Now a days,Why only "I" ,why are we so rude.I condemn this....

India
January 4, 2007 11:54am CST
now a days its a common way of living that people want to live only with themselves,no body else,no family,not even mom dad,brothers ,sisters ,with some or no friends.why do we leave our families so easily when we get some kind of job,or when we get married,what if our parents left us when we were born,its sick mentality.everyone wants to lead individualistic life but what is so great in it,even dogs and cats do that,then why do u call urself human. is it the only way to show modernity that u leave alone with ur family leaving ur parents at some oldage homes.
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21 responses
• United States
5 Jan 07
That's not true at all. More people live with their families/parents than you would think, and if not that, then they live with roommates, or with a spouse. You asked why we leave our families so easily when we get some kind of job or when we get married. First of all, we leave when we get married because we want to establish our own family, with just us and our spouse. It's good of course to stay in contact with parents, but when you're under the parents' roof, you live by the parents' rules, and married couples need to get out on their own and establish their own precedent, their own household. As for when we get some kind of job, easy: we need to learn how to grow as individuals, and we can't grow to our full potential when we are still living with our parents. You asked "what if our parents left us when we were born". That's not anywhere near the same thing. When we are children, we are dependent on our parents for everything. Our parents are NOT dependent on us. And moreover, most parents also want the same thing as we do, which is for us to move out on our own, with roommates or with a spouse, and grow independently yet still to be in contact with/friendly to the family. Living alone doesn't automatically mean you're ditching your parents. You can live alone, and still be close with your parents - still talk to them every day or every other day, and you can be the first person they call in case of an emergency, or they can be the first person you call in the same kind of emergency scenario. Why does it have to be so black and white, in your mind?
@leanette (3003)
• India
5 Jan 07
" First of all, we leave when we get married because we want to establish our own family, with just us and our spouse........As for when we get some kind of job, easy: we need to learn how to grow as individuals, and we can't grow to our full potential when we are still living with our parents. " I agree with you totally on this. Of course ALL parents want their children to be successful individuals. But there are some parents that need help from the children and DO grow dependent as they grow old. At this time i feel the children should let the parents live with them instead of dumping them in the old age home (which some people actually do).
5 Jan 07
are old age homes such a bad thing, not that I would ever consider it, but from a point of view of companionship for old people.
@leanette (3003)
• India
5 Jan 07
all i say is do what would be best for your old parents. If old age home is what they like, so be it. when we were kids they took care of us and as they grow old they turn into kids again...so shouldn't we take care of them then?
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@scorpius (1793)
• India
5 Jan 07
that is so true.wahts more worse is that soem of these well to do youngsters actually leave their parents in the middle of the road to fend for themselves.that is so wrong.recently a law came into force in india .whereby if any of the tyouth are found to have driven their parents into the middle of the road out of their own homes then they would be imprisoned.that is so right and actually some of them were arrested since the law came into force! http://www.saveindianfamily.org/blogs/category/misuse-of-498a/ http://churumuri.wordpress.com/2006/08/30/are-indias-elderly-not-being-given-their-due/ http://www.indiatogether.org/2005/jun/pov-chingpar5.htm
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• India
6 Jan 07
My dear friend law can be used to punish these people,but my worry is that still tose parents would be in trouble,my concern is that people shhould love their parents care them ,caress them, make them laugh like they did in our childhood when we were completely incapable of doing anything.but yes if nothing else some people will fear law and atleast some parents will be cared by the law of the country.
• India
5 Jan 07
Life of human beings have become complex. It is because of competitions starting from education till job and also in the future. It is like competition never ends.People become so busy to their work that they neglect their family , friends , relatives and everything and dedicate themselves in their work. Marriage may be a reason for neglecting one's parents or close relatives. A person may neglect his parents because of spouse or children and is done because of the compulsion from immature and selfish life partner. But it is bad and it has to be avoided because by doing such things your own children will follow such steps and dupe you in the future when you become old.
• India
5 Jan 07
u kno the problem from its depth, u must be also knowing the solution.
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
I agree that independence is not the only way to show that you are a progressive thinker.
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• India
5 Jan 07
u have summarized a gr8 message in a single line.
@leanette (3003)
• India
4 Jan 07
if what you say is true, then i must be an exception. I live with my family and love it that way. I agree youngsters are trying to gain freedom, create their own identity but that doesn't mean they abandon their families. I would never be that cruel to dump my parents in the olg age home and those who do that are in no sense' modern'. They are just selfish. I am the child of a single mom and i've decided that she'd definitely live with me whether am married or not.
• India
4 Jan 07
hello dear,i love this u are really a nice lady, iappreciate ur way of living,may god bring all the happiness and prosperity in ur life,god bless u.hey,u once asked for publishing my poetry ,i have got one in an international poetry competition,u can read it,by getteing into one of discussions that i have posted.Thanx.
