to spank, or not to spank?

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I see a lot of frustrated parents on mylot seeking advice from other parents about particular behavioral issues their children are experiencing, whether it be biting another child or just "acting out" in general. I'm one of those parents, afterall, who occasionally asks for the opinions and advice of others. I've been a mom for seven years and currently have three kids, yet most times I feel I have none of the answers. And while we actively seek advice about parenting and opinions about what really works, what we don't want to hear is "spank the kid." As far as I am concerned, spanking is the easy way out and does nothing to remedy the problem. I believe if any of us were going to spank our child(ren), we would just do it and not first openly ask for help via a discussion. Although I have spanked my children in the past, it's always been on an occasion when anger and frustration have gotten the best of me. Is there a parent out there who, in a rational state of mind, spanks his or her child? I think back to when I was a child and was slapped, spanked, had my hair pulled, and was verbally abused. I didn't like it, and it has taken me a long time to forgive my parents. And I was only able to forgive them because I understand the reasons behind their anger. I wasn't the reason why they were angry, I was simply a target. All I know is, I don't want my own children to be scared of me the way I was of my parents. Violence of any sort against your children is not okay. And I think that what we, as loving parents, would like to get from other loving parents from mylot discussions are some real solutions.