I like this girl so much...but she has me confused about if she likes me or not.

Philippines
December 19, 2006 9:09pm CST
Okay, i just want to show this girl how much I care about her, but she just keeps telling me that she wants to become really good friends, first. So do i, but I want to show her that I care. How can I tell if she's interested or if all she wants is a friend. I've been as sweet as I can to her, and she never gives me a hint about if she likes me or not. What is she doing? Is she even interested in me or is she just playing me?
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@muntaha (376)
• Bangladesh
20 Dec 06
if you love someone set her free...if she comes back she is yours...if she doesnt, she was never yours
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• India
20 Dec 06
its d best comment
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
20 Dec 06
The word friend is not always a warning. I married my best friend. He hit on me for a year and I let the hits slide off. I wanted to get to know him better. Take it a day at a time. How long have you known her? If you known her awhile why don't you take her to coffee of dinner sometimes or a walk and have a talk with her letting her know how you feel
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• Philippines
20 Dec 06
ok i'll try that =)
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
20 Dec 06
First of all, I'd like to say I agree with what Tanya8 (above) said. Also, maintain your friendship, continue being sweet to her, but don't make yourself totally available to her. If you are always there, and around, she hasn't got time to think about missing you being around. See other girls, have a date, show her that you are interesting to others. I think that the best relationships come from being friends first, and you never know, the romance part could possibly develop from that. Unrequited love is hard to deal with no matter what age you are. Keep being you, but don't wear your heart on your sleeve since you've already mentioned that you want more. Be patient, be kind, but most of all continue to show her you are a wonderful guy. She may not give you any hints because she's not sure herself if she's interested or not (romantically speaking), hard to tell, but I don't think she's playing you, but wants you for a friend. My current boyfriend...I only wanted him for a friend too...but he continued on as a friend, right up until I fell for him and we're still friends, and we've been dating ever since. (so you see, that kind of tack actually does work, lol) Good luck:-) First of all, I'd like to say I agree with what Tanya8 (above) said. Also, maintain your friendship, continue being sweet to her, but don't make yourself totally available to her. If you are always there, and around, she hasn't got time to think about missing you being around. See other girls, have a date, show her that you are interesting to others. I think that the best relationships come from being friends first, and you never know, the romance part could possibly develop from that. Unrequited love is hard to deal with no matter what age you are. Keep being you, but don't wear your heart on your sleeve since you've already mentioned that you want more. Be patient, be kind, but most of all continue to show her you are a wonderful guy. She may not give you any hints because she's not sure herself if she's interested or not (romantically speaking), hard to tell, but I don't think she's playing you, but wants you for a friend. My current boyfriend...I only wanted him for a friend too...but he continued on as a friend, right up until I fell for him and we're still friends, and we've been dating ever since. (so you see, that kind of tack actually does work, lol) Good luck:-)
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
thank you.
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@Tanya8 (1733)
• Canada
20 Dec 06
I'm sorry to say this; I don't think she's playing you necessarily, but the word "friends" is usually a warning that a girl is not interested in anything romantic. I would encourage you to remain friends with her, but to start considering other girls. Sometimes when a woman sees a man who had shown interest in her going after someone else, she gets a bit of a jolt, and starts to realize that she could imagine him in a romantic way. Don't plan it out as though it will definitely happen though. Good luck; it's hard to be in that situation.
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• Philippines
20 Dec 06
thanks for the advice. i'll try that.
@blakky (137)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
yeah i don't think she views you romantically at all and is using that old "let's be friends". there is nothing wrong with being friends and you may have to settle for that so don't drop what you are doing at the drop of the hate in the hopes it might lead to something with her
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• Philippines
20 Dec 06
ok thanks
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@lemar37 (201)
• United States
20 Dec 06
When a girl tells you she just wants to be friends she is saying she is not attracted to you the best thing you can do is leave her alone and find someone else. And you are doing the wrong thing by being as sweet and kind to her as you can, if you ever remember in school how the bad boys were the ones that would get the girls you have to stop chasing her and if she want to have that kind of relationship with you let her come to you.
