What do you think is the right age for a child to leave home?

@ESKARENA1 (18261)
January 5, 2007 3:40am CST
My wife left home at 16, I didnt leave home properly until i was 25, what is best, what is too young?
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@hartnsoul (558)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Leaving the house doesn't depend on age, i think. It is based on how responsible and independent you are. You can be of age and yet do not know responsibility. Although, it can differ from country to country because of culture, but here in the Philippines where we value close family relationships, leaving the home is when you are financially capable and responsible for your actions as a citizen.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
ok agreed, but i do wonder if at 16 you are generally open to manipulation from others
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• United States
12 Feb 07
There is no best age to leave home. I think, if the person is mature and can support and look after himself. Then it would be the best time.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
yes, i agree it depends how mature the individual person is, but i do wonder if at 16 a child is vulnerable to manipulation of others
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• Indonesia
12 Feb 07
Hmm... I am already leave home at 18 years old ^^ because I must college in different city ^^ I think... 17++ is enaugh to go from home ^^
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
thank you and good luck in your collegue career, blessed be
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
I think 21. Since young adults need guidance due to emotional instability and confusion on the world he takes in
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
ok, but some young people of 18 are mature enough to handle the outside world dont you think?
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@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
11 Feb 07
fourteen or thirteen to me is too young..anyone older than that's fine. Though I think it depends on the person..some people are still too immature at sixteen so it wouldn't be advisable for them to move out..but as long as they CAN take care of themselves I won't object to anyone moving out of the house in their teens.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
good response, you are exactly right it does depend on the person but i think for most people 16 is too young, not necessarily because they couldnt handle it but because others may well take advantage of them
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@Bizziebod (3497)
12 Feb 07
I left home at the age of 16, not through choice I may add and I coped well. Cousins of mine are 54 and 63 respectively and they are still living at home and have never left either! I think 16 is really a bit too young to leave home nowadays and lets face it in the UK can they afford to with housing prices these days?? I think about 21 is right, you've learned abit and earned a tiny bit by then! Although I guess it depends on how mature the child is!
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
i certainly think 16 is too young, however you are quite correct in your thinking that some young people are mature enough. I do however feel that at 16 a child may be vulnerable to the designs of others
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@runsgame (2031)
• India
7 Jan 07
according to me it would be around 21 and 22., this is the age where maturity will get fully saturated.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
7 Jan 07
yes this looks good to me too but there seems to be those who are ready at 16 and those who feel the need to stay in their parents home much longer
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@lucalucky (1839)
• Italy
5 Jan 07
I can change from country to country. Just to explain in Italy, where I live, usually boys ang girls (but specially boys) leave parent's home very late (sometime when they are 30 or older). I know that it can be sound strange but there are a lot of reasons. First of all that now the studies are longer and seemas that you never finish. In Italy not so often students leave home to go to the college or university, they stay at home during these years. Then, it's not easy to find a job, a real job that give them so much money to survive alone. There is also the big problem of partments tha are very expensive. Last but not least (specially for boys) stay at home with parents it's so easy: someone wash your dress, clean the house, cook for you and you don't have to pay.
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@lucalucky (1839)
• Italy
5 Jan 07
Sorry, just a question. With your nick name sometime write you and sometime your wife. Correct? Thanks
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
5 Jan 07
hahaha yes my friend, thank you for your response. You are quite correct, sometimes it is me, Bob. Sometimes it is my wife, Suzanne. Sorry for any confusion
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@lucalucky (1839)
• Italy
6 Jan 07
Absolutely not a problem. Just curious. Thanks
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@minxy67 (2707)
7 Jan 07
I don't think that there is any set age to leave home, It just depends on the circumstances, my eldest son left home when he was 17 he is now 22 and married with 2 children of his own, but my 16 year old daughter and my other son aged 20 have no plans to leave.
