What makes a marriage work?
20 Apr 07
There is this song quoted by one mylotter, crystalball, that goes: "You have to give a little, take a little, and even cry a little, that's the story of, that's the glory of LOVE." He wrote this in a discussion about his 50th wedding anniversary. Now if this doesn't answer the question, "What makes a marriage work?", I don't know what will. There is none other than love that will make a marriage work. It is how we live it, how we share it, how we express it that will make marriage fail or succeed. We have to give a little of everything that nourishes our partner's affection, we have to take a little of this and that and let them grow so that our partners become one with us. Indeed, there are times when we have to cry a little, not only because of sadness, but also because we are happy. Crystalball and his wife survived 50 years with this thoughts. My wife and I have been married for a short 10 years, and I intend to survive 40 or so more years with her, with the same song in my mind.
• United States
15 Dec 06
Communication, willingness to apologize even when you do not feel that you are wrong, ability to compromise--especially when you don't want to. The key is that both members of the relationship have to do these things for the marriage to be truly successful; if only one person is compromising, apologizing, and trying to communicate, it is not going to work.