girlfriend best friends with her recent ex
January 3, 2007 10:29am CST
Is it okay for someones girlfriend to be best friends with her recent ex of 2 years? He still goes over almost every day, takes naps with her, and even goes out to dinner with her. She said nothing is happening between them, that they are just friends. Should someone be concerned?
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3 Jan 07
Yes! DUH - this is totally not appropriate. Even if she really thinks it is harmless and they really aren't doing anything, how long do you think that will last? Do you know any adult couples where the female is best friends with a recent ex? Where the female takes naps with her ex and he is over almost every day - NOO!! That's because they have lived and learned, it NEVER works.
4 Jan 07
Frankly its not normal to take nap with ex! and certainly its not normal not to scream about it! You better have a heart to heart talk with her as I think she not yet over with her ex and some part of her(not a minor one) still left behind and if you cant see writting on the wall then Good Luck To You as after all world is full of strange people and strange relationship.
4 Jan 07
I'm not gonna be pushy and say "ZOMG. LEAVE HER", but I will tell you that's definitely not normal. It's not bad to be friends with an ex love, and I don't really see a problem with them going out for dinner once in a while. But it's not normal for a girl to be 'taking naps' with other guys. ESPCIALLY, if she's still got feelings inside for him. Personally I'd be asking questions if I found out my boyfriend was taking "naps" and spending a lot of time with one of his exgirlfriends. Before you get rid of her, try talking to her. If it really bothers you and she wants to work her relationship with YOU, she'll understand and she'll stop. But I'd be concerned. Talk to her and find out exactly what's going on. You don't want to waste your time with someone like that. Good luck!