How do you learn to kiss a$$?

@rhinoboy (2129)
January 5, 2007 4:21am CST
I have worked for the same company for over eight years now. I can't complain really, because i get a decent salary for what I do and I also get to spend loads of time on mylot while at work!! The problem is that I grow ever-more convinced that the only way to get a promotion is to use the one skill I relly lack - a ss kissing. It's not that I'm opposed to a bit of brown-nosing to climb the ladder, I just have too much self respect to learn through practice and can't find any formal training in the art. Have you sucked your way up the career ladder? Can you help me with any advice on how to play the office politics game?
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• United States
5 Jan 07
Kissing butt doesn't really work anyway. I use to work for other people and did all the crap jobs and more but never got the promotion or the raise. It always seemed to be the ones that would sleep with the boss. I didn't want to be that kind of person so I stopped trying to impress people and did my work. I finally got my own business and now I only have to kiss my own butt. LOL.
@rhinoboy (2129)
10 Jan 07
i realised a while ago that nobody is ever really successful while working for somebody else. For now though, I'm rather attached to that regular salary payment!
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
5 Jan 07
personal interaction - working on a job requires some strength of character, and interpersonal skills
Personally I don't ever but kiss. I am hired and then I work at my best and do anything reasonable that they ASK me to. I spend my time fully there. If they do something wrong I let them know and then consider moving on to a new job depending on the wrongness. Some things are overlooked as they are just them. I earn my way or move on. You can usually tell when it is time to move on. I do look for somewhere that I could work at til I retire. That has just not been for me in this life so far. I am going to send a resume to a newspaper that is asking for part time help. That would be perfect for me so wish me luck.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 Jan 07
Good luck with that. I've gotten into a rut. I know that moving jobs would mean less security / money / benefits for just a chance of advancement. I'm probably scared that another employer would be worse than this one.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 07
Hi Rhino I never did kiss A** when I was working for the last Company and I guess that is why my Illness gave the Guy to get rid of me but it was not just kiss A** he wanted something I refused and from there on I suffered 1 year bullying and then bullied out of my Job All I can say is do your Job and do it how you think it is right even if it does take you longer to get further at least you know you did it because you are good at your Job and not climbed up someones a**
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• India
6 Jan 07
It is not necessary to kiss A******. When you are working for a company just focus on your duties, do them well in time and appropriately. You will be noticed after a certain period of time. I am dam sure about this. You should give your self respect the first preference. Even though if your company neglect you, you should jump to other. Be optimistic and hard working. You will be recognized and admired by all.
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
5 Jan 07
oh,sorry can't help you with that.i'm no kiss a**er either.
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• United States
6 Jan 07
I strongly belive that people will respect you morefor being yourself, rather than a A@# K*&&^%.
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
6 Jan 07
You need to do your job better than now, without kissing anyone's behind. Try to become more valuable to the company by doing your job better than anyone else working there. Be creative. If you are just doing enough to get by, you will be seen as a slacker. Take care of your own job the best you can without being a brownie. It might be a fine line, but it is hard to tell since we don't know what you are working at. You have to make them see you as a valuable employee who can't be replaced. If you pick it up and take care of your work better than before, they might see you in a different light. If not, you might look for an employer who will notice. I never liked the office politics and the games people play. One reason I now work at home.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 Jan 07
This makes a lot of sense. Due to family commitments, I have been kind of coasting recently. i just don't have the time or energy to put into any additional projects at work. I look after my 'normal' responsibilities very well, but that's all I do. I would love to work from home. Can I ask what you do for work? I'm training to be an accountant, so I'd like to set up a small practice, looking after a few small businesses. Whether this will happen in the next decade is questionable!!
• India
6 Jan 07
arrey yaar..................when the time comes to kiss u will automatically kiss ur partner & learn ur self..............
@NewHeart (528)
• Canada
6 Jan 07
didn't think you brits could kiss a$$ with a stiff upper lip and all...actually its better if you keep in your mind it's that your boss can kiss your a$$ and not the other way around...lol you british make me laugh sorry but its true if people really think about it. seems to take alot to get you people all fired up for sure and can speak from experience for sure cause i married one. and do go over there every few years for visit to inlaws and their a great bunch for sure. will be going over again in may near the 24 weekend this year. both my brother and sister inlaws work for council over there other brother inlaw was ex copper and mi6 or some other secret code can't seem to remember that far back lol now he's some sort of sherlock holmes or a detective of some sort lol awww who cares he makes a good buck anyway lol. and he does like trying to drink this canadian under the table which i always enjoy to no end..anyway never kiss anybodies a$$ except your own and only do that if they drop a bigger bomb and you bend over to kiss your a$$ good-byeeee...
@sand102 (368)
• India
6 Jan 07
sorry i don't know that
• India
5 Jan 07
hey i am not an a$$ kisser either that i would help you.i guess promotion is supposed to be on performance in any organization.the better you perform the higher you get.work hard and let your performance be the key to your success.all the best.
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
6 Jan 07
dear that is good that you can spend time on mylot while at work. Sorry I have never a ss kiss before and never will as I do not beleive that this is the right way about receiving my promotion with any company.
@anilcute (233)
• India
6 Jan 07
Learn it from childhood. How to recieve in how to good
@ahsan15 (334)
• India
6 Jan 07
oh,sorry can't help you with that.i'm no kiss a**er either.
• India
12 Jan 07
well if u being honest, p[uttin efforts in yr job , n being genuine ,,,yr boss will eventually notice that, but u really gotta change yrself if u sound a dry person ..the only trick is just being sweet at talking , that also helps u look more lively..
@rhinoboy (2129)
12 Jan 07
you may have a point
• United States
6 Jan 07
I haven't really liked to kiss up, especially after one of my bosses said that he hates it when people do that.
• United States
6 Jan 07
To kiss a$$-v. to suck up to another person in order to earn some bookoo money. Ex.: I need to kiss a$$ if I want to make it up the corporate ladder. This is important because money is everything in today's society. Good look kissing your boss's a$$.
• India
6 Jan 07
u can do what u like mr go and get the ladder which lifts you up in your life
@hiitssomu (657)
• United States
6 Jan 07
don't need to get a promotion by Kissing a$$, it is better to have life without promotion, but honesty is one if you don't have, imagine you don't have your life at all. i pray God before u kiss the a$$ u will get better opportunity who will respect you job, your skill. not all companies are lik that as your case. just be honest, be smart on your job and never give up your hope.
@Smith2028 (797)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Office politics are the toughest thing to learn because you must learn to delicately balance being a "yes-man" and being the innovator who can think outside the box and isn't afraid to voice an opinion. This isn't really a skill that can be taught per se as each situation is different. The only advice I can give is to pick and choose battles at work.
@sammye (9)
• United States
6 Jan 07
how many promotions have you had? in what nation are you [some have no human rights law] and if you have not studied what your boss needs, you may never get a promotion. Boss's pay more to those who he likes and to those who help him. MAYBE it is time for a new employer!