managing life being handicapped

@swasti (1157)
India
December 25, 2006 8:12am CST
have u ever wondered how handicapped people live with their loss. all of us who r given the gift of being normal always worry for the thigns which we dont have ,or waste the opputunitites and time we have and loose to do what we could have done. we always grumble for what we dont have. btu jsu think of the prople who haev 1 leg, 1 hand , inability to speak .really their life is a very challenging one. It is really sad that their life has been given so by god.still they r courageous to face life.
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@dudemc (27)
• India
25 Dec 06
i am an handicap.i lost my left mandible and maxilla due to cancer at the age of 15.now i am 22 and i am software enginneer at accenture.i framed my life by forgeting my pains.its all depends how u take ur life.just try to be what u r.for u u are the most beautiful person in the whole world.
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@swasti (1157)
• India
26 Dec 06
hats off to u my friend!!! all the very best in ur life. wish u all success in ur carrer life and personal life too!!!
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 06
Its true that we always didn't appreciates what we have as a normal human that we didn't miss out any single parts in life and will feel regret only when we lost it. I pity for those who born in that kind of conditions and respect their brave heart to faces all the challenges in life.
• United States
26 Dec 06
In response to your discussion, I am disabled. I am not missing a leg or a hand and I can speak and hear. I need to remember things could be worse. Why was I blessed with bad discs in my back, I don't know.... I TRY to live life normally, I TRY not to think of all the mobility I have lost. I DO feel sorry for myself...too much I should be grateful for what I do have, but it is hard. I can not run with my kids, I can't play football with them or ride bikes or go hiking. I can love them and play board games with them, I do go shopping with them and they TAKE CARE OF ME. They get my wheelchair out of the van and then they take turns pushing me. (I can't walk for long before the pain gets so bad I have to sit) So..the answer to your question is the handicapped TRY to be as normal as possible, we TRY not to feel sorry for ourselves and we take one day at a time. My disability is bad discs in my back and after three surgeries on one disc it became brittle, now pieces break off and float around on the left side of my body bouncing off nerves causing crippling pain in my left leg, can't walk for long, sit for long, bend, stoop, crawl and sometimes it is so bad my 22 year old daughter has to dress me. My disorder is degenerative disc syndrome, and it will continue to get worse. Don't feel sorry for us, just help out when you can and be grateful for what you have. thanks for reading, Jean
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@swasti (1157)
• India
26 Dec 06
It is sad that God gives human beings a life to live on earth and then fill us with such problems.Each person in this world is filled with problems, financial problems, love failure, disappointments.., health problems...i really dont know whether to thank god for giving us life or to feel bad that he has filled it with such great problems...anyway we all have to lead the life which he has given us....all the best friend!!! write to me whenever u feel like sharing ur feelings with some1....iam there to listen to u .
@Madruga (137)
• Romania
25 Dec 06
A person would be more affected if he or she would happen something in the life , becomeing a handicapped . I am normal, but let`s say that I`ll loose my leg . Then , I will surelly eneer into a big depression thing . I`ll always remember that I used to do taht and that and so on . But for a people who is born with a handicapp , life is just boring (not always!!). I mean , that he suffer too , but he is used to his handicapp from his birth .
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@swasti (1157)
• India
26 Dec 06
yeah i think the same ...like if a person is bron handicapped..he will not go into much depression like a person who losses later. a person born with such a handicap will learn to adjust with this world from his childhood
@comrade (339)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
These people should be sources of insipiration to us who are physically complete. I think it is on the way we perceive or look at things. I believe that we need is optimism and total submission to God's plans for us.
@swasti (1157)
• India
26 Dec 06
ya u r absolutely right ..i too feeel the same when i look at their courage and confidence to go about life.
• India
26 Dec 06
Hi swati.....definetly its loss. I have a sister she is not physically handicapped, but she can't have a control on her hands, legs, head movement, because her nervous system is not developed by birth. she controls her hand holding the other. She uses her uncontrolled movement of hand in art as paintings. Ofcourse you can say modern art. I am proud of my sister of not thinking that she is not normal. I think many in our country like politicians are mentally handicapped. I agree to your point that they feel the loss at the point of time...but someone caring for them they forget all the loss that really doesn't matter to them
@swasti (1157)
• India
26 Dec 06
yeah its true..there should be soemone who will attend to them and tkae them around and fulfill atleast soem of their wishes.hats off to ur sister.
@sunita64 (6470)
• India
26 Dec 06
You are absolutly right I really admire people with disabilities having zeal for life. We should definately learn from them.
@VINAYBAR (365)
• India
26 Dec 06
I don't want to brag but I am partially blind.I have faced tremendous difficulties early in my life,but now I am doing extremely well academically and I am proud of it.The support of my parents has helped me a lot.Though my handicap has made me a very cynical person,I am otherwise fine with everything.
@Great_KM (73)
• India
26 Dec 06
Very few people in our society who think about disable person,even i also never considered about the problems that a handicapped person face everyday up to 4 years ago.4 year ago due to a rail accident i lost my both legs and become handicapped i feel the problem such people face.though i am in govt.job therefor no financial problem arise before me but i know some people who suffers mainly financial prob beside other physical problem.even their family member does not support them.
• Taiwan
26 Dec 06
tats y we have bibles , so it teaches us to b thksful every day and nite
• Romania
26 Dec 06
i think thats really hard for a person to have such a life
• India
26 Dec 06
yeah true.. there r many problems these people face.. but whatever,, they have to carry on with their life
@hcprasad (1012)
• India
26 Dec 06
It is general. Always longing for what is not with us. A person with headache says it is very paining comparing to other pains. A person with stomachache says it is very paining comparing to other pains. Like that each man`s persuasion differs according to the time and circumstance. Now that I have become physically handicapped losing one eye and one leg in partial, know the difference between those who have and those who donot have. But I am becoming more stubborn to face life inspite of. This is the true story of stubbornness where each long to live for.
• India
26 Dec 06
It will be wrong if I commit on this topic, Cause I myself is a handicap person, having polio in my right leg. I would only like to say one thing, I'm greatfull to GOD that even though I have a lame leg he has made me capable to do all the thing that the normal person is doing. like dancing cycleing playing basket ball cricekt hockey and much more
@deep1608 (322)
• India
26 Dec 06
I really wonder how do they survive...Its really painful to see them like that,,,then how does it feel being in their shoes.I really wonder how do they manage thing.Their lives are so difficult.I feel so bad.At these times when i see them I feel that the whole concept of almighty has gone off for a toss....why does lord wants anyone to suffer like that,,, Really wish that god makes eone physically capable....
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
26 Dec 06
Interesting post. I know, before developing a condition of my intestines, I took life for granted. Now I can never again practice my shotokan or even yoga. I can't bend, lift, or twist... but no matter how miserable I start to feel about myself, I realize how much worse so many other people have it. I smile, just now as I write this. Life is a blessing. Find a reason to smile every moment of it.
@josan181237 (1205)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
some handicapped people even succeed in life. if you have time you can read my one of my discussions entitled "you don't have to stand to kick a$$'". it tells about a friend of mine who has cerebral palsy. hope it inspires you. =)
@musha_ali (391)
• Pakistan
26 Dec 06
handicapped people should be brave........
@dmanuel (411)
26 Dec 06
it is really amzing how can they function like ordinary people, but i don't agree that we should be sad for them. they are handicapped physically, but in reality we are all handicapped deep inside. we are not perfect. physical attributes should not be the standard for strenght.
@szmove (45)
• China
26 Dec 06
good