Need Your Honest Opinions...

United States
December 22, 2006 5:10am CST
Hi guys, Looking for honest opinions here: If a girl likes to occassionally make out with other guys in club from time to time (nothing serious), does this mean she is cheating on her boyfriend?!
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22 responses
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
22 Dec 06
I would have to say yes it is....unless the boyfriend knows she is doin it....if she doenst think it is then she should have absolutely no trouble telling her man what went on...if she is afraid to tell him, its cheating ;-)
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• United States
22 Dec 06
So here is the real question, although I knew the first one wouldn't have everyone agreeing on one answer: Is it ok if the girl likes to makeout with other GIRLS when having fun or drunk? Is this considered cheating? I have a friend of mine whose girlfriend likes to makeout with other girls in clubs. He was ok with it in the beginning, but now he seems a bit worried and confessed to me that he feels weird and/or jealous or something, and couldn't bear it any more....Is that normal, and is she considered to be cheating on him that way? What if he asked her to stop and she kept doing it?
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• United States
26 Dec 06
She does that infront of him.... but if she is straight, should he still be in fear?... this behaviour started just recently, but is increasing through time...
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
26 Dec 06
Oh if she's doin it in front of him and he has no problems with it then I would say its not a big deal and its DEFINATELY NOT cheating...should he worry aobut it? Naw I dont think so, I'm assuming tht they are young like in their late teens early 20s type thing...she's probably just curious and if her boyfriend doesnt say anythng about it, its probably a turn on for her/him or both of them behind closed doors....
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@dan20071 (724)
• Romania
26 Dec 06
If she does that knowing that her boyfriend is aware of what she's doing it can mean a couple of things.. The first thing that comes to mind is that the girl isn't looking at the boy like at a potential soul mate and is rather just considering him as an affair and nothing more. Second, maybe the girl thinks that the boyfriend is ok with the situation if he isn't saying anything about it. If she does this in front of him, who knows what she is doing without his knowledge. A person like that can never be trusted and I would not even spend hours with her (if the guy is thinking about a serious relationship). I recommend that your friend should forget about this girl because even if he tells her to stop doing it, and even if she agrees, old habits don't die that easily. Have a nice day ^_^
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
26 Dec 06
What made you think she was just doing it to mess with his head? How does he feel about it? which is a question I should have asked earlier come to think of it LOL
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• United States
26 Dec 06
She does it mainly in clubs when having fun or when drunk, but lately it happened more frequently.... At the begining, I thought she was just trying to mess with his mind (which I think she succeeded in), but now, I seriously question her motives... Last time I personally saw her doing that, she seemed really enjoying it.... They've been together for a while, and do love each other.... don't know what happened but it seemed that he or someone else has programmed his mind that this kind of behaviour may be acceptable... don't you think it is obvious cheating?
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• United States
26 Dec 06
LOL some girls like to mess up with guys/BF's minds by making out with other girls infront of them... they know it is a turn on that's why they do it... but if she does that like once in every 3 nights out, shouldn't he be concerned.. The girl was crazy over my friend when she first met him... she also is known for doing things to impress him/entice him in the past to win him over, and she did... Now they are like the sweetest couple I've ever met.... but if this is one of her games, she's crossed some limits.... If she likes girls, she should've told him before.... He hasn't still told her he no more likes it...LOL poor him.... He is a good guy and I don't like to see him suffer....
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@Jestin (560)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
If she has a boyfriend and she makes out with other guys, she is definitely cheating! If you have a boyfriend, it's just right that you only kiss and make out with that man and not with other guys.
• United States
22 Dec 06
So here is the real question, although I knew the first one wouldn't have everyone agreeing on one answer: Is it ok if the girl likes to makeout with other GIRLS when having fun or drunk? Is this considered cheating? I have a friend of mine whose girlfriend likes to makeout with other girls in clubs. He was ok with it in the beginning, but now he seems a bit worried and confessed to me that he feels weird and/or jealous or something, and couldn't bear it any more....Is that normal, and is she considered to be cheating on him that way? What if he asked her to stop and she kept doing it?
