Have you ever had a best friend mistreat the friendship? lets hear about it.
@angel_manders (912)
Canada
December 18, 2006 12:37pm CST
i have my best friend decided that she would go out with my older brother no matter how i felt about it. they both new that i was very uncomfortable with that idea becasue i knew how things change and how my brothers g/f treat me, and how i treat them. then when they started going out they didnt even tell me and just did it behind my back. thaat really upset me it was like taking a dagger and shoving it into my back. especially when i have been best friends with this girl for like 10 years and backed her up on everything. even when she was pregnant and didnt want anyone to knoe about it i just left her alone. well and this is how i found out we were going out for supper. me her and my grandma,my aunt and my cousins, when her cell phone rang and my little cousin was like hey Manderz thats Jerjer ashleys boyfriend. well lets say supper was really strange. the next day i went home from where i was staying at my grandma's bout 45 min drive home and never went back because of all this started problems with her saying how she thought they were ment together and all. i was very upset and still sorta am becasue its christmas time and my grandma or any family from that area dont have nothing to do with me.
so i told you my story let me hear yours
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@mfrancq (1806)
• United States
18 Dec 06
Yes, my supposed "best friend" after ten years of friendship! I never noticed before how she always called me when she needed something. "hey, lets go shopping" turned into..."hey can you buy me this?" once we got there. Or, "hey, lets go to applebees to eat!" turned into, "Oh, I just needed a ride..all my friends are over there...see you later." It always hurt my feelings, but I just kept doing it. The friendship wasn't always like that...it just turned into that after two or three years. Then, just recently, she got married and had a little boy. Now, that she has a family..she doesn't need me. Her parents couldn't afford to give her a baby shower so I did...I didn't even get a thank you...or a thanks card in the mail. Nothing. Haven't heard from her since. And, I spent several hundred dollars for that. Not only for the party, but the gifts as well. I'm so done with it. I refuse to be treated badly just because she knows I'm giving and would do anything for anyone.
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@angel_manders (912)
• Canada
18 Dec 06
wow thats mean. how can people just not care and say thank you.
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@kawillow74 (1416)
• United States
19 Dec 06
Well I don't think you will like mine but there is alway hope, My friend and I have been best friend since kindergarden and about the age of 15 her brother basicaly just had a fling here and there well then feeling came and we started going out she had know promblem when she found out we did not hide it from her. Here we are 17 years later her brother and I been together since I was 15. We have been together little over 16 years and married 12 we have 2 boys 15 and 13 and we are still best of friends, give it a chance it might not be all to bad. I wish you luck. I would have been upset to loose her as my friend.
@angel_manders (912)
• Canada
19 Dec 06
yea but at least you told her about it. my best friend didnt tell me and my little cousin did. then all my family got mad at me casue i was upset that they kept it a secret. i dont think i would have been mad if they would have told me because i was the godmother to her child.
@rubypatson (1841)
• India
18 Dec 06
I am sorry, i always had very good friends, and my best friend she is always there for me, when i am sad she goes all out to cheer me up, takes the best care of me, she stood by me when i had no one to turn to, she is the best person under the sun i will always love her for the kind of person she is
@ineedaname (957)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I had one get mad because I wasn't spending the time she thought I should with her. So she turned it into a big mess and we only talk now when we have to. When our kids need us to. I am still very upset about it. My hubby told me to just move on but I am not good at that.
@perfectkiller (341)
• Pakistan
18 Dec 06
oh yeh many times the best friend mistreats u the most coz he knows ur weak points and wen he decides to go against its really dangrous
@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
18 Dec 06
Oh i've been here.
I've had TWO of my so-called friends marry TWO of my exs...not cool.
The first time I was hurt, badly. The second time I didn't care
@neon2000 (2756)
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
Yes. Bestfriends are always mistreating each other. Sometimes, because they are buddies, they use each other for their own advantage. I do not like this, I am frank and tell them it's not right. You are my bestfriend yes, but it does not mean you have to use me for your own whim.
@vipul20044 (5794)
• India
19 Dec 06
Well buddy i dont have a story but then i can prolly say there isnt much you can do
What can you leave her friendship? Leave your brother leave the world! NO
Your brother must be sensible enough he knows whats right and whats wrong for him no
But then try and talk to him maybe it will help
@calvin222 (1606)
• India
18 Dec 06
No, all my good friends continue to be good friends. i dont make friends with people who will be bad to me. afterall whats the point of making friends with someone who is not a nice person. thats why they say choose your friends with care.
