Suspicion? Is he crossdressing? How do you cope?
By nuffsed
@nuffsed (1271)
January 1, 2007 9:52am CST
Is your man a secret(closet)crossdresser?
Crossdressing is one of the great mysteries of modern sociology. There is no answer to WHY do they do it. Some women do it, but very few compared to the fairly common incidence of men who want to wear womens clothes.
Because of the secrecy and stigma, there are no reliable figures, but sales on auction sites and transvestite clothing sites online indicate that this is by no means a rarity.
Is it so harmful? Marriages and family structures are being wrecked, simply because it is not understood.
Have you experience of this problem?
I would like very much to help and advise, via email, or private message, especially if you are in the U.K.
I can sugest good info and contacts.
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4 responses
@hjalj1221 (46)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I am a woman, and have none done this, unless you consider me wearing mens T-shirts on a daily basis strange:0). But, my older brother is a whole different story. He is 9 years older than I am, and when I was about 8 years old we had a shared closet, between our bedrooms, and me , my sister and our little brother, saw him in his bedroom one day, prancing around in a pair of womens stockings, heals, lacy little panties, and a lacy bra, checking himself out in the mirror (talk about needing therapy, thats where I was after seeing this). Then just a couple of years ago, he had been living with me, and when he moved out, he left a bunch of stuff. When I went in to clean it all out, I lifted up the bed and there was a bag full of womens clothing in it. The only problem I have with any of this really is that he will not be honest about himself, and who he is. When confronted, he lies about it, and says "It's not my stuff, I don't know how it got there.", and will actually blame either my boyfriend, or my brother-in-law, depending on who he is living with at the time.
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@nuffsed (1271)
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6 Jun 07
It is not usual for a transvestite to deny the fact to a woman, especially if she is not showing anger and seems a possible ally. Your Brothers' dishonesty is a real shame, it indicates that he has not really accepted himself as a transvestite. He is troubled. All you can do is wait for the time when he sees that you are not going to condemn him and will keep his secret. You must not let it trouble you, it is his problem. He needs you, or will one day. Forget it if you can, for now. Bless you Sister you are a gem.
@missinghim (1339)
• United States
6 Jan 07
No... I can't say that my man's a crossdresser. I can't even see him having that ambition.
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Thanks goodness that my husband isn't a crossdresser, I'm not sure how I'll take it.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
hi,
if a man have a secret cabinet then its a mystery for me why he needs to have and keep those clothes very secured,but i still never meet that kind of male even in my past boyfriends,and if i will have in the future then i will ask hi straight and directly.
