Strip Clubs - Is is Cheating?

@nuttmeg (441)
United States
January 3, 2007 4:11am CST
Do you consider being in a relationship and going to strip clubs to be cheating, and why? I'm just curious, really. I had to listen to an hour or so debating between a few friends of mine the other night as they discussed this, and would like your take on it.
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16 responses
@Chapman15 (1501)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I've had girlfriends that think both ways on this issue, and I also think it depends on the context in which the person is going... For instance if it's one of my buddies birthdays and he wants to go to a strip club, I'm not going to be the only one to not celebrate with him! If I was going by myself all the time and spending a load of money to go to the "Champagne room" then yes there is a good reason to be mad at me... If you're a guy with a bunch of friends or happen to be living in Texas where they regularly have business meetings in strip clubs, then it's okay! If a guy goes with different intentions the girl should be upset!
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@Chapman15 (1501)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Well I know everyone can make a mistake, but if you don't trust someone enough to let them go out with their friends then they probably aren't a trustworthy person. And if you don't trust thier friends then you're going to have a lot of arguments... I personally have never been all that into strip clubs, just because most of the time you spend a bunch of money for little gain as I see it... I guess in the end it all depends on how jealous of a girl you're with!
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@sizzle3000 (3038)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I don't consider going to strip clubs cheating. I do think that if your significant other is going you need to discuss maybe the amount of money that is being spend here. I don't have a problem with the looking part as long as they come home to be satisfied. If you are living together than the money both of you make is put into the living expenses, this means that the money spend tipping strippers many need to be discussed as well as other financial problems. In some cases the act of going to the strip clubs do not cause problems but the money spent can cause a financial hardship for the couple in general.
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@nuttmeg (441)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I have yet to hear money being brought up as the potential problem, interesting thought and pretty true! I suppose strip clubs could be just as addictive as gamlbing in a sense, not to mention using part of the significant other's money or combined income to feed the habit *Shiver*. Thanks!
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@joanna07 (111)
• Ireland
8 Jan 07
it is cheating such a disrespectful thing to I would dump my boyfriend if he was hanging going to strip clubs and find someone else with more respect. IT is Definitly cheating!!
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@nuttmeg (441)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Thank you! The majority of the women I spoke to that night felt the same way, with only a fex exceptions. I almost wonder how honest their husbands were being at the time with the wives/girlfriends standing nearby. Hmm!
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@Kalachia (230)
• United States
7 Jan 07
If I found out my boyfriend had gone to a strip club, I'd be so pissed off...it would make me feel like I'm not good enough, so he has to go off looking for other girls to take my place physically...
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@nuttmeg (441)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Thank you for your response :) I can definitely see that as making someone feel like they were being replaced by another woman in a sense, physically at least.
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@pvleroux (607)
3 Jan 07
My only question is why would you want to go to a strip club. I think the wife or husband should be enough for you.
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@nuttmeg (441)
• United States
3 Jan 07
Yeah, some of my friends were saying this too (mostly women), while others argued the opposite (mostly men, or the few women who seemed "okay" with it). Thank you!
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@pvleroux (607)
3 Jan 07
I dont think if someone who does it will disagree with it. If they are honest then they will admit that their relationships is not where it should be.
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
18 Jan 07
i agree what you have at home has to be better than some dark glitz
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5 Jan 07
I wouldn't consider it cheating but i would be dissapointed if my boyfriend chose to visit one, especially without me! As long as he didn't touch any of the strippers i could forgive him but might have to hire some male strippers to get a balance. :]
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@nuttmeg (441)
• United States
5 Jan 07
hehe that sounds fair. bring me with you, at least lol. thanks for the response (+)
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@Idefix72 (502)
• Italy
5 Jan 07
good answer ...
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• Philippines
24 Jan 07
i have scanned through some responses here and i noticed that all of them has great points, bit more complicated since i read someone mentioning about joint income of your significant other and spending loads of money for a couple of hours strip show..mine's simple..i think i would only be called cheating if your doing it wihout telling your partner. I mean if you go to a strip club to celebrate a guy's pal with a couple of friend to have fun then its okay. But if your significant other does it by himself without bothering to tell you what happen..well that's a different story
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@drewpee (32)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
i really find this topic really interesting. but im a guy so i cant really answer this. hehe i would just be biased about it. but i asked one of my close girl- friend(not my girlfriend) and this is what she said. "no? it depends on what his purpose of going there. he might be just invited by his friends or whatever. its up to him if he could tolerate whatever's gonna happen there. or he could decide as well of whether to go or not if he knows that some things there are beyond his control already or if he thinks that he will be cheating on me once he goes there. then trust would set in. even faithfulness and honesty. he might cheat on me or i'd concider it cheating if he lied of not going there at all." `to touch,to move,to inspire, that is the true gift of dance -bboydLet
16 Jan 07
I wouldnt consider it cheating if he didnt touch any of them, but i still would be happy about it. I wud feel like i wasnt good enuff, i wudnt go to see male strippers as i would feel guilty about looking at other men, when i have a perfectly great boyfriend.
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
15 Jan 07
I don't see this as cheating, at the same time I don't care much for going to strip clubs. I've actually been to a strip club with my wife (my wife at the time). Not a big deal. It's the same thing everytime. There's only so many different ways you can take your clothes off and dance around a pole.
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@krysy1982 (1042)
• United States
12 Jan 07
If it was an occasional thing it would be okay. If it became an everyday thing I would have to worry about.
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@Idefix72 (502)
• Italy
5 Jan 07
no, i consider it simply ..interesting. it's a work and all appreciate good work ..
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• United States
26 Jun 07
Seeing woman other than your spouse and wanting them sexually is cheating. I think that it would be hurtful to do that to your family.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
I didnt have a problem with my husband going to the strip club when we were dating, because I knew it was just a guy thing. But then we broke up for a few weeks, and he later admitted to me that he had cheated on me in the last week of us being together. When we got back together, that was my first rule..no more strip clubs. To know that he is paying someone else to put their boobs or whatever else in his face, was hurtful after knowing that he had already gotten it from someone else for free while we were together. Now that we are married, he doesnt even want to go to a strip club..however..role playing at home can help alot with that. Sometimes if you add variety to the norm at home, they dont want to go out and have someone else dance for them, etc. He also knows that I get bored seeing him in (or out) of the same boxers all the time, and realizes he has to spice up things on his end as well.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Nope! I think it would be cheating if you will decide to pursue a relationship with the stripper! I guess, that would put you in a big trouble.
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I dont think it is cheating but could be adulterous behavior if you lust after her like your wife
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