Teenagers

@milagre (1272)
Portugal
December 29, 2006 11:25am CST
My daughter has 15 years and she wants to go party for new years, with some friends to another parents friend house for new years party. Somtimes i let her go out at nigth with her cousins (older then her) but my sister is always drive them to the place and picking them. I dont want to let her go (special because no cousin is going just some of her friends i also know), but she is insisting. do you think i've been to stricked, to "old minded" in not letting her go?
8 responses
• United States
30 Dec 06
I would call the parents at the house where the party will be and ask some questions, like will there be drinking, how many will be there, will they be actively supervising or off in another room? Depending on their answers, I might let her go.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
31 Dec 06
i manage to convince her to go to another party not far from home and im going there to talk with the parents where the part is. Txs & happ new year 4 u.
• United States
31 Dec 06
Sounds like a great compromise you can both be happy with! Good for you! Happy New Year to you and yours!
@ck_n00r (38)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 06
I think you should be more strick. It will make her afraid to you and will not do the same mistake again. But if she go with her cousin, you need to think about it agian. Happy New Year..
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
31 Dec 06
thank ou. Happ new ear for you too.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
29 Dec 06
Let her go. At 15 she is old enough to know right from wrong and if you raised her correctly, she will make good decisions. Since this is at a parent home and it is supervised, I wouldn't worry about her going. Let he go and have a good time.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
30 Dec 06
My main problem is because its out of cty and if something happens it will take me long to arrive there, i can also drive her or pick her up. Sometimes she goes to parties with her cusins and friends which i know, but its near by and theres always a family member driving them, not out of the city like this one is.
@jen20619 (1300)
• Ireland
30 Dec 06
You have done the right thing by not letting her go.We as parents have to what we think is right for our kids.If you dont control teenages alot of awful things can happen.I agree with your discision.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
31 Dec 06
Toda i manage a compromise with her, she going to a friends house, in the it, not far from home and im going there to talk with the parent of that friend, to check if all its ok and im picking her later. she understands that :)
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
29 Dec 06
My grand daughter is aslo 15 years old.I dont think there would be a problem with her going to the party. if there is no drinking and it is supervised by a adult.kids at this age like to be with there friends.If you can not pick her up after the party, maybe she can spend the night with her friend.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
30 Dec 06
i cant pick her up, because its out of the city. But as its new years party i fear what it can happen with alot of drunking people around. I dont know! still didnt decided yet- Txs
@Xaliw28X (19)
29 Dec 06
omg dont b a looser. i mean seriously with her apparent social record she hardly gona do nefin bad neway. if you dont let her do things... guess what shell probably end up doing worse things if you keep depriving her. and being dropped off by her cousins???? talk about embarrassment woman shell be legally driving in 2 years and your having her escorted round lyk she 2
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
30 Dec 06
im letting her do thinkgs, bbut i also think sometimes she needs some limits, she's onl 15
30 Dec 06
It depends completely on your previous experiance of what she is like. Is she to be trusted? If she is there is no reason to stop her from going.
@fahadk (118)
• Pakistan
29 Dec 06
i think you should stick
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
30 Dec 06
I think it too, but she's so pushing...