hey i am very much saturated with my parents please tell me wat should i do
January 5, 2007 7:49am CST
i am in dailema with my parents in my marriage praposal.4m my childhood i and my cousin were in love but we never expressed each other.last year my parents only asked him that u marry my daughter and i to said yes coz i to love him.so at startings days they agreed and then my aunty and uncle made marraige for us in a temple that they said if ur parents again say no it will b safe if u get marry.so we got married. his relatives one who hates him said bad to my parents now my parents r denying the praposal.but we love each other we r ready to die together.but we have no plans of going out.even thought his parents love me a lotand allow me if i come out right now.but we r not willing to do so.problem is from my parents.now wat should i do.
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5 Jan 07
why dont you ask a common relative of both to deal with this situation.he/she should be able to convince your parents and hope they can believe them as he/she is known to them.I think your mom will understand your situation more than your father.so try to express about yourself to your mom.then leave it your mom to make your father to accept.
6 Jan 07
we had come across all those but all were failed.my parents say one word to them that this is the problem of our family so i dont want any one interference even to my grandfather he said the same so all went aside.actually i have no suppport from myside bcoz all very afriad of my dad.i am all alone here
8 Jan 07
Hey siree, U name suggest that u r the godess of wealth...Now let me say u something..Just get relaxed first and dont panic to the situation..and now think wht have u done to ur self...U stated that ur parents aked ur cousin to marry u then wht has made u to get marry him without the knowledge of ur parents...?ok.baba..! i can understand..Pyaar meh to sabh kuch chaltha hai...but think wisely...I dont ask u to get out of ur home...but speak to parents,family members,friends,relatives,...and put all of them infront of ur parents...I think they might be angry only in regard of u getting marriage in a temple..This shows how much they love u dear..Now dont panic ...just go to ur father and say him that u had made a mistake in getting married with him in a temple and also tell him how much u love him and seek his own advice in this regard..I am damn sure that he never says no...and he is ur father baba...not a villian in a movie..right...! do it and if any issues please let me know so that i can assit u much better...
21 Jan 07
wat made us marry is from childhood we love each other and my parents have changing minds.so my uncle and aunty suggested that we all b with u so once u got married if ur parents mind changes also its not a problem we can convience them by saying the situation.
22 Jan 07
A marriage becomes successful with the support of both the families in arranged marriages. In your case unfortunately some misunderstanding have cropped up. I feel your fiancee's parents can talk to your parents especially your would be father in law is your maternal uncle only. Even if your parents show some displesure hope that it may melt away since you both love each other.They need to show more maturity .
11 Jan 07
If both of you are agree on the matter, you should get entwined first. Later on your parent will also accept this relation. This time because of some evil minded people in your family, your parents are objecting this marriage. You can do one more thing, first you search the people to whom your parents respect a lot. Ask such person to pursuade your parents on this matter. I hope due to respect to that special person, your parents will not deny. Only now there are two ways of getting marriage. First you both decide at your own. Second select such a person to whom your mum/dad respect a lot. Send your proposal through such respective person in your family, he can be of help a lot.
6 Jan 07
I know it is very painful and I also understand what you are going through now! I think the only possibility to get a solution to this is to talk to your parent and tell them how much you need him!! Also try making his parent come home and talk to your dad and mom so that every one will come to a conclusion! But dont get confused for this! Life is always a challenge! Just MEET IT!!
7 Jan 07
i have crossed all those.they parents,grnad father and his elder sister and her husband all came and spoke to my parents .but there is no use at all.even thought they r our relatives my mum said get out of my house.but they r such cool.they want me their daughter in law still
6 Jan 07
actually i didnot get u.we both were in contact through gmail chat.and he takes care of me as a child.but my parents dont know that we r in contact.and i send informations if emergency with my cousin sisters and some girls in my flats.as since i am in house arrest