Have you ever had a crush on your teacher?

Crush on teacher - crush on teacher
@kingatul (849)
India
December 30, 2006 3:40pm CST
Well It happens many a time that we have a crush on our teachers and it happened with me also. I was in the 9th grade and she taught me english. I loved the way she used to smile at every doubt which I wanted to clarify in the class and also when I answered any question she asked in the class. Just to see that smile spring up on her face I studied English very hard and always scored good marks in it. It was one and a half months before the final exams when I came to know that she was going to be married. My heart broke and I wasn't feeling like studying English.So my performance started to degrade. One day in the school she called me and said Atul you are still a child and a very good student . I know what is going on in your mind but it happens almost with everybody. Please concentrate on your studies. Right now I'm in a relationship but I want to know whether she was right or wrong in saying that everone go through such things. Have you experienced it?
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
30 Dec 06
Yes I had a crush on a teacher I was in 6th grade at the time he was a very handsome man, I did my studies very well under this teacher as I had never study that much until I he became my teacher so I was very happy for that as it put my grades up a lot and when I entered high school I was able to accomplish more due to this.
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• India
31 Dec 06
Teacher is a god as per my thought!!!
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@kingatul (849)
• India
30 Dec 06
thanks for the response
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@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
You're not alone in that kind of experience. I did have a crush in my science teacher when I was in high school. That's why science became my favorite subject. I know of lots of other boys too who had the same experience. I remember that my crush was too deep then that I always saw to it then that everytime I went into the classroom, I always checked on my grooming. I topped all the exams, and I even memorized the whole atomic elements table just for her to be proud of me. What a great inspiration and driving force. Crushes make us a lot wiser, sometimes.
@kingatul (849)
• India
31 Dec 06
Science teacher!!! Interesting
@pendragon (3350)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I had a crush on my first grade teacher, she wore these great glasses and always had on a scented scarf,plus a math teacher in the eighth grade,low cut blouses and great hair,lol. I'm so glad school is done with.
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@kingatul (849)
• India
31 Dec 06
wow I can imagine anyone going mad on those looks,leave alone a first grade student. thank you for the response
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Oh sure when I was in the third grade I had a crush on teacher his name was Mr. Gleason he was young and we mostly had women teachers back then. Well he never knew I had a crush on him I dont think.
@kingatul (849)
• India
30 Dec 06
you were really very small . thanks for the response
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30 Dec 06
Yes! I actually have a crush on one of my teachers at the moment! She is VERY hot, but is a mum :-( I don't let that fact drop my grades though, I just enjoy the fact that I can see her most days of school. It is not a major crush as I still fancy people my own age. It is a common experience. You need to remember that even if they wanted to do anything with you, they would loose their job if they were caught. In fact a teacher in my school lost their job for having a relationship with their teacher...
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@kingatul (849)
• India
30 Dec 06
great to know about your experience. yes surely they'd be caught if they try to do anything with us. thank you for the response
• India
30 Dec 06
i have never experienced such situation, even i too admired my teachers, but for every thing there should be a limit, if it crosses the limits some unforeseen things might happen and which spoils our life, so we should draw our limits for each and every point in our life
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@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
30 Dec 06
I've never had a crush on any of my teachers, none were nice enough or attractive looking to have a crush on. I really like that photo you have uploaded, I'm a big fan of the Family Guy and I remember that episode. I thought it was really funny when the teacher shows up at his house and tells him to come down and he jumps out the window lol. Are you a fan of the show too? I would also like to add that I'm glad that I've never had a crush on a teacher because it would be very illegal to date them and also a big distraction to my studies.
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@kingatul (849)
• India
31 Dec 06
thanks for the response
• India
31 Dec 06
yes i had a crush on my teacher
• Israel
31 Dec 06
yes me yoo :)
@Khangura (924)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
Student Has Crush on Teacher Toddler and Teenager Expert Advice from Carleton Kendrick, Ed.M., LCSW Question: I'm in ninth grade and I like my teacher who is 26. I mean I really like him. I think about him all the time and I can see myself with him in the future. The problem is that I'm only 16. I really like him but I don't think he likes me back. What can I do? Answer: Having a crush on a teacher is very common in middle school and high school. Even elementary school children may develop serious crushes on their teachers. I am sure that you could tell me in great detail why you "really like" this teacher. I would guess that he is attractive to you in many ways and that he has treated you with respect and kindness. I bet that this man likes being your teacher. But 26-year-old teachers do not look for girlfriends or boyfriends among their students. They are forbidden by the school and by the law to engage in anything beyond a friendly teacher/student relationship. It's probably hard for you to think he likes you only in this limited non-romantic way but you will have to learn to accept the boundaries that must exist between students and teachers. I am not telling you that your fantasizing about him is wrong. I am suggesting, however, that you accept the fact that the relationship you may dream about with him can exist only in your fantasies. Sometimes we develop crushes and fantasize about people we know we can never have a real-life relationship with - it's safer than going after a real-life relationship and being rejected. You might learn some important things about yourself from your crush on this teacher. By identifying the things that you admire in this teacher, you'll see what qualities are important to you when you have opportunities to have romantic relationships with your peers. Please don't expect the boys your age to match up with this teacher in terms of their appeal or their maturity. I would be concerned about your infatuation if your thoughts and fantasies about this man dominate most of your thoughts and you find yourself unable or unwilling to lead a normal 16 year-old's social life. I know that your feelings are real and intense. I hope that my advice has helped you understand how to put them in perspective. Thanks for writing. Carleton Kendrick has been in private practice as a family therapist and has worked as a consultant for more than 20 years. He has conducted parenting seminars on topics ranging from how to discipline toddlers to how to stay connected with teenagers. Kendrick has appeared as an expert on national broadcast media such as CBS, Fox Television Network, Cable News Network, CNBC, PBS, and National Public Radio. In addition, he's been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, USA Today, Reader's Digest, BusinessWeek, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and many other publications. More on: Expert Advice Please note: This "Expert Advice" area of FamilyEducation.com should be used for general information purposes only. Advice given here is not intended to provide a basis for action in particular circumstances without consideration by a competent professional. Before using this Expert Advice area, please review our General and Medical Disclaimers.
