Have You Ever Hit Anyone?

Awww! I am sorry you feel that way and I am even more sorry that you got to the point of lashing out. It happens. Even though it may not be right, it does happen. I have been on that end of lashing out. Thought I can say, that person was my partner and I had honest reason to lash out. But that did not mean that I should have hit him. And I felt bad for hitting him. Even though I still believed that he deserved to be hit...LOL...I did apologize later for hitting him because I felt bad. I do not like getting to that point. And it is not that often that I will get to that point. It seems it is only my partner that has been able to do that to me. LOL I guess it has to be something from one that counts the most. But then those are also the people that you do not want to lash out at. I am sorry you are feeling this way. I hope the situation gets better.

Wolfie, I absolutely know how you feel. I have, quite literally, both been there AND done that. A few years ago I had temporary custody of my former best friends daughter. My friend and I had been best friends literally since the 7th grade. Her daughter was, at this point, 17 years old. You have to understand too, that I was an active part of this childs life since she was 2. I literally helped to raise her. I was always the one she came to when life was being unfair and her Mom just didn't understand her. She was the one that I spoiled horribly because I had no daughter of my own. As a teenager, she was rapidly turning into a smaller version of her mother. She became a know it all little smart a!s who wouldn't listen to anything. Now, I agreed to take her in for her last year of high school because her family was moving away and she was doing well in school and wanted to finish the year and graduate with her class. I sat her down at the start of this little adventure and explained to her, knowing her as I did, that I was NOT her mother and that I was not going to engage in histrionics with her. I did NOT have to put up with her smart mouth and that if she wanted to continue to live in my home, by my good graces, that she would behave respectfully towards me and my mother, else she would be cordially invited to get the h!ll out. As graduation neared and she grew increasingly large for her proverbial britches, my tolerance for her teenage drama shrank increasingly day by day until the day came when she pushed me beyond my limit. She spoke to me the way she had spoken to her Mother, which I had always taken exception to, but ,as I was not her Mother, I bit my tongue. She screamed at me and argued with me and slammed doors in my home. When I found myself literally ripping the door off the door frame and pinning her to the bed in anger, swinging my fists at her, I knew her time in my home was over. I have NEVER in my life been as angry as that child made me. I have NEVER in my life before raised a hand to anyone in anger. I have never ever let anyone push me to that point before or since that day. She is no longer welcome in my home, nor is her mother, who I have since severed ties with. Temper is an ugly thing and I have always known that I had one deep down inside because of the way that I purposely avoided arguements, but this kid... I could have seriously hurt her, but I caught myself before I did. I felt like a monster afterwards and explained to her that she was going to have leave. She had been warned about her mouth and she had not heeded those warnings. I felt bad about this, but I supported this kid out of my own pocket for almost a year and all I asked was simple respect. Sometimes we do things in anger that we normally won't do. It doesn't neccessarily make us a bad person. I had a really hard time with this for months afterwards and I still feel bad about it, but I can't change it and I had done everything that I knew to do to prevent it.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Did the guy ask for it? Knowing you he probably did ask for it after pushing and pushing. Am I right? You're a good egg, Wolfie. Everyone makes mistakes.

Awww wolfie pet .. you've done nothing wrong .. we all have our breaking points .. most folks who know me say I am the most placid, undemonstrative person they've ever known .. but deep down I know there lurks a 'monster', that when provoked beyond all point of no return, will lash out ... You were provoked, again, it's been coming for a long time, the persons knows you, and uses that knowledge to provoke you, to rub you up the wrong way, they probably take delight in doing it ... and I dare bet they were just as much surprised by your sudden out of character outburst as you were .. But it is now time to make your departure .. it probably was time a few weeks ago in truth .. you know that now ..

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