What qualities do you look for in a friend?

Australia
January 6, 2007 6:14am CST
I recently started a discussion on the worst crimes. As people responded with a list of crimes, I felt rather "down" about the way society is travelling: downhill - fast! So how about a list of GOOD things? What are the best qualities you look for in a friend or a partner-to-be? I'm sure I'll get the usual "sense of humour" but what about deeper qualities? There must be many!
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@ESKARENA1 (18296)
6 Jan 07
to me it is loyalty, integrety, patience and a sense of humour. any thing else is a bonus, i suppose i must also ask what i have to offer a potential friend, that could be a lot harder to answer lol
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
How true that what we expect from others is what we should be giving to them. Good reply.
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 07
Hi Cloudwatcher The best qualities in a Friend I look for is Trust being there for one another Helping each other Sharing with each other Be truthful with each other Never betray one another Trust Have a good friendship Relationship Do not walk away at the first sign of Problems Do not betray Honesty and of course Love yes even in a Friendship as I do love my Friends
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Gabs you would make a marvellous friend. You put everything two-way: that is "each other" which I think is one of the biggest secrets of any relationship. I am sure you have brought joy to many people's lives. Thanks for your response
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@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
10 Jan 07
Awwwwwww thank you Cloudwalker and I hope I can call you as one of my Friends
@kathy77 (7487)
• Australia
6 Jan 07
Oh yes today there are too many crimes out there in the real world today, the best good thing you will find is honesty, and trust that is what I think are the good things so if you can find someone you can be friends with that is honest and that you can trust then treat them like gold as they are very hard to find.
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Too true, I'm afraid. These are qualities that seem to be sadly lacking in much of society today. We see so much "ME!" Thanks Kathy. Good reply.
@ndraj_2006 (1422)
• India
6 Jan 07
First thing here is should encourage him to reach his aim. it will help him to believe & he will thing how kind is his friend.it will do the bond better between friends. next is truth if you talk only truth with even if it hurts him. he will think that his friend does not keep secrets & he is very truthful with him. never forget to wish him in weekends, special occasions, birthdays etc..
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
What marvellous thoughts! You must have many friends. Thanks for your heart-warming reply
@xcmatx (173)
• United States
6 Jan 07
In a friend, i want to know that i can trust them and that they can accept me for who I am, my beliefs, and the mistakes i make. Also, that i would be important to them, as a friend. In a partner, whats listed above goes, and also that she would be able to trust me, isnt hiding too much, and isnt too insecure.
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Mututal acceptance is important and mutual trust and respect should mean that each can encourage and improve the other. How much hiding is too much hiding? How much insecurity is too much? Good thoughts. Thanks for your reply.
• India
6 Jan 07
the most important of all qualities in a frend or partner is his/her utmost faith nd strong support when need.
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@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
7 Jan 07
friends - taken with my friend
yes. it's hard to find supportive friends these days since most are just up to what they can benefit from you.
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• United States
7 Jan 07
Good friends and partners are out there.it isn't so much about who THEY are..it is about who YOU are and the kind of people you attract. If you want quality in your world..then you send quality outinto the world. If you send doormat, insincerity or dishonesty out...expect to get it back, tenfold!!
• Australia
8 Jan 07
Very true words, Mamamia
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Good topic! Well, since I have children of a young age, I generally look for friends with children of the same age. This doesn't always work out though, because just because I get along with the adult, does not mean that our children will get along. My husband and I are a little more strict with our children than other parents, and many times this gets in the way of our friendship. Other than parenting philosophies, and thier religious beliefs which are important but not imperative. We like to make friends with people who are respectful, educated, fun and easy going. We usually avoid people who's lives are full of drama, or who are prone to start it.
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• Australia
10 Jan 07
Good response. One that I hadn't considered, but necessary for parents of young children. It is difficult when children have friends with a different standard of behaviour. Friendship is precious and respect and similar philosophies are very helpful, but I have some good friends with whom I disagree on some main life issues. We each know where the other stands and we are able to discuss things rationally. Thanks for your reply.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Yes, that is a sign of a very good friendship, when you can disagree on major issues, but still remain friends. Those are the kinds of friends that are deeply treasured!
@imadriscoll (2230)
• United States
7 Jan 07
My hubs and best friend! - Getting ready to go on a 30 mile bike ride in 100 degree heat!  What were we thinking??
For me, my friend not only loves me when I make mistakes, but also warns me when they think that I'm about to make a big mistake. They protect me even from myself. My friends encourage me in my walk with Jesus Christ and desire the very best for me and my children. My husband is a man of great character who, like me, has a passion to see other's come to know the love of Jesus Christ. He is patient, forgiving, hard working, diligent, full of integrity, faithful, gentle, strong, a great father and lives with me in an understanding way. And he has a great sense of humor! LOL!
• Australia
7 Jan 07
What more could one want! You have everything you need - and more. Thanks for your good response and also for your testimony. I know God will continue to bless you and use you to bless others.
