My Friend Sells Her Body For Money, what should I do?
By shedii
@shedii (1486)
India
January 1, 2007 4:25am CST
See I made this new friend Tina few months back who is also studying in the institute where am studying. We really became good friends within last 4 months. Last week when I went to my old classmate's house, I saw Tina in the lane from upstairs of the house & I asked my ex-classmate does she know Tina who is also studying in the same institute with me. I was shocked when my old friend told me that Tina sells her body for money & her mom also does the same. Both of them work (sell their body) in the Hotel nearby where many kind of people come. They started this work due to financial burdens.
I think I should stop talking to her now. But again I think she is really a good person & I also don't know what financial problem she has or what are the circumstances that made her to do so. I am really confused. What should I do? Should I continue being her friend or stop talking to her?
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128 responses
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
1 Jan 07
You should introduce more customers to her lol ... just kidding but what can you do to help her ... after all it is her wish to sell herself ...
@shedii (1486)
• India
1 Jan 07
I don't know I can help her or not, but first I need to decide I should remain her friend or not...anyways thanks for your response!
@peavey (16936)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I think you've got some good answers. If you're concerned about your own reputation, you might want to be more discreet about your friendship, but do talk to her. It could be something that she feels trapped into doing and you may be able to present her with a way out, who knows?
After talking with her, then you can decide whether to continue the friendship or not, based on whether your values and hers line up. It's hard to be good friends with others when there are important things in their lives that we can't agree with.
@kingatul (849)
• India
1 Jan 07
what you can do is talk to her . Even though she sells her body she is not a bad person as you are saying . She might be having her own problems or reasons for doing such a task. But you know you should not be looking at a person's profession when you make friends.
@shedii (1486)
• India
1 Jan 07
One shouldn't be looking at person'r profession looks good in books. If we talk practically, society would see me also in other way. I can support & fight for my friend, but I can't bring bad name to my family in the society. Tina is really a good human being so I want to help her, but am confused thinking about my family & society. Thanks for your response!
@amitraina004 (5)
• United States
1 Jan 07
its not about professiion ,its about being right or wrong... so you think it's justified in selling body it not whynot break up frienship... but you shoudnt leave the other aspect of the story you never know what the reason for her selling the body could be,so better talk to her once... and dont quickfire your decision... just talk once,, see how the story turns out to be
@ilovejim85 (2)
• France
1 Jan 07
Here's my opinion. Talk to her first and unless your going into politics stay her friend. The only ones who will use this against you are hypocrits and those who do not know the facts. If you know the facts then as long as you are comfortable with her you should continue to be her friend. Just look at your old friend and see how evil the thought of this hole situation is. As long as she is not forced to do this it is her choice and if you made friends with her before knowing does that change with her line of work. Lots of people look down on janitors too and they are not bad people either.
@chaitrakrishnan (181)
• India
1 Jan 07
My sincere advice is to cut any sort of relations with her...... Friendship with such people is harmful to you and also donot let this for any one to know. Though she is a very good person its dangerous to continue friendship with her... It may effect you in the future.....
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
2 Jan 07
How is it harmful and dangerous to her?? Her friend isnt obviously forcing this life on her so it should have no bearing whatsoever
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
1 Jan 07
YOUR OLD FRIEND WHO INFORMED YOU ABOUT TINAS CHARACTER MIGHT BE WRONG ALSO. CAREFULLY OBSERVE AND COME TO YOUR OWN CONDLUSION, IF YOU CONCLUDE THAT YOUR OLD FRIEND IS RIGHT, KEEP AWAY FROM TINA AT ONCE. AS WHATEVER GOOD TINA MIGHT BE, THE SOCIETY WILL NOT ACCEPT SINFUL ACTS. THERE ARE CHANCES THAT SOCIETY MIGHT INCLUDE YOU ALSO IN THE SAME LIST. HAVENT YOU HEARD PEOPLE SAYING ?" SHOW ME YOUR FRIEND, I WILL TELL YOU WHO ARE YOU ?
@craftwave (1338)
• United States
1 Jan 07
It means you can tell what a person is like by the friends they have. Here are a few others that mean the same thing.
Birds of a feather flock togehter.
Painted with the same brush.
I know that it isn't always true but most people will associate you with what they see your friends doing.
@shedii (1486)
• India
1 Jan 07
I am also thinking to first talk to Tina & make sure my old classmate said truth or what. And yes, if my old friend was true I feel society may see me also like that or something like that if I continue being her friend. But she studies in our istitute where she is friend of many girls like me. I am still confused. What do you mean by "SHOW ME YOUR FRIEND, I WILL TELL WHO ARE YOU?"...anyways thanks for responding!
@cd_saurav (34)
• India
1 Jan 07
you should not leave her or stop talking to her afterall she is your friend and its financial constraints which has got her into this no one would want to sell her body otherwise. try to find her a good decent job so that she can come out of the financial crunch.
@tamtam (23)
• Philippines
1 Jan 07
I think you must not judge her by what she does for a living. Even if she sells her body, it doesn't mean that she is a bad person. Get to know her better. She might be a great friend. Also, why not help her financially by helping her to make a business of her own. Don't be too judgmental.
@shedii (1486)
• India
1 Jan 07
I am not being judgemental. I am confused. She is really a good friend of mine now, but the society may see me in another way if I continue to be her friend. I am ready to help her financially, but I don't want people in society take me in other way due to friendship with her & say something wrong to my family. I can't hurt my family. And, my family is always with good name & my dad would put full restiction on me if he comes to know one of my friend is doing this. So am really confused still. Thanks for your response!
@azeemjz (445)
• Pakistan
1 Jan 07
Lady look you should not break up the friendship. But let her know that she is doing the wrong job. And she must find some more job. You can also help her. But when you go with her any where people also have a doubt on you that you are also the wrong person. SO better thing is that keep her aware that this is totally wrong thing. And you also try and fing a job for her. Because as you say she is a nice person.
@kumikosuzuki83 (161)
• Japan
1 Jan 07
Support your friend and help her! Give her a big hug!!
kumiko
xo
@vsimplymec (22)
• Singapore
1 Jan 07
If i were you, i would observe her for some time and then sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her. See what are the problems she is facing and what she has to say for herself. Do not go through other people as that may not be accurate all the time.
@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
1 Jan 07
I think you should go and talk to her.
Ask her why does she's doing this, and see if you can help her.
I don't think you should stop being her friend, because I think that you also
don't want people will stop be your friend because you're doing something
that for there opinion looks wrong.
So, if she's not hurting you, then keep being her friend.
And as I said before, help her !
@shenzhouplaza (1676)
• China
12 Mar 07
feel very sorry for your friend Tina. Guess she really has some serious financial problem.otherwise she will not do that. It is not necessary for you to break with her. It is her right to do something she wants or has to.
@raj9433327675 (1241)
• India
13 Feb 07
She has surely to do such.You cant stooped her.The only think you can do give some lesson to her about some bad and good sight of this proffesion.I think They are needy family and they have no sabstitute surely.Hey give her moral support dont leave her friendship.Good luck.Ok?
@justinus (1104)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
12 Mar 07
Well, pls remember phrase : a friend in need is friend indeed. But about money it's difficult case except we are rich people, so that we don't think about money ....we can help. In case we are only ordinary peoples, our social responsibilities to our friends must be limited to idea, good/wise advise ....but it will be depended to our friends openess ...
@arc_78 (23)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 07
It surprise me that some of the members actually saying that you should breakup the friendship. Who are we to judge people? why? Are they better than your friend? Dont judge a book by its cover.. You yourself should comfront her regarding this matter.. Not asking people what you should do..
