Should a couple that has a child remain together for the childs sake?

most deffenatly not it will effect your child more if they become old enough to know that you guys are fighting. and if you wait youll end up resenting your girlfriend rather than just not doing well

If the child sees you fight, if you and your girlfriend are unhappy, ask yourself this - what are you teaching your child? Would you want your child to stay in an unhappy relationship? If not, then you should leave - because otherwise, that's what you are teaching her. Kids notice these things too.... but if you leave, leave your girlfriend, not your child. Always be her father.... always.

No I dont think so it will be hard on the child to see you and the mother fight. Its best to have 1 parents then it is to have 2 that cant stand to be around each other

It will make it worse on the child if you stay together and are unhappy. You should see how your g/f feels about this whole issue before making any drastic changes and decide together what's in the best interest for your daughter. Good luck to you!

i think you should do what you think is best. but if i was you i would get my own aptment and have your daughter come over to see you and stay over some time so she dont think you didnt want her. i know its hard right now put it will get better. its not good to fight around her it will hurt her to see you and her mother frighting all the time. you do what you think is right for you and your daughter. good luck

Let's just say I've been in ur daughter situation.. It's not nice to see ur parents fight and realize they're only toghater because of u.. On the other side.. if my father would have moved out, I guess i would have missed him alot.. Even dough I've been there, I dont know what to advice u, I dont know wich is the best thing tot do.. Only u can decide.

no staying together for the sake of the child is not good. your daughter will grow up to think that type of relationship is healthy and I can see that you and your girlfriend probably fight and she shouldn't see that. how would you want our daughter to be treated? that's how you need to treat her mother even if you aren't together.

No! It is worse on the child to fight and argue in front of them, than to just live apart.

You have to decide that. Every couple fights, its part of two people living together (even roomates fight in college). The question you have to decide is if your relationship with your girsfriend (not your daughter) worth fighting for? I mean, do you want to be with her. If so, then you have to sit down and decide what you are willing to do to make a better life for both of you. If not, then you have to still sit down, and decide how you are going to raise your child, so both of you are in her life.

i have 2 children with my ex partner, We was together for 14 years before we seperated a couple of years ago Our son is nearly 9 and my daughter is 6, My ex partner used to hit me but only used to do it when the children was in bed, I thought that i was doing the right thing by staying with him because they did not know what was going on, We spent about 5 years that was unhappy for both of us and finally we both decided that either could do it anymore and split up. After the inital shock the children seemed to be a lot happier and relaxed. They saw there dad a couple of times a week and they remained with me. I later found out that the children did know all of the time that their dad and i did not get on. They have reported that they are both a lot happier that we are not living together anymore. They have a fantastic rel with there father and more to the point he is happy now and so am i. If i had known i would have not stayed with him for as long as i did but i did think that i was doing the right thing. I know now that i was infact doing the wrong thing for so many years. Instead of everyone being sad and misserable we could have been happy and relaxed like what we are all now I wish you luck but you really have to do what is best for you.

if i'm in your situation, i will choose to move out and stay by myself. no point being stuck in a relationship that is loveless.

You shouldn't stay with her for your daughter's sake. Give it a last try, go to couples' therapy if you have too, i mean if you still love your gf. If it doesn't work or you don't love anymore, move out. But make sure your daughter knows she has nothing to do with this separation, that you will always be there for her, and that you don't love her less. And do really be there for her. Good luck to you!

No that will allow the child to grow up in misery and this is comming from a person whose parents divorsed when I was 6

NO! Staying together with someone you don't want to be with will only make life miserable for everyone involved. You, your partner, and the child. That's just my two cents... --- --- --- "I certainly think Britney Spears is the devil. The way she projects herself and the fact that she is so obviously vacuous. I think it's such a shame that she became so influential to very small children." -- MORRISSEY --- --- ---

I don't think so. I think staying together for the child's sake could cause more problems in the long run. If the couple constantly fights, then the child will grow up thinking that is the way a couple should respond to each other.

This is a very serious, touchy subject. Coming from a home that was wrought with fighting/abuse, I know for a fact it's better to say goodbye then put the child through the pain of seeing the parents's relationship deteriorate to such an extent. Of course, my situation was extreme. I left my daughter's father because the fighting was so terrible, and I swore I would never raise my kid that way. However, that kind of split is extremely difficult on a child, and you must prepare yourself for the very possible truth of her never truly getting over it. Because of the amount of pain involved for the child in either situation, my advice would be to seek counseling -- whether your generally against that kind of thing or not -- every possible avenue should be sought to try and save the relationship before calling it quits. There are couples who have been married for fifty years that went through years of bad patches, and ended up working through it and truly spending the rest of their lives together. Our current society doesn't encourage that kind of tenacity anymore, unfortunately, and I think the results of it are quite apparent when looking at our society from a sociological standpoint. Who knows, this girl may be the love of your life, but things have gotten so bad you can't see the forest through the trees, so to speak. Get counseling, try to save it, and if it just doesn't work you at least have the peace of mind of knowing you tried everything in your power -- and that'll be important when your child throws the situation in your face later, as children are so spectacular at doing. :)

No!! My opinion on that is that if you two are not happy, and your children are young enough, then you should separate. It might not sound Ok, but think about how it will affect your little girl. She might be upset and confused at first, but if you too stay together then sooner or later you just might start hating each other and that is not good for any child to have to witness. I figure that the children might be upset at first when you do separate, but in the long run it actually becomes worse if you do stay together.

No I made that mistake and now I believe I shouldn't have kept the Marriage together as it destroyed me and I am only just starting to pick up again after being divorced for 5 Years

i dont think its a good idea to stay together for the kids, kids are smart, they pick up on tension and stress. i think your daughter would be better off if both of her parents are happy.

I have been in this situation myself many years ago. I decided that my son would have a better quality of life, if his father and I lived apart. We did fight quite often, and it's not fair for a child to have to be subjected to this. It hasn't been easy, but as time goes by, he has learned to accept it more. It will take time, and in no means is it easy. If you do decide to move out,one thing that you must remember is to ALWAYS be on the same page as the other parent. Try and have the same rules as each other, and always be respectful to the other parent in front of the child. Trust me, it took us 7 years to work out all the kinks.. Good luck.