Need ideas for her out on our first date!

@acosjo (1903)
Canada
December 15, 2006 4:45pm CST
Alright, I asked her out and she said yes (a friend of a co-worker). I need ideas people, the more the better because I wan this to be a good one. You know what they say.... You only get one chance to make a first impression (although she already has an impression of me, I don't want to make it worse).
12 responses
@cubanito (597)
• Italy
16 Dec 06
if you don't know her then a my advice is take her a flower and then you say her to do a long walk and talk with her for understand thing like and finally the ideas come you without to do anything what to her don't like. have you understand my english now? bye
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
Cubanito....you're cute, yes, I always understand you. Let me help. I think what you meant to say is. Buy her flowers. Ask her to go for a long walk so you can talk. Then you will know the kind of things she doesn't like. See, I always understand what you mean. Now take notes :)
@postbusf (120)
• Netherlands
16 Dec 06
Be your self and make sure that she does most of the talking. Make her feel that you are interested in her. The rest of the talking will be a pease a cake.
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
Buy her a piece of cake. Got it. I wonder if she'll let me eat it off her tummy....MMMMMMM
• United States
16 Dec 06
Do something creative, something different that isn't quite so ordinary (again it really does depend on the type of woman she is), but don't just go to dinner and a movie. A movie is actually a horrible idea for a 1st date because you don't get a chance to talk to each other and learn about one another. Dinner is fine, but try to stretch your creativity at least a little bit. I've found that going to a sporting even can be a fun experience. Ask her if she has x-mas shopping to do, and go x-mas shopping with each other for other people, then if it's going good snag her something "small and inexpensive" and she'd find that thoughtful, without being over the top and evasive..... good luck.
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
Thanks for the advice.
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
16 Dec 06
You need to find out what kind of stuff she likes to do. Does she like to go bowling? Miniature golf? A movie? A play? Concert? Then a low-key restaurant for hot cocoa and pie. Bring her flowers, nothing overboard. No roses! Roses on a first date are threatening. Carnations or Daisies are good. Good luck!
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
Carnations and Daisies. Got it!
@tomjonz (60)
• United States
16 Dec 06
Whatever else you do above all be honest with her, if you lie it will come back to bite you in the but. Be very attentive, open doors for her and be very polite and considerate. Make her feel like she's on a pedastal. Also listen to her, realy listen and understand what she's telling you in other words play it by ear!!!!
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
Thanks. I hope I'll be playing with more than her ear later on. just kidding....
@hottamale (116)
• United States
16 Dec 06
i agree with the ask her friend kind of thing. See what she enjoys. Are there any special events going on in your town? Plays, concerts..etc? what are her likes? If she likes animals, go to a pet shop, if she likees shopping, go to the mall? Another idea is going around and looking at Christmas lights!
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
OK. Christmas lights. There's lot here.
@norteh (615)
• Netherlands
16 Dec 06
Be nice and be yourself. If you don't be yourself, you maybe getting divorced in the long run. And you can't impress a girl constantly.
• United States
16 Dec 06
I would skip doing a movie for the first date. You can't really talk to eachother during a movie. A nice place for dinner would be good, some place where you can talk afterwards, maybe get drinks there too. Also ask her what she would like to do, maybe she would have a good, fun idea. What ever you do have fun, be yourself, and don't push anything. Good luck
• United States
16 Dec 06
I can see how this is an occasion to give a lot of thought. Well, where you should take her, and what you should do. Really depends on what sort of girl she is. But on the other hand, you don't want to make it all about her, and her likes either. It has to be somewhere in the middle. Something that appeals to both of you, and your tastes. Compromise, giving her a chance to see you in one of your natural elements, and giving you a chance to see the way she acts in one of her natural elements. If that makes any sense at all. I would be able to help and give a little more advice if I knew the sort of girl she was, but since I know absolutely nothing about her, this is really the best advice that I can offer. I know a lot of girls are going to come in and demand you make the first date special for her, all about her. But there are girls who don't want that sort of thing. As a first date, she's going to be just as nervous as you, and just as curious about you, as you are about her. Say for example, that she loves to go dancing. So you decide to take her out dancing, because you know she'll enjoy it. But secretly, you hate dancing, and you're not very good at it. When you get there, she's going to realize that you're just trying to get brownie points doing something she wants, and in the end neither of you would end up having as much fun as you would have, if you had gone somewhere else, right? At least, that is this girls opinion.
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
Thank you. A lot of what you said makes sense. I appreciate it. Wanna go out on a date?;-)
@dip_cool (411)
• India
16 Dec 06
well you can take her to the movies,to a coffee shop,to a resturant...the list is endless.you have to decide it depending upon what she prefers.take her where she will enjoy the most.and do take a small gift like chocolates along with you.act casual and dont try to impress her too much.over impressing sometimes makes things worse.
• Italy
16 Dec 06
be yourself
• United States
16 Dec 06
Go to an early movie then go to dinner after wards or an ice cream shop or something. It gives you something to talk about so there wont be any awkward silences. Also, its good that you gys share a mutual friend because you two can talk about him/her. You shoudl have no problem, its sweet that you want to impress her though :)