what does it mean by I DONT KNOW ?

@quarks (180)
Ukraine
January 6, 2007 3:40am CST
When a guy and a girl are in love for few years, the guy asks the girl " Do u love me , do u plan to be with me in future ? " the girl replies "I DONT KNOW" everytime ! What do u think, what does it mean exactly ? yes or no ? or she doesn't wants to hurt this guy by saying NO , or is confused about the future and doesnt wants to make a promise ? or she has someone else in her life ?
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
6 Jan 07
maybe she still needs more time, u make it sound by saying "everytime" like maybe u ask too much! don't rush it when she's ready no matter if it's been yrs. when she's ready she'll say it! and if u love her enough u'll wait!
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@quarks (180)
• Ukraine
6 Jan 07
thanks for ur advice :) i really appreciate ! Actually its not my situation but my friend's , when he expressed this question to me i was also confused about the answer, so decided to turn in to mylot members for help :) thanks once again !
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
7 Jan 07
oh well then i'll be honest, she probably does want to c someone else or she wants to be available in case she meets others, but if ur friend is willing to wait til she's ready he might get hurt!
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@xionous (439)
• Belgium
7 Jan 07
ur a ginious man how did u figure out the perfect stuff? i wonder have u ever faced it? ya she definitely needs some one else and probably she doesnt want to be anymore with him. hopefully ur friend will get hurt if he is keen to wait for her. i dont think she will ever get ready for him again!
• India
6 Jan 07
such instances occur when a girl is afraid taht she might not be able to keep her promises due to a variety of reasons. when she is worried about different insecurities like parents, and commitment with someone else etc.,girls play safe !!
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I think it means "I dont know"...because she doesnt know...anything could happen so maybe they will be together or maybe they wont...I think she was right in saying it....when ppl tell someone "yes I'll be with you forever" they are making a promise they cant necessarily keep and IMO thats not right....My husband and I have been together for goin on 9 yrs..will I be with him forever? I dont know..maybe, maybe not...its realistic to think that way..
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@smanipasu (350)
• India
6 Jan 07
she is right, we don't know about the next second then how we give a assurance for long. but its not mean that he had someone.
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@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
I don't know means "I am not sure". This is usually what girls answer when they don't want to answer a certain question. Actually, it can means a lot of things. There are times that girls answer "I don't know" when they're pissed. They just say that for the sake of saying something. Because they are left with no choice but to answer. And they can't even just say yes or no. "I don't know" is like already an expression. It's what usually comes out of the girls' mouths when they have to say something but are not really sure what to say.
@jaizdeep (397)
• India
6 Jan 07
Well i think that u cannot make it a generalisation at all I know that girls are very complex species and u will always find some different traits in each new one you will meet but if u have been with a girl and u ve spend three four years of your life not many girls would say i dont know until she feels you aint sure of what you are saying girls dont fall in love with guys as easily as guys fall in love with girls but once they are into love they are much more dedicated then guys are so if a girl is telling you that she isnt sure maybe u should try and figure out if there is something missing in you coz girls are very very serious in relationships as i have learnt from my past experiences more often then not its the guys who show off that how much they love their partner but girls are more often then not very true maybe there is something not going right about your relationship maybe your love is not true enough or the only other possible reason maybe that her parents are against it and she doesn't not want o hurt them loving another guy and all those stuff go away once ur relationship is 3-4 years old coz with time you tend to develop trust over one another and then these things just vanish out of the mind
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
7 Jan 07
Wow. Well let me see, if this were myself saying "I don't know" I can honestly say that there may be more than one reason. Looking in on such a situation I can assume that maybe it means that she is confused about the future, perhaps. I don't think it is because she has someone else. My gut instinct when I first read this post was that she isn't in love with the guy asking her if she plans on being with him in the future. If she were her response would of been more sure and positive. I feel she isn't sure of the relationship, the person perhaps that she is in the relationship with. Perhaps the guy should back off for a bit and see how she reacts. Sometimes we don't know what we got until it is gone.
@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
7 Jan 07
She probably still wants to get around.
@yorgaki (678)
• Romania
7 Jan 07
of course, first to have fun, second to have a husband - stupid - for his money. Iam referring here to such woman that say to you "I DONT KNOW" not all the women. ..... So then, no chance for you, dude ! In your place, I would make her life as bitter as she is doing yours now. Try to build SAFE and SURE things in your life, as another girlfriend that KNOWS what will be your future, and that IN THE SAME TIME with your bad girlfriend. I am sure you like also other girls, but kept just for her the deep of your heart. Well, it's time to be sincere with yourself, as she is also so cynical (from being SO sincere with you about her selfishness) .
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
its like the filipino song that the word " i dont know" means also as "yes" but personally i think its the way of saying that the person it confuse not because that person love somebody else but the person is not yet ready maybe emotionally, physically or some other aspects. Maybe she is still not ready to commit yet on the long time relationship.
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• Philippines
7 Jan 07
We know that there's a lot of divorce cases, maybe the girl wants to make sure or being careful about committing herself with someone. Anything can happen something along the way.Or she is not yet prepared to answer that question at all although she really love the guy.Sometimes girls need to fulfill some personal achievement first before committing. And that would be my honest opinion.
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Obviously, she has doubts. If I were him, I wouldn't put much weight on the relationship.
@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
6 Jan 07
I think she's just got panic. If a girl would ask me this i'm probably will be panic. We live in the present, so why mention the future? Every day is another day.
@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
6 Jan 07
That's just my opinion. When the time is right I will purpose to her. But talking already of the future emm I don't like that.
• Romania
6 Jan 07
ok?...what you said right there has no sense buddy:P cuz maybe there are some people that have actual feelings for another person and they are hoping to live with that person for the rest of their lives...lol...and not knowing wether that person will be with you tomorrow or not...that's just a scary feeling...
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
If that was the case maybe the girl is already confused to her feelings. She didn't sure because maybe there is a problem. And you should know what is wrong about you and your partner. open communication and trust is very important in a relationship. You should analyze and solve the problem. And I hope your not too late to solve that.
@tocika (970)
• Romania
6 Jan 07
Maybe she is confused,but until few years is something...strange.If a girl tell you like this she want to joke with you and doesn't get this relationship in serious!You have to discuss with her more than,,do u love me?,,or,,do u plan to be with me in future?,,.If this girl is a bashful girl,her answer is right,because she is afraid of staying with someone all her life.I wish you luck!HAve a nice day;)
• Romania
6 Jan 07
nice answer man...:P but still...I think after a few years of being together he can ask her that question...but hey...if you really wanna be with her and don't know if she wants it 2 or not...ask her to marrie you:P...peace out...;)
@s1payz (146)
• Indonesia
7 Jan 07
Sometimes the person that she loves not yet ready to answer the question, possibly he was still considering whatever that was best, but Undertook then if the certain partner not where
• United States
7 Jan 07
To me if this is the answer that you get it is telling me that she does not want to hurt your feelings. I have been here and found out way to late that the person just did not want to see me hurt so they chose not to say anything. This was worse on me. I also did not understand those words I DON'T KNOW, but now I do.
@sicnarf (27)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
"i dont know" to other means she dont wanna think about the tommorrow, she still wants to cherish the happiness of being crazy at the moment.
• Nepal
7 Jan 07
Hey dude i thinks dat says now i m losing interest in u and i have other boy in my sight...
@yadavyuvi (138)
• United States
7 Jan 07
I DONT KNOW MEANS the person is not in a position to accept him nor in the position to leave him. this is what this mean.
@buntyjain (374)
• India
7 Jan 07
i dont know