My ex keeps a messy house with my kid.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
United States
December 24, 2006 8:00pm CST
What do I do?for real...literaly trails though the house.garbage,old food,and black mold everwhere.the refrigorator is a sciecnce experimemt.you can't even see the carpet.She won't let anyone over.Ya can't hardly get the door open.I'm really worried.A hot mess.I've warned her and family members a scared to say anything or get involved.what do I do??Do I call the authurities??.then what??child of the state.
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@sarahlee13 (878)
• United States
25 Dec 06
Do you want custody? If you want custody call CPS. (child protective services) and they will do a spot check of the home and take the child into temp. custody until the person can clean up and keep clean the house to suit the needs of the child. If you wanted custody you would get it until the mom can clean up. Or maybe even for good. If you don't they could place the child in care of other family members until the home is properly cleaned up. Call them and at least ask them about it.
Have you tried talking to the person about it? Maybe they don't realize it because no one has mentioned it? Or are they just too busy? Maybe they need to hire a maid? If they can't afford one maybe you could pay for one once a week or once a month to help out with cleaning? Do you pay child support?
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
25 Dec 06
I have joint custody of my son,I just don't want him to grow up in a pig pen and I'm really concerned about gettting any gov. agency involved.they don't know what to do with my tax $$$ and they shure as hell don't know how to raise my son.Thank you for your advise.I'll look into it on tuesday.Yes I do pay support....a lot.His mother has been talked to from many family members.Her excuse is that she had to clean the house as a youngster and now that she is an adult...she dosent have to clean her house.She dosent need a maid....she needs to get up off her a$$ and deal with it...OH one more thing ,,She's a moma's girl..Her mom run's her life...everthing.Down to the last detail...except the mess at home cuz she's just as bad.
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@sarahlee13 (878)
• United States
2 Jan 07
Well thats a shame that she feels that way. Just because you had to clean as a kid is no excuse to be a slob as an adult!
If you have joint custody and you are a good parent there is no reason the child should fall into the government system. They should take the child away and give you full custody until she can prove she can get her act together!
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I'm not realy interested in sole costody.I want him to be with his mom....just not in a bad way.I'm torn.I don't want to couse problems or start a fire I can't put out. Don't get me wrong ,I love my son.I just made a promise to never take him away..and It's hard.He's 10.and he'll figure it out.He know's.For now all I can do it LEAD by example.
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@missinghim (1339)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Get your kids out of there pronto! That's a health risk. Maybe you should call the authorities, and demand custody of the kids in the meantime.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I would love to get my son out of that situation but....it's not that simple. wish it was.If I start stuff..AKA:$hit. I'll have a hell of a fight on my hands , her moms husband is a high powerd lawyer from cali.Not something I take lightly.