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
hmmm intresting. thanks
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
20 Dec 06
Sorry, but the girl said it clearly but in a way not to hurt you. She said that she wants to be with you very good friends. It is always impossible from really good friends to turn into love partners.
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
sigh...
@Hareesh (104)
• India
20 Dec 06
Take her out for a walk & get her a coffee & let her relaxly open her mind to u.
• India
20 Dec 06
I think she is just playing with you
@jurekz (360)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
please don't kiss me :p :D
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
sigh
@jasprem (17)
• India
20 Dec 06
Most of the girls nowadays play with guys who shows care on them.So dont waste time by showing care to her.This is not my advise but this is my experience.
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
noted. =)
@Chiriac (286)
• Romania
20 Dec 06
Man you sound alot like my problem. weird, almost the same.
@snakeyes (569)
• India
20 Dec 06
I think that she is just wanting to be friends with you and not romantically engaged to you.In my opinion you should just try to be friends with her and not compel her to romantically involved to you.
• Egypt
20 Dec 06
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other. THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want. FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it. FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye. SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married. SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight. EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much. NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely. TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling. ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives. TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly. THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a questi on you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?" FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.. FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze. SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions. EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship. NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice. TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
• India
20 Dec 06
herez 1 u - gurl
buddy...is your story mine or mine is yours.i suggest you should go and propose her.if she says yes than its better for her otherwise u get a better one.love her but use your mind instead of your heart..and remember two things. 1.Never make a decision when ur angry 2.Never make a promise whn ur happy buddy///...\\\
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
thanks
• India
20 Dec 06
yOU BETTER CONSIDER HER AS YOUR BEST FRIEND...THATS GOOD..THEN THERE WILL BE NO PROBLEMS..."DONT MARRY A GIRL WHO YOU LOVES BUT MARRY A GIRL WHO LOVES YOU"...THATS IT..OK...SO SOON YOU WILL SURELY FIND A HEART THAT CARES 4 U..........
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
thanks.. :)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 06
u r just like a friend of mine who is my best friend..he really cares about me n so do i..we've never declared anything about our relationship.if that girl is somewhat 'like' u,she'll act a bit shy or maybe u can tell that she's very happy when u r by her side.that may be the hint she shows u but u can't see it.generally,a girl will not play with someone's feeling when she really like that guy,but not all of course.i'm not telling girls r good lovers but generally we r..as for me,i never lied to my best friend.the first time i told him that i had found someone special in my life,he acted a bit weird n he is sad i guess,after that he can accept my choice n we still be a good friend.one thing i can advise u is,whenever u like someone,u've to let her happy in her own way.if she is urs,she'll come to u..but if it is otherwise,just let her go..
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
=) sigh
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
love bear - love bear
its hurt to love someone who doesnt love you, but however you have to try harder to pursue ur love until u feel enough is enough.actually when a girl say "friend" thats mean she only likes u as a friend,but there's still a chance though.if you really like her then show her how much u care for her,give her a wonderful attention and acts, there's nothing imposible in this situation,if its really not working then u have to find someone else
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
ok i'll do that
@thanmeir (141)
• Indonesia
21 Dec 06
ohh... I think your girl challenge you, she want to know you, are you really love her ??? and thats your job, to make her believe if you are really love her, good luck
@pclloh (248)
• Brazil
21 Dec 06
Give her a ultimate about it. You canĀ“t still in this situation!
@rayzaq (44)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
I think so you must tell her about you'r felling as soon as possiblle.than you will know more faster if she want to be you'r girlfriend or only just a friend.
@isha900 (1459)
• India
20 Dec 06
yes u should do this
• China
21 Dec 06
do you want to marry her?if the answer is no,then its just an ordinary infatuation,its not real
@dorment (11)
• Canada
20 Dec 06
Welcome to the world wide wondering if a girl is interested in you. It can be the most frustrating yet most enjoyable time of getting to know someone. I have been in the same situation as you and by the sounds of it, she is really telling you that you may be moving to fast and...or...she may be trying to buy herself a little more time to get to know if you are the person she thinks you may be. PATIENCE brother. If you can show her patience now and show her that you can be a best friend before a boyfriend and she won't want to pass you by. You'll be that one in a million kind of guy.
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
hehhe