dont insincere people make you crazy?

I don't forgive ANYONE that talk behind my back. If you bold enough to talk behind my back, you bold enough to voice your thoughts or opinions about me to my face. I loose respect real quick for anyone that can't be an adult and come to me with whatever is on their mind, especially if it concerns me...

No, you don't forgive them because as soon as you turn your back they are doing it again. They can't help themselves because it keeps their minds off there own short comings.

It depends on how many times they did it. If they were a repeat offender? they'd be gone! There's no reason that if someone has a problem with you, that they shouldn't feel comfortable coming to you..if they're really your friend, that is.

I can forgive but not forget. I can't stay in touch with such people. I like people who can look at my face and into my eyes, and tell me they have a problem with me.

People talk about other people behind their back all the time. I think it is natural. However, I always stick to one rule...I never say something that I wouldn't say to the persons face. Ususally if I do say something about someone, it is to their face, but sometimes that person isn't around and they come up in conversation, so yes I do share my opinion, but i will stand behind it and almost always tell that person what I said once I do see them. I don't think that makes me insincere. It is the people who say one thing to your face and another behind your back that drive me nuts. I do not have friends like that so there is no forgiveness needed. I suppose you could say I don't forgive that behavior and that is why I don't have friends like that. I prefer to surround myself with honest upfront people. I would rather hear the truth, even if it isn't pleasant than to hear what a person thinks I want to hear, or something that is a lie. That's just me.

Hmmm... I don't know that I would so much forgive them as confront them. If I had reliable information about something said behind my back that offended me or that was wrong or even just inaccurate in some way, I'd be inclined to speak to the person directly. I really dislike gossip-y behavior. I do find that I've experienced the insincerity you described more frequently in work settings, though, rather than with people that I consider friends... and some of it seems to be a reflection of people's lack of confidence or being threatened in the hierarchy of the workplace.