have lots of wonderful friends, to help people in need, to make a meaningful difference. That voice tells you that settling into a job where you sell widgets the rest of your life just won't cut it. That voice frowns at you when you catch a glance of your oversized belly in the mirror or get winded going up a flight of stairs. It beams disappointment when it sees what's become of your family. It tells you that the reason you have trouble motivating yourself is that you aren't doing what you really ought to be doing with your life... because you're afraid. And if you refuse to listen, it will always be there, nagging you about your mediocre results until you die, full of regrets for what might have been. So how do you respond to this ornery voice that won't shut up? What do you do when confronted by that gut feeling that something just isn't right in your life? What's your favorite way to silence it? Maybe drown it out by watching TV, listening to the radio, working long hours at an unfulfilling job, or consuming alcohol and caffeine and sugar. But whenever you do this, you lower your level of consciousness. You sink closer towards an instinctive animal and move away from becoming a fully conscious human being. You react to life instead of proactively going after your goals. You fall into a state of learned helplessness, where you begin to believe that your goals are no longer possible or practical for you. You become more and more like a mouse, even trying to convince yourself that life as a mouse might not be so bad after all, since everyone around you seems to be OK with it. You surround yourself with your fellow mice, and on the rare occasions that you encounter a fully conscious human being, it scares the hell out of you to remember how much of your own courage has been lost.
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15 Dec 06
Courage is courage itself. You can't descrive it clearly but the thing is to be felt when situations come. It is like this that at some time you might be scared to take an injection but at other time you can face the bullets. So, its something which is to be experienced.
• United States
15 Dec 06
I love your response and courage is a vibration that happens within to experience and we have a choice to lable it and discribe it whatever we want! Some may call it fear, some may call it just courage! I love to call courage just courage! No fear exist in my book! I love your expression of love and courage! Thank you
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
16 Dec 06
My favorite definition of courage is: Doing what's right, even if it isn't in your best interest. It's easy to see what is best for yourself and take the easy way out. Courage requires that you go against the natural survival instinct to do what should be done.
16 Dec 06
My definition of courage is being able to wake in the morning get out of bed and taking what the world dishes out...not letting life bring you down...standing up for what you believe in, and hold true to your faith...seeing people for who they are, not by the color of there skin or there disabilities, making people laugh when it seems impossible to do, finding the good in all things bad, holding your chin high for everyone to see...to me this is what courage is.
• United States
15 Dec 06
Courage is like a muscle. The more we exercise it, the stronger it gets. I sometimes worry that our collective courage is growing weaker from disuse. We don't demand it from our leaders, and our leaders don't demand it from us. The courage deficit is both our problem and our fault. As a result, too many leaders in the public and private sectors lack the courage necessary to honor their obligations to others and to uphold the essential values of leadership. Often, they display a startling lack of accountability for their mistakes and a desire to put their own self-interest above the common good.
15 Dec 06
Courage... An old proverb says that "ONLY IDIOTS AREN'T AFRAID" so fear it's a natural feeling.And here comes courage.To know what are you afraid of and face it.That is courage,to know HOW to control your fear.Some people associate COURAGE with FANATICISM or even FOOLERY but that are the extremes.Courage and fear have influenced all the great evnts in the history.What would had happened if Napoleon was a coward instead of a courageous man?Courage is very important in our lives.(if you liked my response you could even rate it-that was just an inoccent suggestion- LOL)
15 Dec 06
well courage is the quality of person which enables you to sustain life without fear. when the things that you are doing that are legal and respected in the society then you will not fear to do that.with courage you can make your life by facing any problem in life.. w/o courage sustaining of life is impossible!!
• United States
15 Dec 06
To me courage has always been the ablility to overcome fear. It doesn't mean that we aren't afraid, just that we can find the srength to act past that fear. I've also always felt that ignoring a problem doesn't make it go away but gives it time to become bigger. That doesn't mean that people aren't tempted from time to time to leave a problem alone and just hope that it goes away. It can also be healthy to set something that troubles you aside for a few minutes so that you can go back and look at it later with fresh ideas and see solutions that you didn't see before. There are many was we can show courage. We can stand up against a bully. We can react in a positive way to a dangerous situation. We can move forward with a goal when others tell us that we could fail. We can be the first person to say hello to a stranger in the room. We can offer a helping hand to a friend who has made a few mistakes but is trying to turn things around. We can say "no" to someone who is trying to get us to go against our morals and values. We can be open to new ideas. We can fight to regain our physical health after a devastating accident. Trouble can come at us in many forms, but it is how we react to that trouble that defines us and makes us stronger or weaker. Sometimes we have to let things go. But there are other times when we must react with assertive action.
• Sri Lanka
15 Dec 06
your infomation is so good I like that. And I agree what you saying in above. I have one example to tell something about courage: thats is aboout my boyfriend and myslef. I love man that I dont even know his personal details. But I love truly. Then I take my diciison to start afair when he asked to starts the afair. So you know finally I got the really good boyfrind that I cant think such a good boyfriend that I ever meet in my future. What ever I believe I beieve true courage gives us lots os confidance and builds us stronger. I think as a human we have to inprove our courage more than that with according with our integrity.