suggest me how to deal with my Girl Friend

@pvraju (37)
India
January 3, 2007 4:46am CST
hi this is raju, and i have a close girl friend of course she is my colleague , she likes me a lot and i too ,so far we have a great relationship as friends , but recently she is putting some restrictions on my behavior , she is feeling uncomfortable when ever i used to move close to some other girl , and she is spending most of her time with me, n she is asking would u like me as if im like this or which way i have to change for u , she is taking so much care for me n she is moving too much close to me.... now im unable to understand weather it is LOVE or Friendship if she loves me im also very happy , but before that if i propose first our friendship may spoil. im unable to decide wat t do plzz if u love any body or if u know girls mentality then give me a good suggestion
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• Romania
3 Jan 07
Hy Raju i think it's pretty obviouse that the girl like's you a lot,i wonder why you are uncertain?I don't think it's a bad idea to start a relationship with her,the reason for her acting like that it's because she whant's you to get the message that she like's you,and that she whant's more than your friendship.Don't judge the girl so hursh because if you start now a relationship it doesn't mean you will stay with her for the rest of your life,or that you are chained for life together,so enjoy the life discover you and if you whant descover her,you can have many surprises.
@pvraju (37)
• India
3 Jan 07
i too had such a type of feeling but im unable to expose before her , actually i dont know how to clarify from her side , i dont know how to respond for this type of situation ..
@banta78 (4326)
• India
3 Jan 07
Hi raju, i feel that you should continue with your relationship as it is going well for both of you and enjoy and have fun. i think she might be getting too possessive of you or is jealous of you being with ohtwer girsl shows that she is not too a secure in the relationship. Maybe she is not sure of you or herself or she think she has to attract your attention which is not good in the long run. i think it might be a crush or infatuation or she is flirting with you or is testing you. it is hard to find what is going on in her head,. epsecially since you have not given the whole picture. I would advise you to be friendly with her like you are now, just be your usual self and don't get too excited as she has not proposed or said you anything about her love for you, so stop dreaming. I think if she gives you clear hints by gestures smiles or anything else that she wants you in her life then be frank and talk to her in friendly way and find out if she has the same feelings for you. And then take it from there. good luck.
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@psyd_1 (469)
• Philippines
4 Jan 07
exatcly..i agree...
@banta78 (4326)
• India
3 Jan 07
Hi raju, i feel that you should continue with your relationship as it is going well for both of you and enjoy and have fun. i think she might be getting too possessive of you or is jealous of you being with ohtwer girsl shows that she is not too a secure in the relationship. Maybe she is not sure of you or herself or she think she has to attract your attention which is not good in the long run. i think it might be a crush or infatuation or she is flirting with you or is testing you. it is hard to find what is going on in her head,. epsecially since you have not given the whole picture. I would advise you to be friendly with her like you are now, just be your usual self and don't get too excited as she has not proposed or said you anything about her love for you, so stop dreaming. I think if she gives you clear hints by gestures smiles or anything else that she wants you in her life then be frank and talk to her in friendly way and find out if she has the same feelings for you. And then take it from there. good luck.
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@pvraju (37)
• India
3 Jan 07
thank u very much , i ll maintain that friendship but she is expecting more than friendship from me ,im very clear about this..
@royrules1 (180)
• India
3 Jan 07
yes girls mentality is the same,i think the girl likes u and girls are not open at all times she is trying to express her love at many times but u are not able to understand so the better way to treat this realtion ship is talk to her in a centimental way because these girls always go behind centiments know her likes and dislike that will definately help u solve the prroblem ping me in case of any help !
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• India
4 Jan 07
Hey dude dont behave like a Kid, Go ahead and propose her.She will say yes to u.Dont wait any more .If u wont propose her u will be the loser and u will make your life a living hell.It is not just a friendship between u and her but it is something more than it.so please dont waste your time by thing whether u will lose her after Proposing her....
• India
3 Jan 07
You love the person how they are not the way you want them to be. If, these kind of things happen then its preety difficult to survive together in the married life. So, decide twice before you make a decesion.
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@lulylove (1560)
• Brazil
4 Jan 07
I think as you, however I believe that we do not choose of who we will go to like, or not. I believe that you must use to advantage each moment of its life to be happy. Cláro that has that to evaluate well before going in front, but very does not delay pos to wait excessively never is good.
• United States
4 Jan 07
hey Raju i am an american guy so maybe the tradition is diff, but if you have a tender feeling for her also. you can buy her some nice littel gifts to express your love, like flowers, and sit very close to her. if you can tell her that you feel love for her go ahead. If you feel you want to protect her feelings then dont flirt with the other girls too much, then i guess you love her too. Love will grow but takes some time.
