Have you ever been stalked?

Ireland
December 17, 2006 1:04pm CST
Have you ever been stalked and what did you do? Years ago I used to travel to work on the train and one morning this married guy got talking to me. He sat beside me on the train that first morning, and then the following two mornings did the same. On the fourth morning he asked me what my boyfriend would think if he knew I was chatting up a good looking married man!!! The guy was no oil painting but his question freaked me out a bit. On the fifth morning I purposefully arrived late onto the train and sat beside a lady at the back carriage of the train. This "married" man came onto the train, sat facing me several seats in front and stared at me. As we got off the train he passed some sort of remark about how rude I was not to have sat with him. I ignored him. But every morning after that he would sit facing me and stare at me for the whole hour long journey. It was really scarey. :o I eventually left the job I was in but I don't know what I'd have done if that had gone on any longer.
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@lucterius (213)
• Belgium
17 Dec 06
I would hire a bodyguard, probably would scare him off good :D or you could have just asked him friendly to stop ot
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• Ireland
17 Dec 06
I suppose I could have asked him to stop it. But because of the way he was staring at me I really didn't want to approach him at all. I was quite young at the time. I think if it happened now I'd probably knee him somewhere it hurts. ;)
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@kpisgod (994)
• India
17 Dec 06
o I eventually left the job I was in but I don't know what I'd have done if that had gone on any longer. What can i say girls dont have the guts
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• Ireland
17 Dec 06
Now where did I say I was a girl? :P ;)
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@kpisgod (994)
• India
17 Dec 06
I thought it was obvious with u talking about boy friend.What would have been your take?
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• Ireland
17 Dec 06
I'm only kidding. I am female, and you're probably right. I was quite young and didn't have the guts to tell him to stop what he was doing.
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• Ireland
17 Dec 06
My daughter was in a similat situation and she too had to leave her job. I think I would freak out if it happened to me. I would never take the train again and I would look for some other mode of transport.
• Ireland
17 Dec 06
Really Alexandria? Shocking! It can be very intimidating. Thankfully I have a car now and can travel around where I like. I haven't noticed anyone tailing me in it.
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• Philippines
18 Dec 06
creepy. can't say that i've ever experienced somethin like this. hope i never do, though. :o)
• Ireland
18 Dec 06
I hope you never do either. It can be very frightening.
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@mansha (6301)
• India
17 Dec 06
I had an experience like this sometime back. I was staying alone as my hubby was deployed in field area. I used to frequent a club with my son during lunch time on Sundays as it was a common practice in that place by single ladies.Many used to be there. Once I was a little early and while I placed the order for lunch my son was playing around. Another officer started chatting with him, I didn't think of this otherwise and just listened to the innocent conversation about nothing in particular. As it was officers club that gentleman greeted me too and asked me if I was alone I said yes and told him that my hubby is in field area andf he asked me the unit I told him about our HQ in the city and avoided the details feigning ignorance. I clearly remeber, I never gave that person my name or my hubby's name. Next day I get a call from him saying that he was ringing someone else but accidently operator had given him my number. I could hear warning bells ringing. I said okay its all right and kept the phone down.By chance my brother came visiting next day again I got a call from the same person, he asked for me and I disconnected the phone without saying even hello. I was scared as he asked for me by name. I told my brother to pick up the phone and when again he called up after few minutes my brother picked up the phone and that person disconnected. I don't know how he got the number or my name probably from the chit I signed at the club or whatever. Later on one of my friend told me he was a retired officer staying near by and he has a habit of picking on the single ladies. During the weekend my husband just came for four days leave and I told him about it and when that officer again rang me up my hubby gave him such a blast that he never called me up again. Even though my hubby said I can continue going to the club I never went back there again, one experience was enough for me.
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• Ireland
17 Dec 06
Thanks for sharing your experience. Not a nice thing to happen.
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• China
19 Dec 06
nice ,i read your story,i pray to god not to happen to me
• United States
18 Dec 06
My oldest daughter was stalked when she was about 7 or 8 by an old man in his 50's. It was horrible and truly scared her so much. The D.A. put an end to it but unfortunately he was allowed out in public and ended up molesting other children. Sickening.
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• Ireland
19 Dec 06
That's awful. I' sorry to hear about that.
• United States
18 Dec 06
i havent been stalked..at least i dont think so.. i hope not im glad your safe though
• Ireland
18 Dec 06
Thank you. I'm glad it's never happened to you.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
18 Dec 06
That is a scary story. No I never had anything like that happen. so I should be thankful. I wasnt go to respond to this discussion because I didnt have any stories about being stalked. But I started reading and found it really scary. You are lucky he wasnt waiting for you. Thank goodness everything turned out OK.
