December 30, 2006 6:26am CST
My sister just left her 3yr boyfriend after a bout of abuse. She came to me (thank God) but wouldn't stay because she felt that she was imposing on my life. She's now at a women's refuge which is apparently really good but I feel that she could be doing better with me. At the moment she is 5 1/2 months pregnant and it feels like she's playing out the patern of our lives with our mother. I have really good advice for her that she listens to but doesn't take on. I've learnt that advice can be given but is rarely listened to because people will do what they want rite or wrong but it's hard when it's your own sister. Not sure what I can do more other than meeting up with her as much as I can to make sure she's still alright.
10 Jan 07
Well morfessa1 although you might not like hearing/reading this your sister is an adult and wants to do what she thinks is right. Respect her for this but at the same time make sure that she is okay by phoning her every day or two. Also you can tell her that she is very welcome to stay with you in the weeks immediately prior to when the baby is due. If she doesn't want to do that then ask her to move in with you once the baby is born - at least until she is back on her feet and used to having a baby. It is good that she has left her boyfriend and having done that she needs to know that she can stand on her own two feet, but you are always there as a backstop for her. More than anything she needs support, which it appears that you are giving her. Good luck to all of you and hope that all goes well for your sister.
31 Jan 07
ok, the update on this is that she as now gone back to her boyfriend. I've told her that it's her decision and that I will support her no matter what she chooses. I have also said that I am always gonna be on er side about what she chooses and that I'm here for her if she gets into trouble again.
30 Dec 06
i hope you can take care of your own sister. she will be better in your custory. she'll feel more loved and understood. make her feel that you care about her and that you'll always be there for her no matter what. she did something wrong and you can't correct it even if you let her stay in a women's refuge. she might have not listened to your advices before. but give her the chance to change her life-with you.
30 Dec 06
beleive me she knows that I'll be there for her no matter what, we have a very strong bond because of the abuse we suffered as children. I've alway done my best to protect her which is why I'm so worried about her now.