Family & Relationship

India
December 28, 2006 7:31am CST
Now-a-days Grown-up Children care a damn listening to their parents and/or discussing their problems with them. Most of the Middle Class and even some poor Families give their ward good Education so their children would settle well. But Children fail to understand that there is much more to life than mere education when it comes to day to day affairs, resulting in disrespect, waywardness, indiscipline and what not. God know where their future ends.
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@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I think it depends on the culture as well. Some people are from a more family oriented culture. Others aren't. My parents aren't constantly checking if things are okay with their parents. I don't plan to either. They don't want me to move so far away, but I wouldn't completely lose touch with them. My parents just don't have any good input for my problems, so asking them on things like that is really useless.
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
sorry but i beg to disagree.it's your personal opion when you said that your parent can't do anything or can't contribute at least with your problems. the fact that they are your parents,they are the best persons who could give you the best advise.they might not be thinking same way that you do,still they will be able to somehow contribute something because of the experiences that thhey have.try talking to them. i assure you that you'll prove yourself wrong.take care
• India
29 Dec 06
ya i think so...
• India
29 Dec 06
The education what we as a child recieved or what the childen nowadays are recieving are very much necessary but education is incomplete without the proper edification. Education as a whole includes elementary and technical knowledge as well as most importantly the ettiquetes , morals , principles and proper understanding which inculcates humane as well as sophisticated attributes to our lifes. And this helps in the long run of life when you are living in a world.
@runsgame (2031)
• India
29 Dec 06
it is not GOD know their future ends., U can also see the same . firstly pls do not over confused and frustrated. Just imagine how u were before 20 , 25 yrs before that is when u r like ur child. u r surroundings/society/envuironments etc., then just grow with years u will find that the present existing environmental world is nothing for your children . what ever they are seeing is just like a old dress and they have wonderful new thoughts and their expectations are un reachable by us. U know my 11 yrs old son is asking me such a bikes/cars for him which i never heard of it. his ambitions are also high. so pls do not get frustration try to understand their feelings and time to time u can advise them with your own concept if he agrees it is ok other wise u try to bend yourself to his side to some extent . of course the furture world is not in your hand it is in the hands of your kids. be cool and enjoy. god created your kid and he is also seeing every thing and he will defenetly bless your and our and all's kids.
• India
29 Dec 06
Definitely. The problem starts when the "good education " does not focus learning virtues ,bringing in discipline and inculcate certain Must -need moral values..and instead focus on better grades, and other achievements with the above mentioned values..
@ravenz (423)
• India
29 Dec 06
yeah yeah same old same old
@padhukr (2267)
• India
29 Dec 06
i love family and relationship.u
@harsh1985 (593)
• India
29 Dec 06
yes it is a bad situation but only can teach a lesson to them about their future by giving example of other.. this is the best way to understand their responsibilities!! but most of chidren copy each and every action and save into their brain..they also listen and watch the behaviour of perents with their perents.. if you negleting your perents your children will do the same thing..and that time you should not surprised with their behaviour.. i think it is totally perents' responsibiity because small child have completely clear but extremely sensitive brain and mind...everything outside the enviorement(good or bad)are saved into their brain.. better is that clear the enviorment..they will understand difference between best and worst automatically!
@Nandni (6)
• India
29 Dec 06
Currently, this is going on that children are going to be moderate and their so called modernisation has no manner, how to talk and behaviour wid their parants / guardian and elders. No doubt, it is effecting relations too. Parants (whether they are capable or not) trying to give higher and costly educiton to their wards, so that they manage them selfs, but childern are loosing their manner. This is not a good education. Education should be based on reality.
• India
29 Dec 06
I am not that grown up as per my parents. I am 22 years old. I know that sometimes what my parents do is not correct and what I am thinking about the matter is absolutely fine. Now, if I try to contradict them, I will be put under this label "Disobedient". I think you also hold the same thought as them. As a child grows up to become an adult, his or her own personality also grows. You have to understand that. Please try to recall your own days. You should give some freedom of thought to your children. Giving good education means that will only help the person to get enriched in life and understand the values of it. Education doesnot mean sending them to expensive schools, but enhancing the moral value.
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
29 Dec 06
The problem with gorwn ups is that they keep complaining the children are not doing things the right way.. they never let children learn anything themselves.. they think they'll teach everything to them. they keep on telling theeir children this is wrong.. hey you are doing it the wrong way.. dont do this dont do that.
@hcprasad (1012)
• India
29 Dec 06
You are true in one sense.On the other hand, I would like to point out your own sentences as follows: Parents spend for good education but donot educate. This is because in the day to day affairs, parents will have their own affirs which children also to learn even if they are not told. Parents behaviour towards elders, friends, parents, are also observed by the children. It is no use just telling "do what I say, don`t do what I do". Hence the parents education should be to show what to be done should be said and what to be said is to be done. It is no use just blaming the children just because more money is spent on them without due care
@sahergul (774)
• Pakistan
29 Dec 06
well if u give it a broad view you will find media responsible for that... they are more influenced of what they see, becuase after watching that they perceive things as they want and believe that as well... anyway hope for the best.. you care i care... it means there are alot who cares :)
• India
29 Dec 06
This is the problem of almost every parent. This is the problem not of today but it is a legacy. Almost every person face the same problem. When the child understand the situation he himself becomes parent.
• India
29 Dec 06
fgs
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
Children from different cultures vary cos they are brought up in different ways. I believe, when they grow up they'll realize how hard it is living in the world alone. Parents are their to guide them. So children should always listen to them. Mere communication is the key! We are all humans and we have feelings.. We can be happy and satisfied.. WE can get hurt too..
@spuranik (17)
• United States
29 Dec 06
this is nothing but the generation gap!!
@imakella (665)
• United States
29 Dec 06
basically family now a days doesnot maintain raltionship with others. i have observed that only some people who maintin raltionship ... in every family,ocurs disputes among son and father are too much now a days. mother usually supports son there by lessening the relation ship between son and father. even small kids are very ridiculous to their parents, right from childhood they should be taught of what is family and ralrionship. merely we should cunduct their birhdays and give tham gift as a teaching of family and relationship
@qqqmmm999 (208)
• China
29 Dec 06
I feel the same. The childen are easily be effected by others, but not their parents. They don't know what's good or bad to themselves.
@Kelly16 (252)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
There are a lot of now not respecting their parents especially on this new generation where family members are all too busy with their own stuffs and have no time to bond with each other leading to misunderstandings and disrespectful. Parents are the people who raised us and put values in us and respect is the very much gift that children could give to their parents.