• Ireland
18 Dec 06
Thank you. Well luckily I was always in very public places. The train station that I left from, and the one I arrived at were extremely busy, and the train was always full.
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@momoside (35)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I was stalked and never knew it. Now that is scary. While I was in High School, this guy used to follow me home. Finally, years later, I met one of his friends and she told me that her friend always followed me home but never talked to me.
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• Ireland
18 Dec 06
Now that's wierd. Maybe he fancied you and was just too shy to talk to you.
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• United States
18 Dec 06
girls have stalked me back in high school, but it's no big deal
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• Ireland
18 Dec 06
Maybe not so scary being stalked in school. I remember we used to brag about it.
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@aettouss (58)
• France
17 Dec 06
You must try this 2 possibilities : You talk to him like you are interesting in his poor life and you try to know his name, then you call his wife and you tell her what his husband makes you or you tell him that if he don't let you in peace you will call police next time.
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• Ireland
18 Dec 06
Interesting advice. I'd certainly love the wife to know what her husband had been doing. He was such a creepy man.
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@BigDeal (19)
• India
18 Dec 06
Stalking is the worst thing that could happen to anybody. I have been stalked sometimes for a whole day. Few men have no job somedays, so they just follow anybody that think wont react to their acts and remarks. Earlier, I used to sit quietly when somebody starts talking unnecessarily. But one day I shouted at one person so loudly at a crowded place that the stalker felt embarassed and stopped his past time activity.Such people enjoy the very sight of poor women getting harassed. The best way to retaliate such nuisances of society is to appear strong and bold enough to retaliate and shout. When we travel in public transport, we know that we need not talk and be friends with anybody unless and untill we know them already. Unwelcome people should me made to realize that nobody is ready to listen to the silly talk. Women are always thought to be soft targets.Keep pepper spray always with you.When you show yourself bold, boldness would come to you automatically.
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@serenetee (380)
• Singapore
18 Dec 06
I was returning home from school when a guy with tattoos followed me into the elevator and told me he had observed me for quite a while from my bus-stop and wanted to befriend me. I was scared he might harm me if I rejected him so I gave him a fake contact number. At my floor landing, I turned to the opposite direction from where I stayed and waved him goodbye. From then, I alighted at different bus-stops and returned at different time each day to avoid meeting him again. It was a hair-raising experience.
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• Ireland
18 Dec 06
That was creepy. :o
@ozangel82 (754)
• Australia
18 Dec 06
That is a bit freaky! I would have told him I am not interested, and if he kept staring my favourite quote to a starer is 'what, did you just get eyes for christmas or something' lol. But sometimes freaks can be persistant.
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• Ireland
18 Dec 06
LOL! That's very good. I must remember that one.
@caribe (2465)
• United States
18 Dec 06
Yes, as a teenager I was stalked and it was the scariest experience I had as a teenager. Right now my husband and I are being stalked by a woman. It is mainly my husband being stalked. It is a little different from my teen experience but it is still very dangerous because you are never quite sure what the stalker is going to do. I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone, except perhaps the stalker. They should have to experience it themselves.
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• United States
18 Dec 06
Yes I've been stalked by 3 different men one of them was my exhusband never ever want to go through that again
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• United States
18 Dec 06
i cant say that ive ever been stalked. i had a girl in band with me who was OBSESSED with me. she used to write xanga entrys about me and stuff..but she didnt follow me around or anything.
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• United States
18 Dec 06
I have had this problem at work and in my personal life. THe first time was when I was in college, and they guy stalked from across the country. TO weird. I did everything I could to stop him, and he finally got the idea. The second time was at work, and I went to my supervisor and the guy was transferred to another division at another hotel. I eventually left the job, too, but had nothing to do with that guy. Some guys just can't take no. Some others do not understand that to be a friend with a woman does not mean you have permission to be with them every second of the day. I had a life outside of their friendship, and they couldn't get that. TOo strange.
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• Philippines
18 Dec 06
Never had experienced it personally, but I was asked by a friend to accompany her from time to time so that her stalker wont bother her that much... she would ask our help and never goes home alone... at least thats what she did and it worked out. maybe its was not as bad as your experience. why not tell the police...
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@calvin222 (1607)
• India
18 Dec 06
No. actually in the place i live its the women who get stalked and oogled at. sad but true.
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@rubypatson (1842)
• India
18 Dec 06
You did the right thing, its better to avoid them purposfully or they can be very persistant, and we cannot take the risk with strangers
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