Are you able to remain friends with your ex?

United States
September 26, 2006 12:16am CST
How many of you can still b friends with your ex? Does it depend on the breakup? Does it cause you any problems? Why?
10 responses
• United States
29 Sep 06
Yes, but sometimes it is not easy. It took me & my X almost 10yrs to finally get along.Having his son, we had to deal with each other, like it or not. My son is now 19, and his dad and I are the best of friends....even though I can not stand his wife!!! I also know of other couples who have divorced and remained good friends...so yeah, it is possible!
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@missyc (103)
3 Oct 06
i have a 14 year old daughter and me and her father broke up about 11 years ago. he got married and had another baby, but i talk to him or his wife should i have a problem with her. he lives about a 3 hour flight away, not long ago he flew over to help me sort out a big problem i had with her. he came to where i now live with my partner of 9 years and we all sat down and discussed what needed to happen and how we were going to go about every thing. i was asked if it felt wierd and you know what? it never even crossed my mind. a lot of people cant be friends alot can, it depend on the person and what sort of a relationship they had with each other.
• United States
4 Oct 06
Thank you.
@rainbow (6761)
3 Oct 06
I have 1 ex that doesn't talk to me, even my ex-fiancee still talks. My older sons Godfathers are both ex-boyfriends, deciding that forever isn't out there for you as a couple doesn't stop you being friendly. The one who doesn't talk is very ill and left me because he didn't want me to have to look after him. He gave me my life back because he cared. I got a loving boyfried and my boys so it was a good decision. Didn't stop it hurting but I'm glad he did. I don't think he remembers me as he has huntingdons which is horrible.
• United States
4 Oct 06
Im glad to hear your doin good.
• Australia
3 Oct 06
Depends on the breakup, and that ex parntner isn't stalking or obsessing about the other still etc etc. If the break up is mutual well there is a good chance there will be no hard feelings and although you will be friends, we all tend to drift away...
• United States
3 Oct 06
I am friends with my Xhusband and we have no kids. I just wasnt ready to get married yet. Nd I am friends with my ex boyfriends except for 1.
• India
17 Oct 06
yes im friend of my ex... it was very difficult for me in the beginning when we broke, but later i realize tht her presence in my life is important but not as my partner, bt as a friend.. now we both are friends rather than gf or bf!!!!
@HomerBundy (1325)
• United States
29 Sep 06
i am not friends with any of my exs...maybe its because we never took the time to develop a friendship in the first place...which is why things didnt work out imo... when the relationship didnt work out, we had no friendship to fall back on, hence we didnt stay friends...
@Johnboy1 (304)
• South Africa
29 Sep 06
We broke up two years ago after being together for ten years, the first few months after the break up it was better not to have contact but we get along fine now as friends.
@matefork (277)
• Philippines
3 Oct 06
Yes, I can remain to be friends with my ex but as much as possible I would avoid contact because she already has a family.
@gulshah (861)
• China
3 Oct 06
ya ofcourse we r good frnds still hahaha