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7 Jan 07
She is definately cheating. I consider making out with someone just as bad as sleeping with them. If my boyfriend did it to me there would be hell to pay. She can't have much respect for her boyfriend and i would definately question whether she actually wants to be with him.
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• United States
9 Jan 07
Even if he made out with a guy like him? I guess you have a point, but do you think she may not be straight anymore? Afterall, she keeps pretending that she only does it infront of him... not that we asked or something... hmmmm something gotta be done....and SOON
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• Philippines
29 Dec 06
well,i hink it's not.maybe the girl is really a party person and love to socialize with other. unless she made love to that guy, then you an say that she cheated on her BF.
• United States
4 Jan 07
As far as I know, she didn't make love to some other guy... only kissing and making out with other girls in clubs... EXCESSIVELY
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• United States
22 Dec 06
I dont think its serious, so what you like the affection of others. Your not married so your not cheating.
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• United States
7 Jan 07
Even if it were happening more frequently?
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• United States
1 May 07
It brings doubts, specially when everyone else is noticing and questioning... probably thinking the same thing.
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• India
22 Dec 06
Why we think like just it is an friendship, i accept to go.
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• United States
7 Jan 07
LOL that maybe is right.... but if you view the rest of the thread, I was asking to compare diff opinions upon something more complicated.....
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@Hamlet333 (724)
• Pakistan
29 Dec 06
yes,it is cheating.
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• United States
4 Jan 07
Even if it was with other girls and INFRONT of him all the time?
• Canada
12 May 07
This is why, the talk is so important.... I think both parties NEED to establish understanding between the lines. If one has decided they're dedicated to each other. The other hasn't, you're not a couple. A couple takes two. For her to be cheating or have a cheating heart you really have to figure out if you're a couple or not... The big question is.... Have you told yourself.. you're a couple or have the both of you said so? If one has said you're a couple, did the other feel obliged?
• United States
13 May 07
You are right, talk is important... but they ARE a couple, and it is a bit more complicated in this situation and talking frankly can cause some undesired results! Why? If you read my second reply, the girl is making out with GIRLS and making a habbit out of it! It was kindda ok for the first weeks, but then HELLLOOOOOO! This gotta stop at some level instead of escalating! My friend is very disturbed now (after liking it the first week).... jealousy? Don't know, but definitly uncomfortable feeling and situations... At mean time, she is doing it less frequently, but there is still that "?" in our heads.
• United States
30 May 07
She has a boyfriend. What she is doing is definitely cheating. She has no business doing this. How would she react if she caught him doing the same thing. I am sure all hey would break loose. If she doesn't want to go with a boyfriend than she should just tell him so she would be free to play the field as the saying goes. It sounds to me like she is not ready to be tied down with just one person. The other person could end up being hurt badly.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
I think it will eventually cause troubles... We guys sometimes like it (two girls making out). We play with it and push it a bit further sometimes, but guess what? apparently it causes loads of discomfort after a while. Oh well, live and learn! LOL!
• United States
4 Jun 07
P.S. How did you get to post two comments/replies in a row?!
• United States
30 May 07
It doesn't matter if she is doing this with a guy or another girl. She is still cheating. The results end up the same.
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
30 May 07
Yep, I think that is definatly cheating, and if my hubby did it, I would be livid and there would be no question in my mind that he was cheating. I wouldnt be happy at all. So my opinion is yes.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Thanks for your reply. Apparently girls don't get turned on with two guys making out as much as we do with girls. ;)
• United States
25 May 07
Making out with another guy in a club if you already have a boyfriend IS serious. Yes, it's cheating. If you're in a relationship, it should be monogamous. Anything less is disrespectful to the partner you're with.
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• United States
30 May 07
Ok..the girl is actually making out with other girls.... read my second response... do you think it is serious or no big deal?
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• United States
30 May 07
I do think it's still a serious thing. I can't imagine why a person who is in a valid, committed, loving, caring relationship would need or want to seek fulfillment from another person (unless there was a mutual participation agreement amongst all three, which is a completely separate discussion). Cheating is cheating, in my book. Boy/boy; girl/girl; boy/girl. It is what it is.