@kevinn (7)
7 Jan 07
a friend is someone who accepts you as you are, your faults, your good qualities,. your quirks. that is the essence of friendship everything else is just technical. we all have faults and nobody is going to laugh at all of your jokes. obviously a friend cant be backstabbing or not trustworthy and some people you will enjoy their company more than others but in essence if someone is selfless enough to just except you as you and what you might have done or said in your life is an unimportant detail well that someone special is what the word friend was created for.
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
That about sums it up! Thanks
• United States
7 Jan 07
A sense of humor first and foremost. I spend a good 90% of my life joking and laughing. If I don't have someone to laugh with, is there really a point?
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
I seem to remember a nursery rhyme about "froth and bubble". Do you know it? Thanks for sharing.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
7 Jan 07
friends - taken with my friend at a chinese restaurant
i have my bestfriend for 12 years now. she's funny, trustworthy, simple and respects my parents as well. a friend should be able to understand you but somehow, she should also look for something wrong about what you did and be able to tell you so. she should be frank about her feelings and opinions. as to my partner in life, my boyfriend is sweet, loyal, humble, cares for me a lot and even if he's far from me, he does everything to make the distance between us smaller. and i appreciate everything he is doing for me.
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Great answer. Thanks for sharing.
• Ireland
6 Jan 07
Somebody who does not expect much from me, such as returning a favour. Also somebody who listens and stands by me whether I am right or wrong. I would also have to be able to trust them and rely on them.
• Australia
7 Jan 07
And I am sure you would be the same to them. Thanks for sharing.
@Shar11 (419)
• United States
6 Jan 07
honesty is a big one..It's really nice when you have a friend that you know you can completely trust...someone that cares enough about you to be truthful even if it may hurt... understanding...I have a good friend who can understand exactly what I am trying to express with only few words...I dont have to dance around words afraid she may misinterpet what I am saying... And Lastly, acceptance...That same friend of mine loves me just the way I am..I can let down all blocks and barriers and be myself. She knows everything about me because she cared enough to put great effort into our friendship...The good the bad and ugly and she still loves me :) Shary
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Now THAT is what I call a true friend. I am sure she feels the same way about you. Thanks for sharing.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
6 Jan 07
I look for a fun friend who likes socializing, is loyal and funny. This is what I like in a friend! Best quality in a boyfriend also. But there is no use in being a fun person to be with if you are not also a good person. Integrity, loyalty, sense of humour and wit. These are all good qualities.
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Well said!
@Darkwing (21586)
6 Jan 07
Hi again, Cloud. I list here the qualities I look for in a partner. 1. Honesty 2. They'd have to be a good conversationalist, witty and able to hold a good debate. :-) 3. Trustworthy and Trusting 4. Caring 5. Sharing 6. Outgoing... you probably won't believe this but I like somebody to lead me. 7. Articulate 8. Understanding I can't think of any more off the top of my head, and some of the foregoing probably mean the same thing, but you'll get the gist of it. Blessed Be, Cloud. :-)
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Hi Darkwing - agreeing again!!! Another good list and I'd agree with them all, especially the "somebody to lead me". I have never been confortable with small talk or meeting new people. Thanks for sharing again.
@farocop44 (447)
• Canada
6 Jan 07
I am a difficult person to get along with and always have been, Im opinionated, have a very low tolerance for stupid people, and cant stand salesmen. The friends I have and get along with the best are ironically people that can get along with almost everyone. Strange thing though. These friends can be good friends with almost anyone but I, the difficult one, am considered their best friend. Haven't figured that part out yet.
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Neither have I Thanks for sharing
• Indonesia
6 Jan 07
A friend should be honest to you,means he or she not just telling you the things you want to hear. Can criticize you for a good purpose, open minded, care,be with you in ups and down.
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
Thanks, mariver. How true that we all need someone who cares enough to criticise us! A good friend helps us to grow. And yes, a good friend will be there in fair and foul weather. Very good response.
@noachide (162)
• India
6 Jan 07
someone who is honest, if he is not that, you can know he will leave you sometime soon
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• Australia
7 Jan 07
I agree honesty is one of the most important but I think I would take honesty a step further and say integrity which I think covers even more than honesty. Thanks for your reply.
@alexiuss (377)
• Romania
6 Jan 07
well, i mostly look for honesty, that's the most important quality for a good friend. I also look for people with a good sense of humour, who laugh at my jokes and who make me laugh in turn. that's about it i guess.
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• India
7 Jan 07
humour would be good but i would always look for a person who would understand me rather than any other qualities.
@onlyme123 (124)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Loyalty, honesty, trust, respect, reliability, forgiveness, to name a few qualities. There are many more. These are just a several that's absolutely necessary for a strong foundation for a long-term friendship or relationship. You don't have to agree on everything with your friend. And there will be arguments along the way. A friend who will stick by you despite the ups and downs in life is worth more than gold.