Bad dating experience

@Deja88 (113)
United States
September 21, 2006 6:22pm CST
I've known this guy about 5 years and he makes me feel pretty much crappy all together, every time I talk to him. He's always made everything seem like my fault. Even slept with one of my friends, told another friend of ine that he cared about my feelings. Then he said that if she was a real friend, she wudnt have slept with him. But if he had cared about me in the past or presently, he wouldn't have slept with her either. Works both ways. Has anyone else had an experience like this?
16 responses
@masbaaz (395)
• India
6 Oct 06
I didnot attend any dating till now. So sorry, cannot tell any experience
@Antianara (608)
• Australia
4 Oct 06
ideally you shouldn't have spend more than an hour with this #@$% but... the problem with the human species is that it tends to hope and think it can change things (and people) beyond any reasonable expectation, just learn from the experience.
@prasanta (1948)
• India
22 Sep 06
It happens some times even after marriage. Talk freely tothe person. Then take decision
@Sweety76 (1594)
• India
4 Oct 06
i dont understand how u r in touch of such bad character guy
@matefork (277)
• Philippines
4 Oct 06
Nope, but a guy like this is unreliable. I think he's playing with both of you and your friend. This guy is not serious.
@lxrowe (372)
• Australia
4 Oct 06
I have a friend who has the same kind of tihng going on, only minus the sleeping thig
@kstanley7 (1171)
22 Sep 06
I'm sorry but this guy sounds like a real jerk, and it seems to me that he is one of these guys that love to see a woman hurt, it does make me wonder if he is scared of males fighting back so he goes for females. Guys like this aint worth even thinking about as they are just a genetic makeup from the sludge of the genepool. You will find someone else that listens and respects you. We all learn from our mistakes in the past which makes everyone unique in their own way. Good luck and take care in your life :)
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
22 Sep 06
Don't feel bad because you are a nice person who tries to give someone the benefit of the doubt. One problem with the human society is we seem to always beat up on the good person. We always call the caring person stupid for putting up with it. We should spend more time calling the mean person stupid for being mean. Since when is it wrong to be sensitive and caring. Unfortunately, nice people just have to learn to be a little more discerning so they don't get hurt. As for your girl friend, better you find out about her. They deserve each other. Because of what they have done, both will be haunted with trust issues so huge they will never be truly happy. Don't waste your precious time on either one of them. Move on. THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO WILL APPRECIATE YOU . You will look back on this episode as a bad dream.
• India
22 Sep 06
yeah once i went on a date and the girl used to make these really disgusting chewing sounds when she used to date..it was my first and last date with her
@blessonje (1651)
• India
22 Sep 06
i dont have one yet
@Sandra1 (49)
• Zimbabwe
22 Sep 06
What a pig!!! I had a bad experience too though thank God it wasn't my friend - twas just as insulting though. My boyfriend of three years...double crossed me witha 16 year old school kid!! Forget the guy - he's not worth it!! People like that never change - well hardly ever.
22 Sep 06
That’s terrible, why would you spend more than five minutes with him let along five years? Although I understand sometimes it’s a lot harder to leave than it is to stay.
@TEALAS (28)
• United States
22 Sep 06
No, I cant say I have had an experience like that. What I can say is, judging by what you have written, you need to disassociate yourself with him ASAP. Correction: he did not sleep with one of your friends he slept with some chick that was pretending to be your friend. Friends dont sleep with your man. Anyway, you need to cut him loose. He isnt going to do anything but bring you down. You can do better than that. If you love yourself and you have any self respect you will let him go. Good luck! :o)
• Netherlands
22 Sep 06
The girl not showing up Or a man telling he was a girl on messenger and then dating with him and then i found out it was a MAN i left :) Straight upp
@rherdey (966)
• United States
22 Sep 06
Some people will say should of not stayed with this person but..we all do things in life that think it will work or might. And as you said it was over 5 years on and off..but we learn by our mistakes and sometimes take that long to learn. I have not been in this situation but other things in my life I should of not stuck around for but we learn how can we learn if we do not make mistakes..some times it effects our lives but then we learn also ..one thing I can say is you know your mistake or learned go on and dont look back or rehash the past ..move on you are strong enough to do that good luck...
@SunnyDays (1070)
• Bahamas
21 Sep 06
Why would you spent time (five years ???) with a guy who makes you feel crappy ???????????? I wouldn't even spent an hour with a guy who makes me feel that way - so why do you ???