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@kingatul (849)
• India
31 Dec 06
wow that is a very long response thanks for this
@anjuscor (1266)
• India
1 Jan 07
Nice discussion. Yes i do agree with your teachers sentence. When you are a child, if you look at someone good, people praising them, if they are beautiful, if they nice to you, you will have a crush on that person irrespective of their age. I had a crush on my Teacher when i was 14 years old. I never told him that i like him. Once i joined college, i understood that it is just an affection towards the good heart. Then i left that feeling. It always happens. I used to many of my friends having a crush on him. Now nobody is in the same way as they were a kid.
@kingatul (849)
• India
1 Jan 07
Thanks for your beautiful response.
@kingatul (849)
• India
1 Jan 07
yes you are right when we are growing up we get attracted towards anyone who's got good looks
@dominican (201)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
When i was in 3rd year highschool student I had a crush on our PE teacher which we became friends when I finished highschool. When I was in college we've been exclusively dating for 6 months. Now were just friends, really close friends with some benefits.
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30 Dec 06
Crush on my teachers yes but not in school in college. Ours was an all girls college so the guy used to get very nervous when he would come to our class and in the process would lick his lips...this is what compelled me into a crush.
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@kingatul (849)
• India
30 Dec 06
you are first of the girls to respond its very nice to know that girls also experience this.
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@car0811 (184)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
Yes, she was absolutely right when she told you that. She was concerned with your studies that's why she talked to you about it. To tell you honestly, I am a teacher and we do know that it's just but natural for kids to have a crush on their teacher because I had experienced it,too.
@kingatul (849)
• India
31 Dec 06
It is very nice to get a teacher's view point here thank you.
@imakella (665)
• United States
31 Dec 06
yea,often. when i was in 7th standard...i use to have a smile and lively look on my teacher when she use to teach. she was cute and one day i laughted at her by saying ur cute. then she started scolding me. at inter stage,i had an crush with my teacher for increment of my marks.
@kingatul (849)
• India
31 Dec 06
that's interesting to know Thanks for the response
• United States
1 Jan 07
i never had a crush on a teacher all my teachers was ugly so it wasnt possible now ask me if any of my teachers had a crush on me and i will say yes but thats just nasty
@kingatul (849)
• India
1 Jan 07
thank you for the response.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
1 Jan 07
Once when I was in high school. I had a crush on my Geometry teacher, as did the other girls in the class. None of us actually thought we'd go out with him, but it was always good to just dream. I would go to him for extra help even when I wasn't in his math class anymore.
@kingatul (849)
• India
1 Jan 07
wow that sounds nice. thanks for the response
@satyamss (870)
• India
1 Jan 07
no , never met such teacher
@kingatul (849)
• India
1 Jan 07
still thanks for the response.
@dcebawana (129)
• India
2 Jan 07
I had also crush on my teacher .
@kingatul (849)
• India
2 Jan 07
nice to know that . Thanks for the response.
31 Dec 06
I had a crush on one of my teachers in first grade 25 years ago. She was so kind to me and always had a smile on her face for me. Ironically she was the mother of a close friend of mine. The crush went on for four years till I had to leave the school. Funny enough, to this day I still have fond memories of her. I do not think your teacher should have said anything to you as your crush would have finally worn off.
@kingatul (849)
• India
31 Dec 06
Such an old crush. I think you have presented before one of the oldest stories in this discussion Thanks
@kingatul (849)
• India
2 Jan 07
thanks for the response. Do you still think about her?
• India
1 Jan 07
yes i had crush on a teacher when i was in 10th class.
@kingatul (849)
• India
1 Jan 07
thanks for the response