my friends mom took her phone away

Canada
December 20, 2006 9:56am CST
I was at my friend Naomi's house this morning and Naomi and her mom were yelling at each other because her mom took her cell phone away just because she had a really big bill. My friend met a guy at a party and he lives somewhere in a differnt city and they tlak on the phone all the time adn so when the bill came it was a lot of money and her mom took the phone away and said she cant have it back until she gets a job and pays her back. So she cant talk to this guy only a little bit because her dad yells at her if she stays on the house phone too late and her little sister listens in and so she never gets to talk to this guy and she really really likes him. So they were yelling at each other adn Naomi says her mom just did it because she doesnt want her to have a bf. What do you think do you think her mom is being unreasonable if she really likes this guy and now she cant talk to him he mite forget about her and not want to be her bf any more.
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@sunnypub (2130)
• United States
20 Dec 06
If that was my daughter I would take the phone away also. It has nothing to do with her not wanting her daughter to have a boyfriend. It has to do with responsiblility and knowing how many minutes you have on your cell phone and not going over them. Once you go over the minutes it starts costing a lot of money and if the kid doesn;t have a job to pay for it then they should lose it. We are going through the same thing here. My neice has gone over her minutes and owes like $400. She does not have a job and connot afford to pay the bill. It was her and her friends who used the minutes and got the bill that hi, so why should her mom have to bail her out and pay $400 just do she can over use again next month. Besides that my sister cannot afford to pay $400 cell phone bills. If your friend really wants to keep the phone and talk to this guy then maybe she can ask him to help pay the bill. Or better yet, do what her mom said and get a job so she can suppot the phone herself. The mom is right in this case, in my opinion. Your friend needs to learn responsibility. This really has nothing to do with the mom not wanting her daughter to not have a boyfriend. Believe it or not, there are more important things in life than having a boyfriend and it is a mom's job to try and teach that to their children.
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• Philippines
21 Dec 06
my sentiments, exactly. her mom is not being reasonable, she's just doing the right thing. for someone who doesn't have a job and depends on her parents for support, including paying her phone bills, i believe she deserves that her mom took her phone away. that should teach her some responsibility, and the value of hard work and money.
@emarie (5451)
• United States
20 Dec 06
i think your friend is over-reacting. the mom wants her daughter to learn responsibility. i think if your friend was paying for the phone herself, then there would be no problem, but the mom is paying for it. of course she would have a problem paying a huge bill. when i was a teen, my sister paid my phone bills. i used to let everyone use my phone when they needed to and that ran the bill up like crazy. i got into an argument with my sister as well. but i also understood what she was feeling. parents are not made of money and having a phone is a BIG responsibility. if your friend wants a cell so badly, tell her to go and get her own, she can get a pre-paid phone, like Boost Mobile, hey even t-mobile has pre paid minutes. if its her phone, then her mother shouldn't have a problem. but your friend should get a job and pay her mother back, thats the least she can do..
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@shooie (4985)
• United States
20 Dec 06
well said well said. Verizon also has a prepay plan as well and you just add minutes.
@jimbl75 (152)
• United States
20 Dec 06
What's the issue here? The mom did the right thing. She's trying to teach her daughter that money doesn't grow on trees, and that there is more to life then talking to this guy, including paying bills. If she wants to ring up the bill like that, she needs to get a job and pay it herself. Sounds like a perfectly good solution to the problem. Jim
@rawpoet (2047)
• United States
20 Dec 06
Nicely said!
• India
20 Dec 06
In one way what her mother did is wrong because though she takes away her daughter's phone there are other ways her daughter getting spoil.......she may lie to her parents and move out with that guy......she may follow other ways to deceive her parents.........so her mother should not hav done this that is yelling at her daughter......she may have talk with her daughter and sorted out the problem......she should not only care about her daughter's phone bill but also about her daughter...... In other way your friend Naomi is also wrong because she is sure that she likes that guy very much but she is not sure about the guy.......if he cant wait for her and there are chances of leaving her if she wontspeak to him then she should not believe him.......
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• United States
20 Dec 06
Talking and sorting it out? Puhleeze. This kid is too immature to realize that running up a big phone bill is wrong, she is too immature to have an adult discussion about proper behavior. You don't reason with an unreasonable person. If mom had "talked" to her and let her keep the phone, the kid would have said all the right things (Yes, mom, it was wrong, yes, mom, I will be more careful in the future) and next month's bill would have been just as high. This kid puts talking to her boyfriend over being responsible. Taking the phone away was the only thing. And parents yell because their kids drive them nuts. When you are a parent, you will understand this.
@Trace86 (5033)
• United States
20 Dec 06
Her Mom isn't trying to ruin her social life. She just wants her to learn responsibility for her actions. 400 bucks is alot for a phone bill. I nearly had a stroke when my cell phone bill was over 700 one time. We got my stepson one of those prepaid cellphones and a bunch of minutes. We told him that when he was out of minutes, he was out of luck unless he had the money to buy more. Imagine what life was like for teenage girls before the invention of the cellphone!
