what do you do when you lose patience with your kids?
By joshdale08
@joshdale08 (2320)
Philippines
December 30, 2006 8:04pm CST
and what are the things they fight about most of the time? my 2 boys fight over whose turn it is to play with the ps2 first and for how long each should stay with it. the bickering grates on my nerves so much specially when i'm busy filling up orders for cakes. to the point that i make mistakes on whati'm doing! it's really frustrating!
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
10 Jan 07
My little boys are a little to young to be fighting yet (thank goodness!) but my little one can be very irritating at times. Most of the time, I try to figure out why he is whining.. does he want my attention, have I been ignoring him? Is he hungry, thirsty does he need a nap? if he's jsut fussing because he wants his own way, he usually goes into a time out. (or I do if I need it!) (;
with older boys, I would take away the game for awhile, or let one of them play for a half an hour and the other needs to find something to do in his room and isn't allowed out for a half an hour... that way the other one can play in peace and quiet not hearing.. "when is it my turn? is it my turn yet etc.." also,set a timer so there is no question when it's the other's turn. just some suggestions.. Good luck!
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
those are great suggestions and thanks for sharing them. right now, they're off the game for the time being coz they've been grounded. they're just moping around the house, sometimes getting underfoot but for once, we've had quite.
@blueskies (1186)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Ah, boys and their video games. That's a tough one. I've found that when my 2 are fighting over something, I set a time limit. For instance, The youngest child gets to play first, for 30 minutes. I set a timer and keep it next to me so there is no funny business. When the timer goes off, I reset it and the other child gets to play for the same amount of time.
It works, and it's much easier to keep track of the time with the timer than by the clock when I'm busy doing something.
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
that's a good suggestion and i'll try it one of these days. right now, the console is sitting in my husband's closet because the boys are grounded. there was another fight over the, yep you guessed it right, the playstation again and my hubby had to take away the game for a couple of weeks. we've had quiet for the whole day, come to think of it.
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
oh, your parents must be proud to have a "trouble-free" kid as you. keep it up! remember, you will have kids of your own someday and you'd want them to be as happy and as carefree and as peace-loving children as you are now.
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
Not sometimes, but most often than not my eldest 2 year old daughter would cry for unknown reason and she does it when we are in peak of our sleeping. When the pressure almost on my head and about to hit her, I would close my eyes and take a deep breath then utter some prayer asking God for more patience then I will recall how much I love my child and should I act to be a good father for them. Now I open my eyes, though I see and hear her crying (yeah its irritating) but my side of being father will win and I will just hug her and comfort her till she back again sleeping.
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
i understand how you feel and your on the right track when you ask Him for guidance and for patience. children, no matter how well-brought up they could be, will always have episodes of being irritating specially when they're as young as your daughter. could she be colic by any chance? when she wakes up in the middle of the night again and cries for no reason, try tapping her tummy and listen to the sound her tummy makes. if its hollow, like a drum, she could have gas in there and, boy, that's painful. my daughter used to be like that. what i do, i rub some liniments on her tummy to ease the pain and it worked for her.
@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
31 Dec 06
when mine argue over the game, if they cant quietly work it out on their own, then its done. game go's off and they find something else to do QUIETLY, or its time for bed..
if their old enough to play outside and its warm enough or they can dress warm enough for the weather then let them go have a ball while u get your work done..
and nap time never hurt anyone that I know of...
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
when there seems to be no solution for whatever problem they have at the moment, i wordlessly turn the tv off. and they know what's on my mind already. sometimes, there's more whining but i don't say a word at all. but the damage to my cakes have already been done. sigh!
@cwgrlsarefun (1581)
• United States
31 Dec 06
my two girls are 3 years apart one is 4 the other is 7. They fight over everything. I have gotten to the point that when they fight now they lose privliges. Like their TV hour, game time, etc. When I have just had enough they are sent outside or to the garage to play.
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
that's what i do, too. and what's more frustrating is, you get riled up and flustered already even after you've stopped their fight, the next thing you know, they're laughing together again whle you're already having a headache! grrr!!!