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@minxy67 (2707)
7 Jan 07
I am glad they have not left home yet, I may moan about their untidy rooms, but I would miss them like crazy. :) I don't think that many 16yr olds would be able to cope living away from home.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
7 Jan 07
i think its great that you are happy to still have them at home and yes you will miss them when they go but is 16 wrong for everyone, im not sure
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
7 Jan 07
i agree it depends on the individual. Yet in the U.K there seems to be an understanding that 16 is ok although 18 is more usual
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• India
12 Feb 07
there is no proper age for leaving home.one ur able to take care of ur self and are independent then u can leave home that can anytime after 18 years of age.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
ok, i certainly agree that it varies between each person, but why 18? some people here certainly leave home at 16
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I think a lot depends on the child. I think 16 is too young unless they are extremely mature. Trying to earn a living, pay bills, and live on ones own isn't always easy that early on. Some have trouble at 50 doing that after all. I think once they are ready, when they can make a fair living, can support themselves for example, when they can stand on their own two feet, then they should leave home.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
22 Jan 07
yes agreed, but who decides when all these criteria have been met? the child or the adult?
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@BDnLacy (324)
• United States
6 Jan 07
My husband left home at 15 and I left at 19. We both turned out ok I think. Our 22 y/o left when he was 17, and our 17 joined the Army so he'll be leaving shortly after turning 18. But the rest of them say they will never leave. Which is fine with me. We teach our children to be self sufficant and at the age of 12 they start earning most "extras" they get. As far as how old a child should be, should be based on how that child was raised. Was he/she sheltered? Handed too all it's childhood? Then I say the child should wait till he/she is older. But if the child is not only taught that he/she has to earn what they want in life, but how to take care of themselfs while doing doing so, then they should leave when both them and their parents believe they are mature enough. Like I said, for my husband, that was 15. For me, it was 19.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
7 Jan 07
thank you for a great response you have the right idea i think it certainly depends on the person and how indipendent they are there can not be a fixed age
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@raveena (1353)
• India
12 Feb 07
The time when the kid has finished graduation and has started earning that as per me is the right time for the child to leave home.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
blessed be thank you for your addition to debate
• United States
12 Feb 07
I left home when I went to college but came back and stayed with my grandparents and then moved out when I got married. I think that everyone has to be at that stage in there life and they also need to be over 18.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
12 Feb 07
i agree with you, it seems to be a common age at 18, i wonder why it is legal at 16 in the uk? blessed be
• Egypt
5 Jan 07
the age of majority is eighteen. When the child turns 18 she is free to make all decisions for herself, including housing arrangements, unless there is some reason why she should not be allowed that freedom. For example, an eighteen year-old who suffers from mental illness or is the ward of a court-appointed guardian may not be allowed to make decisions regarding housing. while competent children may choose to leave home at eighteen, parents may still be required to support children beyond their eighteenth birthday.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
5 Jan 07
thank you for your well thought out reply, good luck to you
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@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
5 Jan 07
if i base on my experience sir, i leave to our house when i was 16yrs. old. i don't have a choice because i want to hel them. although my mom she's not agree, but i explain to her that if i always stay there how can i help you? that's what i say to them coz i don't want to see them to suffer. that's why now i know how to stand on my own and i matured early to fight the trial come to my life. but i think supposed to be the right age to left at your home 18yrs of age as long as you matured enough but if you are stil student's maybe if your finish and have an steable job that's the time you left, but me i started to back in school at the age of twenty instead that kind of age mostly you finish in college. in my experience that's my firstyear college and i graduated at the age of 22.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
5 Jan 07
thank you, i think you are right it does depend upon how mature you are as a person, the age in years is just a number
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@rsbrsb (217)
• India
12 Feb 07
at 25 is best age
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@zack_3004 (1207)
• Malaysia
6 Jan 07
in malaysia, normally child will leave their home when they reach 18 years old.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
6 Jan 07
yes it seems to be 18 in most of the world, thank you for that
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@sisan76 (43)
• Singapore
12 Feb 07
I left home when I was 20.
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