@jalbeos (1175)
• Philippines
5 May 07
You said, "nothings serious", therefore, it is not cheating. Yeah, it brings doubts and communication with openness is the best element here.
• United States
5 May 07
I wish it was as simple as that. If you read my second post, you'll know that the real problem is that she is making out with girls, on a consitant basis.
• United States
6 May 07
That's right! Girls VS Girls.. but why isn't it considered cheating? For me, I don't think I'll mind it happening to me...F***, i'll even set them up if they want to! but after I saw my friend's reaction after some time passed, I do think it'll trigger some sort of uncomfortability! Don't know if it's jealousy too, but definitly uncomfortable situations to witness.
@jalbeos (1175)
• Philippines
5 May 07
SHE is making out with GIRLS, I mean girls versus girls? Where's cheating here? They're are all girls right? Well, that is what you've said.
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4 Jun 07
Hi there, Hell yes!!!!! your girlfriend doing it with some one else of coruse she cheating on her boyfriend and its so wrong i dont belive in cheating never have and never will,cant understand why people do that dont they relise the people they are hurting.
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• United States
23 Jun 07
They do it to experience new things, thinking and hoping that their partner wouldn't find out... but then they regret it...;)
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
15 May 07
There's always the risk.... i would say 50/50.... how much do you trust her? There's girls that prefer to hang out with boys rather them girls, mainlly because of the kind of talkings. I dont like much girls talking and never hade girls as friend, on the contrary im more used to talk with men, with them i can talk more about news, international events, facts and not only about family and children. Maybe this is the reason, yr girl dont like girls talkings or ways of having fun.
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• United States
25 May 07
Yeah ;)... there are girls who enjoy guys talk (my type), but could this make her want to makeout with other girls? She is making it a hobby!
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
10 Jan 07
well you know, kissing and stuff is really just a nice thing to do and actually a wonderful way to express a loving feeling for somone. Its so nice to kiss, hug touch etc. Might as well do while you are free and younger. But then obviously there are feelings involved in relationships, so somebody can get hurt if they think they are in a committed relatioship with someone. So the thing is to KNOW if you and your partner are in committed relationships with each other or not... no matter whether there is extra-curricular kissing and touching going on. for me, i dont really mind if my past g/friends kissed other guys, as long as she was sincere and just playing around on her own fun time. and as long she was not just doing it to mess with me. But for the most part gf and bf want to be together with each other.
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• United States
10 Jan 07
Guess you are right... but our prob is that this girl made it a habit to makeout with other girls in clubs whenever she is out....
@AskAlly (3625)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
Sorry that's cheating in my books. If she wants to act that way she should stay single. I think that a trust has been broken if that happens in a relationship. I can't see how you can say this is nothing serious! My husband would carry me out over his shoulder. I would never dream of making out with another guy if my husband was there or not. I certainly would not be able to look him in the eye once I got home. Call me old fashioned if you like. That's my take on it.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
I don't think you are old fashioned. But we were talking about when in drunken states... Also you didn't provide your input to the real problem here... hope you read the real-life situation that is happening to my friend: His GF is making it a habit of making out with other girls right infront of him, when in clubs... is that considered cheating. Also an update: she also recently asked him jokingly whether he likes threesomes or not! coincidence?
@ygautam (135)
• India
31 May 07
If the guy is also not serious, it is a good company.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
At last! you are right bro! (I just hope you are a guy)... finally someone who sees the true beauty of it, except for one thing: The guy IS serious..... so is she as I now suspect... she is just playing some kind of a twisted game on him, for something he did in the past.
@bornraf (228)
• United States
30 May 07
she is a cheater
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Yes Soldier!
• China
4 May 07
we can't say she was cheat on her boyfriend immediately,because we don't kown what to do make out with other guys.if she didn't has normal profession's need and then make out with other guys,it's cheat.
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• United States
5 May 07
She is making out with GIRLS now! Read my second post.