Troubels... I need Help....
@raphael_volts (1131)
India
January 2, 2007 2:10am CST
People tostart with it....
I am in love with a girl and we are together since a year.. it al started last january...
actually she proposed to me... and don't know how but things went on real well... we grew stronger and strnger and so did our love for each other... we used to chat a lot on the phone... and meet almost daily when she was here... but last july she got admitted to St. Xaviers college Kolkata... and now she lives there... far from me.. but thats really not a problem cause still we talk daily... and I even went to Kolkata using my pocket money and some help from my friends... but when she came back for her holidays last october back to delhi... her and my parents came to know about our relations... her parents kind of accepted it ad m trying my best to make them accept me as well but as my parents came to know about it they are creating a big fuss... they are constantly telling me to break off from her and find somebody of our own community as she isa bengali ad i am not but we both are sure christians... and so they always keep on trying to keep me away from her by not letting me out for too long like not even for 2 hrs without some good reason and even try to send me out somewhere far so that we don't meet... till now i haven't let them keep us away but... i don't know what to do to make them understand that how much i need her and they should really not divide in the name of community... please people help me out to as what i should do now... m doin my engineering and m in second year and as m sure to get a good placement... what should i do should i break off with my parents after completing my engineering???... but that would be cheating them.... what should i do to keep us all together and make them understand...me and my love???
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6 responses
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I think you should follow your heart. It will tell you what to do. True love is a wonderful thing. Being best friends with your spouse is a true blessing. Family is also a wonderful thing. Each of the relationships that we have is based on different kinds of love. You have to decide how to handle each different kind with the respect that they deserve. Good luck
@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
14 Mar 07
Thanks for replying village, You are a true friend. This is one of the most serious problems that I am facing in my life and thank you for suggesting me the way. I will try to respect each and every relation that I have and try my best to keep them all together.
Thanks A lot For Your Reply
Take Care
May GOD Bless YOU
@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
21 Mar 07
You definitly deserved that... Thanks For Your Response And Concern
May GOD Bless YOU
@neon2000 (2756)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Yes, follow your heart and mind. After all, you are the one spending life with her not your parents. You are old enough and can make your own decision for yourself to be happy for the rest of your life. Tell them it is personal matter that when it comes to heart matter, it is you to decide about it because you are the one to spend life with her.
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@amaramar (89)
• India
15 Mar 07
If you truly love her and she is equally committed to you... then GO FOR IT! Always REMEMBER, in the end its only HER with whom u gonna spend ur entire life with... not with ur relatives or parents.
Just imagine ur later life...getting married to someone u DON'T really love & ur mind always thinking of HER while ur wife & kids at ur side, it'll be a horrible scene, right??
So, brother... listen to ur heart, put an effort & HOLD HER FOREVER BEFORE ITS TOO LATE, make haste!! Once you two got married... ultimately ur parents & relatives will understand, everyone one will, after all we r all human beings and we understand and realize now or lately.
For now, STAY IN TOUCH WITH HER. Finish off ur engg & get a job quickly. God bless you two.
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@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
16 Mar 07
Thanks amar dude for your reply and advice and I am also thinking of the same but still I will one last time after my job try to persuade my parents for accepting her.
Thanks A lot For YOUR reply
May GOD Bless YOU
@sandeep_2991984 (675)
• India
15 Mar 07
have they met her? first let have them look at her if she will be able to win their hearts then their will be no trouble. i think you should fix a meeting between them. if after that they wont agree than you should listen yoyr heart but my advice for you would be dont do anything against your parents wish since there is no precious thing more than parents.
May God bless you and help you.
My best wishes with you
take care
your friend
sandy
@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
15 Mar 07
Parents are prcious but don't you think they must also understand me. They have straight away said that If it were somebody of my community then it wold have been fine.. Can you beat that.... any ways you are not the one to be blamed.
Thanks for your precious advice dear friend and as for me I will always try to keep everybody together and make them understand her importance in my life.
@evangleen (218)
• India
22 Mar 07
try this dude.
You so have fallen in love with a girl whom ur parents r not ready to accept.Whatever you choose to do keep this in mind that the girl even if marries you, wont get support from ur family so she is completly dependant on ur love.If you fall down she will too.So right now try to be as strong as you can. families matter a lot but thery dont need ur emotuons rather ur support.so if they get it they will respect ur needs and emotions too. so try to have faith on the girl and start becoming her strength and then keep her with you no matter how against you have to turn to ur family.this does not mean u r cheating them coz you will help them forever too.Its better to hav eur girl as a right rather than mercy of ur family.
@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
25 Mar 07
why don't you handle me like this in reality as well!!! Thanks For the response
Take Care
May GOD Bless YOU