@fsk147 (27)
• Qatar
4 Jan 07
i agree with that
@runsgame (2031)
• India
3 Jan 07
raju bhayya , pls do not get confused. your gf is behaving wonderfully. this is the indian that too south indian custom, wht ever u call love, etc., once the girl falls love with a guy, she won't allow the bf to even smile with the other girls. becoz , this is the indian tradition. indian womens first surrender themselves with the men and live for them for ever. try to understand the feelings of your gf and be happy with her. U will find,it later that she herself ask u to talk with many girls - the oppertunity will come to u later . go ahead. of course it is love love love . U know one more think , even in the arranged marriage , after marriage the wife will not allow or see her hub to talk with any other girl . this is not something wrong with their mind. this is due to our own indian custom. all the best
@rash219 (808)
• United States
4 Jan 07
i jus hope this so called custom goes on many more years to come...
• United States
4 Jan 07
You both need to sit down and tell each other how you feel honestly.If you are true friends and you love one another then the other should understand and be patient.
@anabaik (206)
• Malaysia
4 Jan 07
I agree with you. That's a good one.
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
3 Jan 07
See, she wants to move her friendship with you to a next level. She wants to know you more and understand you. Your preferences and likings. That maybe her way to evaluate you... and then will be her decision about marrying you. But my advice to you is.. you must first evaluate whether your family will accept her and this can go to the next level. Only then you must proceed.
@pvraju (37)
• India
3 Jan 07
my parents gave me that freedom thats not a problem , even more we are financially and mentally independent we are working as software Engg. in same company , first i need to conform weather she loves me or not
• United States
4 Jan 07
they could just talk it out...
• India
4 Jan 07
many say one girl can understand other girl more.so definitely she is in love with u.so u to speak with her in indirect way that u love her.as u said ur good friends so dont say her directly with her.take ur friends help r someother help and let her know that u love her.a good friends can b good wife and husband. but before u step into it u think that u should b very bold to face any problems u may face in future.all the best raju
@yorb24 (2179)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Well it sounds to me like she might be interested in you. You say you are worried about your friendship, that it might ruin it. I suggest talking to a mutal friend of both of yours to find out if she does have feelings for you. That way it won't ruin anything that both of you have right now.
• India
4 Jan 07
It seems that you doing late to tell to your friend that you loves her. Be fast and say that you love her. If she got only friendship from you she didn't exceed her limit. She got concern about you that indicates she got love with you. Wish you all the best.
• India
4 Jan 07
don't think just propose her...... we die with lots of things in our hearts which we couldn't express so don't be late make ur relationship clear... wanna propose than go ahead do it
• India
4 Jan 07
u r lucky 2 hv a person who takes care of u...she would like if u propose her coz girls never make the first move.she is giving u so many signs, i think she is in luv with u... all the very best...god bless u..
@siddhinfo (1500)
• India
4 Jan 07
The way your girl friend had change her behaviour and the attitude towards you means she had something special for you. She must be in your love. It is boy who have to take first step girls are always reserved and boy should understand them. Tel her that you love her and see her reaction if she act positive then you can propose her. Make your love great it is Love Signal. As Akshay says "Signal Pyar Ka Signal" it is signal for you from your girlfriend. Go ahead I wish you all the best.
• India
4 Jan 07
Go ahead and tell her that you love her. Only one thing can be made out from her behaviour is that she is madly in love with her. Girls try to change only for the men whom they love and not for any other guy friend.
• India
4 Jan 07
I think she loves you & she wants you to be her life partner,becouse when it was a friendship no restriction was there,now that she devoloped a love for you she wants to take a special care of you,wants to be more close to you,So i feel you should go ahed and propose her.
@ausp7883 (47)
• India
4 Jan 07
After your parents agree to this... then u propose to ur girl frnd ... let it be formal... means... take her to any eat out.... tell her that u want to say something to her... just observe her reaction and then tell her that u would like to marry her.... break the pot at once.... and also tell her that u parents have agreed to it and only thing ur waiting for, is her answer. Ask her to keep in mind her parents too... and tell her that u would proceed only if her parents agree else u both will stay as good friends forever..... By doing this u can get the answer from her if she accepts or if she doesnot love u... even then u people can stay as good frnds.... Have a positive attitude always and u will succeed... All the best
@ausp7883 (47)
• India
4 Jan 07
Hi raju. i see from the previous discussions that your parents have given u enough freedom.... giving u freedom is different from accepting the fact that u like to marry a girl of ur choice. Most of the parents tell the same in the beginning but later they oppose... So its better to discuss with your parents about this and get their approval... but tell them that u have not yet proposed or neither she has... get the point... make it clear to them that she is just your frnd and then proceed...
• Romania
4 Jan 07
i don't understand if you like her too . you gave the impresion that she is just a friend for you. anyhaw what you have to do is simple. all you have to do is to talk to her. explain her how much she means for you as a friendand that you don't want to loose her friendship for a relationshop that might not work.when a girl and a boy were good friends and became lovers, most of the time, the relationship is not working and when it ends un you rarery keeep your friendship. just talk to her and be onest. she will undestand after all.