smoking pot....
By laurie0515
@laurie0515 (116)
United States
December 30, 2006 9:28pm CST
My 14 year old nephew was caught smoking pot. He was then drug tested and it was positive for poy only.(a drug is a drug)Well his mom freaked out and wanted him an a drug program and his doctor told her what for? he is young and said he wouldnt do it again. put him in an after school program and have him tested in a few more weeks! What is this doctor crazy? Shouldnt this be serious? he is 14 years old and if his own doctor isnt taking it seriously why should He? any real advise for us because this is real and have no clue what to do without a referal from his doctor. who refuses because he just "Tried it". How does the doctor know that because the kid said so? I dont know what to do to help...any suggestions?
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23 responses
@Metallion (2227)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Well, maybe he's leaving it in the parents hands to be parents instead of asking society to raise their child by having a "program" do it instead.
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@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
31 Dec 06
well, it could have been his first time, ya never know.. stores have tests you can test him yourselves as often as you want and if he keeps popping up dirty that gotta do something.. yeah maybe they might let it slip once but if he does it again they should do something.. if they dont then its just time for you guys to step it up a notch.. even if u gotta switch his doctor or something..
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@laurie0515 (116)
• United States
31 Dec 06
well the reason why I am shocked is that he said it wasnt his first time and that he has been doing it for a while off and on with his friends!
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@rakinitin (685)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
The test will show the levels of THC in the blood stream. This enables the doctor to determine if he is a 'chronic user' or 'just tried it'. An after school program is at least a start. Perhaps he can be embarrassed out of smoking it ever again by making his use well known to all. Check your local support groups in your community. They will have suggestions for you there as to referrals or the next best step and all the options available.
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
31 Dec 06
He's around the wrong people if he did'nt come from a household where this is happening, than the crowd he's around is doing it. Or he got that it's a cool thing to do from the shows he watches on TV. So my suggestions are to know who his friends are and to monitor what he watches on TV if not cut it out all together. You know what they say "one thing leads to another" and thats the truth.
@hidinginpublic (170)
• United States
17 Jan 07
First I want to say YOU don't have to do anything but be an aunt unless you are his legal guardian. You be there for the family no matter what. As for the doctor being kind of blase about the situation. First thing is first trust the kid. If you don't give him the change to correct what you all think is wrong he is going to have some major trust issues. If you and your family do have those trust issues do test the kid in a few weeks and keep testing him and see how well things go.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Kids will experiment.Just keep a check on it to make sure IT wont go any further.I can say that cuz I am a parent.I watch my son like a hawk.If ya make too big of a deal out of it He will rebel.Love and understanding goes a long way.Gental as a dove wise as a serpant.
@harsh1985 (593)
• India
31 Dec 06
i think doctor is crazy and may be careless about hazard of smoking.his mom must give punishment when he caught with smoking pot.tis addiction must crush in 1st step!!
you should make a serious talk with him to give understand him the hazards of smoking with help of examples!!
don't depend on doctor start your effort right now!!
@rash219 (808)
• United States
1 Jan 07
well im not sure on y the doc said tat but it could be for the fact that there wont be any1 for him to connect with in such a prog at this early of an age but then again in my family there used to alway be a random blood test every month...used to scare me...specially since i was around smokers...never smoked myself though.....but aftr school progs. are better as ppl there can hav a better chance to connect with the kid....
@UcoksBaBa (800)
• Indonesia
1 Jan 07
Really puberty of the male child when entering the age 14 years and very serious when we as his parents did not supervise correctly, advised him well to give the example to him from parents about-rule the rule that in applied parents to him meaning that you banned him but and you too went along did with your rule personally, because the example of the child was the picture of parents when he was still small beforehand, so all began to you, and supervised his association.
@SSJ3Cloud (31)
• United States
31 Dec 06
im with the doctor here i mean hes 14 and im sure he wont do it again, but if he does it again i would do what his mom suggested.
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@calilove143 (237)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I dont know what to tell yuo,ask his docter again,or go to a different docter.
@Janono630 (238)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think you need to really help that kid because if he is already smoking pot by the age of fourteen then he will keep going down that road his entire life. You need to make sure you know where he is all the time but mainly you need to sit down and discuss with him why he did it and what you can do to help.
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@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I have been through this with my 17 year old daughter, and still coming to an end. Finally, she was placed in a program for 9 months by the court. If you look into programs on your own, it a possibility you will be placed on a long waiting list, if you go through the courts, it will go quicker to get him in. However, you shouldn't be in denial cause the problem won't go away.
@pendragon (3350)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I have a 15 yr old child, and if this occured, she would be tested every time she came home late, etc etc.I love to "overreact" where her health and safety comes into play and I'd have kicked that doctor straight in the...knee.
@mikaghi (388)
• United States
31 Dec 06
ur nephew has to face consequences and the doctor needs to do some reality check.if the boy isn't stopped when he is young who know what he will "try" when he is older?? plz try to get ur nephew into some rehabilitation program. it is important.
