Children!!!do you really need them!!!!??

Child----No!!No!! - Child----No!!No!!
India
December 18, 2006 9:53am CST
Guys, do we really need children in today's world were we struggle all our life for our kids trying to fulfill almost all their wishes. we sometimes not buy for our ownselves and sacrfice our own wishes for them so that they can be happy. When the kid is grown up, he manages to complete his studies, get a job, earn good money and then finally get married........and then we are like no one for them and they start treating us like aliens. I would prefer to give that much of love to my beloved for those precious years rather wasting them on kids...
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@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I think having children is the most awesome experience a woman can have. It is like a miracle! To have children would be to not have life. Without children how can the world go on. What a selfish thought to not want to do for your children but instead keep it all for yourself. I would have had a dozen children if I had been able. I was only blessed with one and because of him he made my reason for being here on earth complete!I lOVE giving to him today, yes he is grown, he has moved to another country, he is married, but my LOVE for him is just as strong as when he was here. Maybe I am lucky, he never forgets me and is always wanting to talk to me. I do not expect him to cater to me or really expect antyhing from him other than be happy and have a good life.
• India
19 Dec 06
i do agree to your response and also respect it, wmg. but may be you are the lucky mom who got a blessed child. there are around thousands of parents in this world who are away from their kids and it is THEIR kids who have sent them to the old age home. TRY visiting any old age home and you will come to know many parents who are spending their lives in the dark corridor.....ask them that you wan to have one more kid, they answer they will give is .........NO, try to get a pet instead!!!!
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@Irecapat (40)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I can't help but to think that you are a very selfish person. From all the reasons you pointed out why wouldn't you want to give to your child. And hello, if we had no children then there would be no population. Were you spoiled growing up? Who care if the child grows up and married and then don't talk to you as much. If you raised them correctly they will talk to you whenever and a lot more. But just like you, they have their own lives. And now that they are grown you can do a lot more with your time. As they grew up so do you. I think you're a selfish person and maybe you don't deserve any children because you might be a bad mother with mentality about children that you have.
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• United States
18 Dec 06
I agree with you on this.It is a very selish and spoiled thought and if their were no kids we all wouldnt exist.
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@BunGirl (2639)
• United States
18 Dec 06
You do realize that if everyone followed your advice, it would mean the end of humanity, right? What a ridiculous thing to propose!
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• Philippines
19 Dec 06
it does sound very selfish to me, especially coming from someone who used to be a kid herself. kids are real blessings, they destress me, they make me laugh, they motivate me to live. i kids, even though i don't have any of mine.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
24 Dec 06
i agree, our kids r the future!
@sunshinecup (7880)
18 Dec 06
I do! I see nothing but an abundance of wonderful things from our children. I love them and if it was not for the lack of money, I'd have 10 of them. Of course I can't love them enough and they me. I can't see them treating me like an alien, of course I would never regret having them or loving them like I do because they grow up and move on.
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• Germany
18 Dec 06
But try, if you want 10, to have some of them twins. My experience was, that twins are less than double the trouble and more than twice the pleasure.
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• Germany
18 Dec 06
Yes, we need children. (From my Christian point of view) Couples´ mission in life is, to implement new souls into new bodies and improve their own souls until they are mature for eternity. So .... not having children means, to skip half of the mission in life; and the other part, meaning the couples´ souls´ improvement, mostly is delayed when they instead of having children just want tp enjoy their lives. By the way: Isn´t really bad, if children learn that parents´ funds are limited. I have four children, and I couldn´t fulfill all their wishes. And wasn´t a bad thing this.
@brendalee (6083)
• United States
18 Dec 06
Its just a matter of opinion whether or not you want kids. I don't know where I would be now if I didn't have my son. I could have easily went down the wrong path without having him to take care of. I believe he saved me but everyone is different and there is nothing wrong with not wanting kids.
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• United States
19 Dec 06
i also agree before i got pregnant with my son i was out all hours of the nite drinking all the time me and my husband were having problems becasue of the way i was acting..now with my son here who is 2 now i dont drink anymore i stay home do things that kids like to do which i love doing also (gives me an excuse) without my son today i KNOW i would be going down the wrong path
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• United States
18 Dec 06
Of course we need children. Children grow up and leave thats what they do. We have them and take care of and try our best to raise them right.Then we set them free to be their own person its the circle of life. Sometimes it is hard but none of us would be here with kids.We ALL were once children.But if its a personal choice as to wether you wanna have kids. I have 2 of my own and sometimes its hard especially with my son he is a hand full but I wont change having them for the world
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@maumbi (2571)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 06
yes.coz why child or our kida is next generation of earth not for u or for anyone but for human being.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
19 Dec 06
well i think it cool to have kids say one and at most two, come to think of it if your parents had these thoughts that you're having before they gave birth to you, i wonder if you would have existed. think about it.
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• Pakistan
19 Dec 06
eexactly!! i agree with u... hope u earn more!!:)
19 Dec 06
if our parents having the same thinking that not to have kids,it is wasting time and all,then we would'nt be here to write anything in mylot.kids are the precious gift on earth,after having kid life looks nothing with out kid.
• India
18 Dec 06
I don't think it is a right decision. What if your parents also thought like that? You wont be here in this world. If everyone in this world thinks as you thought then this world would be inhabited by animals and plants and no humans. Can you think of such situation? Rather than a personal affair giving birth to a child is a mean to balance the ecological system. What you said above is right. Our children would grow up, gets educated, gets a job. But i don't think every child treats their parents like aliens. May be there are some. But not all. This is what this world is. You should follow its rules to survive.
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@serpico (209)
• Brazil
18 Dec 06
you need money to have children
• United States
18 Dec 06
good point.
@Danielu (599)
• Romania
25 Dec 06
yes ! Why don`t you want to have kids. What happened if your parents didn`t want to make kids. You weren`t . So why losing this opportunities?
@puma_nz (1001)
• New Zealand
24 Dec 06
Yep.. We do.. well I do.. My Children dont have to know what I go through to make sure they're ok as long as they know that I love them thats more important. Without kids there'd be nothing left of this world.. Kids are awesome.
• Philippines
23 Dec 06
i think all parents would like to fullfill their child's wishes but not to the extent that you will forget what you want for yourself,,,
• India
20 Dec 06
I agree with what you have said.....i have a baby and trust me i had one because conventionally its the right thing to do...but lots of my friends are still undecided and i respect ther feelings completely.
@chiquitita (1227)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
I know to have children we need to be financially and mentaly ready. But still I want kids so bad. It's about how you educate them. Not all kids are rebel or naughty. If you know how to handle them, I am sure that they'll be the kids you are being proud of. Cheers!
• United Arab Emirates
19 Dec 06
i love children..........thy are the most beautifull gift one can ever have....
• Portugal
19 Dec 06
Are you insane?you could not be normal!!!!if all the people think link you, you wouldnt be here!moroun!
@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
19 Dec 06
I need them now in order to taking care of me in the future. We don't need them be born when we are no ready t have. We like to have them that they make us happier than living alone. The kids are our last left resource. They are evidence from parents. That make parents tier.