Should my friend lie about his affair?

January 3, 2007 3:57pm CST
A friend of mine (who is married, and has been for 5 years) has been having an affair where we work for over 6 months. Recently he was asked by his wife if everything was OK, but avoided the question. He now feels torn between his marriage and the other relationship and started asking for advice. What would you say in this situation?
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@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
3 Jan 07
Well in this day & age - it's unfortunate that people turn to others without dealing with the issues at hand!!! And by avoiding the question - he's just making matters worse for himself. I would hope that he would take the time to sit down and find out what's not working in his marriage and see if there's anything he can do to make things better and if not then he needs to be open & honest with his wife so that they can end things properly although if she doesn't know about the affair - whew I definitely feel for him!!! I find it sad when people put themselves into a situation like this!!! I sure hope he's able to come out of this feeling like he's done the right thing!!!
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3 Jan 07
I agree. I think he's basically trying to have the best of both world's and now the situation has got out of hand. His wife doesn;t yet know about the affair - but she knows something is up. It will be a difficult one - I feel for him too - although as you said, he chose this path.
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• United States
3 Jan 07
Sounds like he's got a great friend that can be there for him whatever he decides to do and I am glad to hear that you agree that he really has put himself into a tight situation!!! I will hope for the best for him!!!!
3 Jan 07
Thanks for the kind words!
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