why is it difficult to forgive?
By ddm610
@ddm610 (117)
Philippines
December 28, 2006 10:07am CST
I had been angry with a person for almost a year. She never said sorry to me but last Christmas day, i gave her a gift to show that i've forgiven her even if she did not apologize. I suddenly learned to forgive since i've attended masses and understood that Christmas is all about love and forgiveness. But for one year (before christmas) i had considered talking to her and eventually forgiving her but something inside me revolts. That thing inside me demands an apology from that person. So i found it very difficult to forgive her.
Up to now i still don't understand why it is difficult for us to forgive a person who badly hurt us. And i do not know if i can be forgiving on other parts of the year (maybe i just did forgive because of the influence of the Christmas season, so how about next month, will i still be forgiving?) What do you think about this?
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4 responses
@ksstormhunter (792)
• United States
28 Dec 06
forgiving someone who has hurt you is one of the toughest emotional action for us, The main advice i can give you is let her know you forgive her for her mistakes as we are all human and put it to rest and move on with your life, this event is holding you back, need to just move forward.
@SplitZip (1488)
• Portugal
28 Dec 06
In all honesty, you don't have to forgive everyone if you find a good reason for it, for instance, if the other person has caused or may cause you harm in the future or if the other person clearly has no respect for you. You should forgive people if all that's standing between you are feelings of pride or guilt and if your friendship is worth more than that.
@1986ankush (1241)
• India
28 Dec 06
actually from your heart you like them and also it is not easy to forgive , so my opinion is that gifts is not solution of any problem it onle values only when you you both are together
