Is it okay for a 14 year girl to have a boy as a best friend
By anna11292
@anna11292 (564)
United States
December 15, 2006 9:02pm CST
I really am having a hard time with this issue. See my daughter loves sports, she would be one of a few girls who plays with the boys football. she has this, so she calls boy best friend.They seem very good friends. but what is a mother to think.any ideas please? or anyone with a young daughter with a boy best friend?
9 responses
@axe_effect (799)
• Philippines
16 Dec 06
it is definitely ok. but young people nowadays use the term "BESTFRIEND" as a term they call to their loveone. ask your daughter about it ,
@ElusiveButterfly (45942)
• United States
17 Dec 06
Why not? Friends keep us happy. Your best friend knows everything about you and loves you anyway. I know of a girl who had a boy as her best friend throughout high school. Rather than have a maid of honour at her wedding, he stood up for her. Friends are friends.
@kunalgaurr (536)
• India
17 Dec 06
Gal can have boy as best friends.. as far as they take as a friend only... coz' these days younger counts that as loveones.... coz' at 14, your daughter's age is very sensitive age... if you treat her well, friendly way, make her understand about right things and wrong things in such a way that she wun feel bad... she will be on a right track... and if you are rude towards her she may go on the wrong track and she will not share with you anything...
I believe if parents become good friend of their kids... kids tell them all truth and what's happening in their life... and they feel light too...
@wvchell78 (564)
• United States
17 Dec 06
At that age most of my friends were males. I wasn't into sports or anything like that. I just got along better with the boys. I didn't fit in with the popular crowd but I wasn't one to do anything that I didn't agree with to fit in either. I still talk to several of these guys now and that was over 13 years ago. They actually helped keep me from making bad choices.
@dharmendra_pawar23 (907)
• India
16 Dec 06
i am agree with ur daughter. boy friend is good for her why r u think boy friend is not good or her do u know what is the meaning of friend A REAL FRIEND: This person is the one that no matter what is there for you. When your up and when you are down. This is not a "yes man" but a person that has your best interests at heart and will tell you when you are going down the wrong road. This person is happy for you when things are good and crys with you when things go bad. Some times we out grow a friendship and it is time to let it go. You have to work at friendship like any other realtionship, if both are not working at it, it will die, sometimes it is best to let it go. A real friend will keep working and fighting for you.
@nhtpscd (1416)
• Australia
17 Dec 06
Yep I think it is perfectly fine. Keep an eye on it from a distance. Make sure the daughter know what types of actions are appropriate behaviors. I have had a male friend since the age of twelve who has never crossed the boundaries in any way shape or for. I am now just over forty
@the_dutchess (2610)
• Philippines
16 Dec 06
i don't really know exactly what's the right thing to say. but i think if you're daughter is open to you, what i mean is she tells you everything and anything that's happening to her, maybe you should not worry too much. just be there to guide her by telling and explaining things in a nice way.
@anna11292 (564)
• United States
16 Dec 06
she is some what open put I really don't think she tells me everything. thanks for the advice.
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
16 Dec 06
I had a male best friend right around that age. He was a life send to me actually. We would talk on the phone, go to the movies & everything. I did have some female best friends too. I cherished his friendship. We were really close for like 10 years.