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
20 Dec 06
her mom was right, if she was paying the bill then thats a different story. but as her mom is the one fitting the bill she has not right to get mad with her. she need to work with her mom an come to a deal about the phone.
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@NettieMae (186)
• United States
20 Dec 06
If this guy really likes her, he should figure out a way to pay the mom's phone bill!
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@Sunset50 (1397)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I think your friend is very immature. The first responsibility of an adult is to pay their own bills. The guy can call her if he is really that interested. Not only would I have taken the phone, I would not give it back and I would insist she pay the bill herself. Why does she feel she can be independent and do what she wants when she still expects her mother to pay her way? Your friend needs to see what life is really like and that starts with facing your own responsibilities.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I think her mother is being fair.If your friend is old enough to work then,maybe she needs to find a part time job to help pay the bill.It's called responsiblity
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• United States
20 Dec 06
Hello, those things cost money. If you are not responsible enough to realize this and think talking to your boyfriend is more important than paying your bills, you don't deserve to have one. The mother was exactly right in what she did.
@medooley (1874)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I think one of the most inportant things for this discussion is how old are you and your friend? Cellphones are a privilage and not a write. If your friend is going to run up a huge bill for them her mother should certainly take it away. The fact that she really likes the guy has absolutely no bearing on the subject. Some day I am sure that you will grow up, and have a child and you will be able to see the same kind of behavior and you will stop and think... uh, now I understand what everyone on myLot was talking about.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I couldn't agree with you more!
• United States
21 Dec 06
I certainly agree with you here. This is what it basically comes down to. One needs to understand and weigh the pros and cons of a situation. Which is more important realistically, is what they ought to ask themselves. Which will affect me dramatically in the long run? The friend needs a reality check.
@leilani47 (780)
• United States
20 Dec 06
If it was my daughter, I would have taken away the cell phone. If her daughter is old enough to have a boyfriend, she's old enough to get a job. Let her realize that money does not grow on trees!
• United States
20 Dec 06
Yes you are right in this matter. She should be more sensible not to talk to the guy too much with the expense of the mother.
• United States
20 Dec 06
Yes you are right in this matter. She should be more sensible not to talk to the guy too much with the expense of the mother.
• United States
2 Jan 07
YOU ARE NOT 22 YOU ARE MORE LIKE 12, STOP LYING TO PEOPLE AND WASTING EVERYONES TIME, READ HER POSTS PEOPLE AND YOU WILL SEE WHAT I MEAN.
• Canada
3 Jan 07
Why are you so mean to me I never did anything to you I dont know you and you are always saying meant things about me I think yuou are jealous
• Singapore
21 Dec 06
her mom will be unreasonable if naomi is the one paying for the phone bill....but it's not. if both of them really need to communicate with each other, why not ask them to use IM and webcam? that would save a lot and they can see each other too!
• United States
21 Dec 06
That's a perfect idea. IM and webcam. Cellphones are not the only tech breakthroughs nowadays. There is also email and instant messengers.
@ais_nedla (163)
• United States
20 Dec 06
uummm, your friend actually needs to get herself a job and buy herself a cell phone. because if she buys it using her own money, she can charge her mom theft. same thing actually happened to my friend...
• United States
3 Jan 07
Yeah but her mom is paying the bill on THIS cell phone. If she can pay her bill, do you honestly think she would pay for the phone itself. This girl is nothing but a thief.
@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
20 Dec 06
If the parents are paying the bill, they have the right to say who can and can't use it, and when, and how much. If she wants to get a job and pay for it, then more power to her.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
21 Dec 06
yeah i think her parents r right, they have the stick in hand and they can use it which ever way they want it!!!!
@icequeen (2841)
• Canada
20 Dec 06
I think her parents are right. It would be different if she were paying the bill...but it sounds like the parents are paying the bill? Anyway...when she is more responsible then she can talk to this guy...and help pay the bills.
• India
20 Dec 06
i too agree wid u queen...
@AskAlly (3627)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
Sorry, but I would take her phone away as well. Maybe Naomi should get a part time job after school and be responsible for her own bill. Then she could talk all she wants! As for the bf, if he really likes her maybe he could pay for her cell bill or find some other way to stay in contact like the internet.
• United States
3 Jan 07
My mom took my phone away when I went over. I think it is resonalbe, if your friend isn't paying the bill that she should be considerate of the fact that someone else is. If she was paying for it than that would be a different situation.
@jenbatres (800)
• United States
3 Jan 07
wow you posted this same exact thing on yahoo answers last month. . .same answer, her mom is not being unreasonable
• United States
3 Jan 07
she should have been more careful she deserved to have the phione taken away. she could always instant message him over the net. if he really cares a few weeks will not cause him to forget about her.