Losing a fighting battle!!!
United States
December 30, 2006 3:23pm CST
I have a 2 year old son who lives with his father. His father and I were never married. He and his family went behind my back and got custody of my son when he was 6 months old. He kicked me out of the house forcing me to live in a woman's shelter for 2 weeks. I was appointed a free attorney who told me he won a case like mine not too long ago. The next meeting with my attorney I was told to take my son's father's best offer. His best offer was a couple of days a week with my son with one overnight included in that time. I then met my now husband and moved to NY (he is in the army - he is now in Iraq). My son's father and I have been fighting for a visitation schedule since then. We had a court date set, but the judged ruled in his favor without hearing ANYTHING from my side. He ruled granting full custody to him. The judge stated I didn't have enough change of circumstance to try for a change of custody. Short of my son's father getting hurt, I am screwed. We have a court date for the judge to rule on a visitation schedule. My son knows who I am and is comfortable around me. His father has accused me of everything from not caring for him to throwing my son on the bed and cussing at him, and he even went as far as saying I burnt him with a cigarette!!! What would you do? I can't afford a lawyer (they cost 5-6k for retainer)!!
3 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Sounds like you are in a bad spot. I really think you are going to have to find a lawyer. I would definitely start calling some and explaining the situation and maybe you can get one that will help you with a payment schedule.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Call your local women's advocacy center! They are great help for these situations. Some even have free, really good lawyers that may help you. I hope this helps you. Good luck!
@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
30 Dec 06
call legal aid.. fight that guy with all u have until you get whats right.. he shouldnt be able to do this to you.. call legal aid and get some advice.. even if they for some reason cant represent you, they can give u advice...
one time my ex was fighting for visitiation of his 2 kids from a previous relationship and the legal aid couldnt help him because they were already helping her but they helped us with so much information and how to file papers and how to fill them out correctly.. its hard but if u love your kids its the best thing u can do.. he deserves u in his life and u deserve him... call around to lawyers who will take payments if u cant get legal aid...I suggest if u know any dirt on him you tell every bit of it because obviously he isnt biting his tongue when it comes to you...
