Woman's place home or at work?

United States
December 15, 2006 11:24pm CST
My brother and I have just had this discussion this evening. I am disabled and as such I stay at home with the kids and my fiancee works. I have no problem with her working or not I leave that choice up to her, but my brother thinks that she should be at home with the kids rather than mee. He has this old misconception of barefoot and pregnant that I just cannot see. What are your thoughts?
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@charmz07 (86)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
In couple, there's should always be support for each other. If the man can be left at home instead of the wife..then let it be. I don't think there's bad point on that as long as both of you working hand in hand for the family. It takes two to tango. Your role might be interchange for the good of the family. We have our own strength and weaknesses that each couple should fill in each needs.
• United States
18 Jan 07
Thank you very much for the post. I agree with you 200%, I do not think there are any definate roles anymore it all depends on what works for your family! Thank you for the post and have a great day!!
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• United States
18 Jan 07
I think that a womans place could be either because sometimes women feel that they wanana just have something to call there own!
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• United States
18 Jan 07
Well if that is the case then Mrs. Mee must be happy since all of mine is her's as well as all of her's. :-O We are firm believers in "what's mine is her's and what's her's is her's" :-) Thank you for the post and have a great day!!
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think that whatever needs to be done in order to meet the families needs is what is important. Because of your disability priorities need to be shifted in order to make things work for your family. I stay at home too while my girlfriend works because I am waiting on paperwork that allows me to work legally in her country. We have had to adjust our priorities in order to meet our needs as well. Women are just as capable of going out and being the head of their household financially as men are. If a household where there are no children lik emine it is even more advantageous that both of us work to bring in money. A womans place is wherever she wants to be.
• United States
17 Jan 07
Great point of view. There is such a difference in the world today as there was years ago when women stayed home and the men were the bread winners. I am glad to live in this new world as it gives mee the oprotunity to know my children. Thank you for the post and have a great day!!
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@palliyath (122)
• India
16 Dec 06
I would say in this new era women also has to work inorder to look after the family.But it has to be a unstrained job,she should have more time in her home rather than in the office or wherever else.
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• United States
16 Dec 06
Thank you for the post! I do have a question though, what about in my situation? I cannot work, I am at home, I am disabled. Should she still be barred from having a real dedicated job for the sake of homelife? I am for all intents and purposes the "Housewife". I cook, I clean, I do laundry, dishes, I (and my dog) wake the girls up for school, ect, etc, etc... So what do you think?
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• Pakistan
17 Jan 07
both can be the purpose accordingly if she wanna dio work she can but it is better if she serves and controlls the house hold
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Barefoot and pregnant, huh? That concept went out with the idea that the man was the breadwinner and would support the family. Today many women have to work, either to supplement the family's income or as the sole support of the family. I'm just glad to see that men are finally coming around to the idea that if the woman has to work outside the home, the man needs to start helping around the house.
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• United States
4 Feb 07
I do not help around the house, what gave you that idea? LOL :-) I do the house as I am a homemaker as in my home the roles of old are reversed because I am disabled and cannot get a 9-5. Yes men do need to helpout around the house expecially if the woman works, it is crap thinking that house work is woman's work. I cook, clean, wash clothes, etc... and more men should do as well. Thank you for the response and have a great day!!
@sharon613 (2323)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Its a good idea to be staying at home as well as working on the outside.
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
Whoever wants to stay home should. I don't think it should be anything other than that. Barefoot and pregnant went out the way of the dodo bird I think.
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• Pakistan
4 Feb 07
woman must have to do sum work we must give equal chance in our society an dunt let the woman down
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@anex84 (465)
• Bulgaria
4 Feb 07
The problem with your question is that you're assuming that all women are the same. There may be few differences among women in some cultures. For some women, staying home and raising a family is what works best for them all. For other women, having careers is what works best for them. I could be mistaken, but I don't think that there are many women who stay at home full-time when there are no children. I'm sure some do, but every woman I know who has stayed home has raised children.
• United States
5 Feb 07
The problem with your response is that it is way OFF TOPIC and you DID NOT READ THIS DISCUSSION since if you would have you would know that I SUPPORT WHATEVER CHOICE MY WIFE MAKES!!! It was a conversation between my brother and I and my brother thought it was wrong that Mrs. Mee works rather than being at home with her children. So to avoid getting reported and minused again read the whole discussion rather than just the headline!!