do you beleive inspanking your kids
By jessicamom24
@jessicamom24 (391)
United States
December 20, 2006 4:14pm CST
well yes i do when they are messing with things that they are not suppose too and messing with my things
5 responses
@uvbnskoold (499)
• Canada
20 Dec 06
I believe there is a difference between spanking and abusing, but some people would argue that there isn't - that spanking is abusing.
I don't. Spanking a child because they've done something wrong is the way that it's been done for a looooooong time. But we shouldn't be doing things just because that's what was done to us.
Sometimes us humans can only learn through violence against us, no matter how small that violence is, and spanking, though I do believe that it *can* be necessary sometimes is still violence.
It should only used as a last resort if multiple methods fail first. The people that automatically turn to violence when a child does something wrong aren't helping anything, they're simply perpetuating this tradition.
Personally I have only spanked my daughter 3 times and she's five, and even then it's only if she's taken a swat at me (ie. she didn't like time out and now that she has to go to her room, when I pick her up to take her there she takes a swing at me or kicks at my stomach purposefully) - warnings, time out on the stairs and a talking-to, no dessert, privileges taken away are always better ways to go, but again, sometimes it doesn't work.
It all depends on the child and the severity of the wrong-doing.
But even if the wrong-doing ends in you having to administer a spanking, remember that 1 spank is often enough and 3 is usually pushing it. I don't do it hard either, but hard enough to get my point across.
@cindyspassions (510)
• Lampe, Missouri
24 Dec 06
i agree i think kids now days need to be spanked a little more. but i also beleave there there are more then one type of abuse. like the abuse of not spanking your kids and taking responablity for them. i mean we all have been spanked at one point in our life and we are still fine. and the kids that are not getting them are out running around likd crazy fools. i say spanke them when they need it.
@whitneyX3 (217)
• United States
20 Dec 06
no. absolutely not.
i dont care what u say.
it's abuse. no matter what.
@uvbnskoold (499)
• Canada
20 Dec 06
I disagree, myself, but your opinion is your own. I feel that it *can* be abuse if it's abused (ie. doing it for every little thing that the child does wrong and/or doing it too hard or spanking the child for too long a period.
How is this any different from putting soap in their mouth? People can try and say that that's abuse, too. And they are all entitled to their opinion, but it doesn't mean that people have to agree with it.
You probably don't have any kids of your own (I'm guessing, as I don't know you personally) but if you did have kids you'd know that sometimes, depending on the situation and severity of the "crime" (as I call it - if you can't to the time, don't do the crime!) a spanking may be warranted.
@srhelmer (7029)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
20 Dec 06
I do, but only as a last resort. My daughter really has to be terrible for me to do it.
@sunshinecup (7871)
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20 Dec 06
I have spanked, but it's hardly a spank. One pat on the bottom is all it takes. I have only done this for server behavior, such as lying, not for touching my things. For that I touch theirs belongings. IMO this taught them how to respect others things much better than a spanking. It's been years since I had to do this, my oldest is 9 and my youngest 7. They are really good kids.