@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
19 Dec 06
hmmm. i had my best friend who used to use my name for freaing out wih guys and even tried getting boy friends using my name.!!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
19 Dec 06
I do not think that a real friend would do like this. i would never date one of my friends brother - just because i value friendships so much more, and especially if they were against it, then i would not even think about it for a secound.
If they break up in a nasty way you might have to take sides and that is not fun at all.
I think you should have a real talk with both your friend and your brother and tell them how u feel. If they do not respect you enough, it is their problem in the end!
Ask your brother if it is ok for u to date his best friend and choose one that u know he will not like :-)
@angel_manders (912)
• Canada
19 Dec 06
i have talked to them both but unfortunately instead of solving anything they just told me it didnt matter what i thought i was just a stupid biotch. i asked my brother what he would do if i dated his best friend and all he came out with is he wouldnt date you, your fat stupid and ugly. so it didnt really work either. yup now its almost been a year and idk if there together or not, but i dont care anymore casue i just want my normal family back.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
Well, there are people who would sacrifice the friendship just to get what she wants. I had my experience too. But this is of different one. I had thisfriend of mine for five years, helping her out fom her school projects, to graduation thesis and even up to her first employment, I was the one who took the exams, see! When we both have our job, she knows I have a boyfriend but a long distance type of relationship we have then. when he comes home, she invited the two of us to go out of town. I didn't know that at my back, she's getting my boyfriend's attention, simply, she's flirting. When things got worse, she told me, that my boyfriend is a trash because he was attracted to her also. What a friend, stabbing at my back. I trashed them both.
@selva_only4u (116)
• India
19 Dec 06
all my friends are so good to me...htey care abt my feelings and they are the best in the world.... a friend who doesn't care abt ur feelings cannot be ur.....the fellow in ur life cannot be ur friend
@pure_soul (21)
• United States
19 Dec 06
well....i guess things happen...and ur best friends become ur worst enemies....mybest friend was my friend for like....15years....but then we started to have these misunderstandings building up coz of this new girl she made friends with...i tried to clear up things so i just went to her and asked her to just talk it over and everything will be ok but she was like am sorry am busy i don't have time right now....and that was really really rude....i didn't say much but i just told her that...sweety am so sure one day u will come to me and that day.....i wont have time just like u don't have time now....and the good thing....she came back coz her mom was interested in my brother for her eldest daughter so i didn't pay my attantion to it as i knew my best friend was not intereted in becoming friends again either....so we kind of just stayed back.....we still meet coz we have to but we don't talk we don't even look at each other:).....i just learned from this that u know what....u should love anyone this much....coz love really hurts....
@Akeela (2078)
• Trinidad And Tobago
19 Dec 06
Yeah a few one didnt come to my wedding and she made up a dumb excuse and was always trying never wanted to help until she realise that i didnt need her help agin and for other reason growing up. The other lied and made up stories for my husband and I to break up it was so believable it it broke some isolation between us, but we are stronger beacuse we have to also prove them wrong we love each and F%$k the british. lol
@gau_veldt (63)
• Canada
19 Dec 06
Oh yeah one of my former best friends was a real digger for things to get me upset. I didn't realize it at first but over time his jokes (one of his favorites was about throwing me in front of the moving bus to make it stop) got less and less funny to the point where they were infuriating. Another friend who is friends with both wants me to make amends and try and rekindle the friendship by I'm not sure I can take the jokes that are no longer funny and his attitude towards stuff. He's not a very honest person until pushed in a corner and then he would just get really upset about it. It just wasn't going to remain a friendship in those circumstances.
@paravai (25)
• India
19 Dec 06
USUALY PEOPLE START FRIENDSHIP OTHERS AFTER THAT THEY START TO STUDY THE CHARACTER OF FRIEND.SO, FIRST STUDY THE PEOPLE CHARACTER AND GO FOR FRIENDSHIP.AND EVERY RELATIONSHIP HAVE BOUNDRIES.AND TO BE HONEST ALSO.THIS IS SUCEESFULL WAY.OTHERWISE U HAVE TO CRY.
