Discipline children

@SViswan (12071)
India
December 15, 2006 2:24am CST
How would you discipline your child? Do you try to discipline your child when they don't agree with what you say or do you discipline when they break rules?
4 responses
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
17 Dec 06
My kids are of an age now that they know wht is expected of them...naturally being children they do sometimes break the rules but very very rarely and only in minor ways..I dont discipline them anymore for it but they do get a talking to and a reminder that its unacceptable....
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• India
15 Dec 06
one stitch at time saves nine..so at the begining..
@SViswan (12071)
• India
17 Dec 06
I agree...but what I need to know is...what behaviour would you try to discipline? Is giving their viewpoint (even if wrong) considered rude and need to be diciplined?
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
17 Dec 06
Absolutely not! I encourage my children to speak up and use their voices...just because they are minors doesnt mean they dont have opinions and beliefs all their own...and in all honesty I have a serious problem with parents who discipline their children for using their minds....Now however if they (my kids) are disrespectful in how they use their voices they get a warning...I wont tolerate rudeness from anyone let alone my kids...
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
18 Dec 06
I feel that's the right way to go. But there are other parents who feel that they know better and the kids have to silently listen to them. I always tell my 6 year old son 'You can tell me anything you want...even if you disagree with me...but you cannot raise your voice or be rude'.
• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
I agree with being a friend to our children. For the age below 6 years old, just bear in mind that they follow our instructions is not because of their obidience to us as their parent. That is because we are bigger than them, as simple as that. They have had no idea about obidience just yet.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
20 Dec 06
Yes, they have no idea of obedience. But the point here is not about obeying blindly. It's about understanding why they have to do a certain thing. How many years do you expect them to blindly obey you? They should also learn to take their own decisions. The earlier you start, the easier it will be to relate to your kids as friend (along with setting down rules and limits). The sooner they know that they are allowed to do what they want within limits, the sooner they will trust you.
@Etharon (217)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 06
I believe that the best way to be a parent is to be a friend first to your child. Meaning that we should always listento them and know what goes on in their heads, so that we are able to understand them better. It's only when we can understand they that they will open up and will naturally want to listen to us too. While it is good to be friends and have open communication with them, we must always remind them of who's the "boss", to respect their elders and everyone in general. If we go with the "be quite, I am you parent" way, I believe that they will eventually shut us out completely from their lifes as they will think that we never want to listen anyway. I know for sure because that is what happened to me when I was growing up. My parents always reminded us that children as meant to be seen but not heard. Now with my own kids, I always encourage him to share his views, even when he is 2 1/2 years onld now.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
20 Dec 06
That's the best way to be a parent...listen to them..let them voice their opinion. If it makes sense (even if you don't agree), let them have their way (as long as it is not troubling anyone. All the best. Hope your child grows up to be a well balanced individual. I did what you did with my son early on and it worked.