• India
5 Jan 07
I know that this happens. I think some people like to live by themselves due to some work pressure they have. People under pressure tend to vent it out on the people around them. So it could happen that they would went out their frustration on their families. So in such cases i myself would surely like to live alone for some time. But after some time would really miss my family adn want o live wiht them. While other people might not have been treated well since some time at home and they want to live alone. There are also some people who think that they can concentrate on their work better if they are living off alone. After all they are earning for the family.
• India
6 Jan 07
we need a balance to be maintained between the life outside our homes and also at home.Because we are disturbed due to something wqe shud not disturb others at home.And no family ever disturbs u when u are tensed ,its just that getting away from them we just want to run away from our problems.
• Pakistan
5 Jan 07
Well not possible to live without parents..CozZ if we leave them.. so we are shame.. coz they born us very politely and they help us too much and when they need help and we not response so we are dumb..shameless..so dont b rude n live with chillin life.. we always enjoy ourselve n make happy other..
• India
6 Jan 07
u are very right and u have a very right attitude of how a nice humanbeing should live life,i salute u.
• India
5 Jan 07
Yes now we are acting rude its just to avoid others from asking us help.We now act we are busy and behave like we have no time for others.This make us a different person.WE do forget what our parents have done for me and thinks they are liabilities and forget our duties that we have to do for them. Cats and dogs do teach us to live on our own.but we have responsibilities we have to be done at our parents old age.They need love and affection and we have to give them importance in our life than to just to run for the money.
• India
6 Jan 07
i think the message has reached properly and i believe people will think on this and keep it into their minds and will live a life of a real human
@profclark (512)
• United States
5 Jan 07
because parents aren't on their game.
• India
5 Jan 07
all the ability to play these games are due to the blessings of their parents,that they did in making the career of the person
@maapav (729)
• India
5 Jan 07
I think not everyone are living alone.I live in a Joint Family.I think people have to leave their parents if they have got their job abroad or in a different place and they live separately afte getting married as their spouse can't adjust with their inlaws. I think we can live anywhere and can love our family.Living jointly and fighting daily is also worse.Yes there are poeple who are leaving their parents at oldage homes which is so mean.I think they are real selfish.
• India
5 Jan 07
u are so right ,god bless u ,ur parents and ur family...
• Romania
5 Jan 07
It's not a sick mentality but people don't realise that there not alone and must care about there friend's and family to. It depend on the education that the kid got when he was young. Do you agree that the education is the key?
• India
5 Jan 07
More than education it is the values that parents teach to their children which make tham good humanbeings.when a child watches his/her dad and mom taking care of grandparents,he learns it....
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
For me I don't see it right to put your parent in some oldage home..we should care for them ourselves since they cared for us since birth. People who put their parents in oldage homes don't have a heart..I got married and moved some place else but still makes some time for my parents, my brothers and my sisters..Friends come and go but your family stays with you forever...
@mikaghi (388)
• United States
5 Jan 07
it is a growing trend, although i don't like it i had to do the same out of necessity.i moved out from my country so it is not possible for me to live with my family. some people do it out of choice, they have their reasons. but i would rather see people live with their family, it is helpful in many regards.
• India
5 Jan 07
I have to disagree with you. I dont think everyone is like that. I do believe MANY are. However , here in India , our culture is totally different from the west . It is only after we get married that we start living alone. We certainly dont keep our parents at old age homes! There are some houses in India where the children stay with their parents even after marriage which we say as a joint family. This tradition was very popular some decades ago but is still prevelant even now.
@runsgame (2032)
• India
5 Jan 07
well this depends upon the indivdiduals. and individual families. Most ly i can tell u the reason why people want I , and people live alone from the pratents and creating such of this situation ., it is due to the desire, the wants , the modern world made mad or crazy the person , and they think that they can go to heaven by living alone , they can enjoy as they think , they do not want to hear the parents and they do want to take the advice also. this is the reason . Bu u know on the contrary , i am telling this for the person who read my response, can if he is of the above nature can change his attitude, please love your parents please stay with them please undeerstand the feelings of them pleae be united and be happy Am I wrong in saying?
@SK401001 (934)
• United States
5 Jan 07
That's not true for everybody, yes there are some people out there that look at life that way... I know when my mom reaches that point in live were she can't live on her own. (which at this point is what she wants) I will take care of her. No on the other side that would fit my son. He is 16 and has made clear he would make sure I'll be set in a nice old folks home.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
5 Jan 07
well firstly I do not know which country you live in but here where I live it is not a common way of living that people only want to live by themselves, most children when they growup and have finished school and start their first jobs they normally share with someone as the rent is too dear to live by themselves and it is easier to share, and there are a lot that put their parents in homes but then again it all depends on your upbringing and the country you come from.
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I don't think everybody is in that category some people leave families when they get a job to better themselves.The job might be a good paying and they have no choice but to leave.i wouldn't leave my father in a old age home.he had a stroke and could not take care of his self and i let him stay with me.
• India
5 Jan 07
we are selfish
@uvacerba (427)
• Italy
5 Jan 07
it is like a continuous cycle, ogniuno must take its road sooner or later but it is not said that the tie tightened with the own beloveds gets lost with the time is one of the laws of the life. hello