Do you believe live-in relationships works better than a marriage?`
By swatig
@swatig (1183)
India
January 6, 2007 8:10am CST
The econimics of the world seems to have overpowered the purelove and bonding between a man and a woman. A live-in is little more than a fair-weather relationship. Religion and societal pressure gives marriage many chances, but live-in relationships can fall apart like a house of cards under any whim or impulse.
A child needs both, a mother and father in a secure bond that has the sanction of society. To me, a live-in is a shrewd ploy to keep commitments to the minimum. A real relationship calls for adjustments, tolerance and unconditional love.
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11 responses
@karannyk (187)
• India
8 Jan 07
believe me swati....i was in a relationshi for last four years which unluckyly shattered last most........
wen i was with her i had all kinda dreams.....
but know i feel every individual changes their attitude after a period......and these changes in attitude brings the unhappiness........Well marriage is jus a formality or a compromise tht even if in future u start havin differences u wont break tht relation easily.............
but tht will ultimately give u pain and tears........
life is never so easy............true na..........
@ashishsab (292)
• Canada
9 Jan 07
Well I would like to add here. There is nothing called sadness, unhappiness or sorrow kinds of things on this earth. Every person is having a set of yard scale to measure what is going in his life. Till the time the incident which happened in our life is fitting good on our yard scale and makes us happy we are happy and if something which does not fits in my yard scale and is against what I want the way it to be happend makes me feel sad or unhappy. So sadness, unhappiness, sorrow are nothing but just the feeling which comes due to some incidents happening in our lives which we were not ready to accept and didnt wanted to happen that way. Life is difficult as well as easy also. Its you who makes it difficult or easy to live for yourself. Till the time you are having a mind set that this body, all materialistic things and your heart, soul are not yours but of god and is its his he can take it any time and you perform actions under his will your life will be easy and cool filled with happiness and if the actions you perform in your life are not under his will and you think all what is there is yours then yes you are going to have such hard feelings and yes the life will be difficult to live. Just my opinion the way I think.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
7 Jan 07
It is not the relgion or tradition that is forcing the marriage. It is biological, psychological, physiological need coupled with love that makes 2 people to get together and marriage is a recognised institution for times immemorial. The western concept of living together may not be a successful concept in India. The family life has a lot of meaning in India and it cannot be broken or removed.
@swatig (1183)
• India
7 Jan 07
very true, the western concept of living can'nt and should not successful in India as young one are inclined to western these days.that the real meaning of this discussion.
thanks for your nice reply.
@rangics (1334)
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
I still believe in the SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE. But I do respect those individuals who prefer to live together without getting married. ;)
@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
7 Nov 07
hi swati,
I am with you. I have also noticed the reponsee out here but majority says that they believe in not keepin a live-in relations may be due to their past bad experiences or may be some thing else, but when goin is good and if any one gets an offer wouldnt say a NO to this and will go ahead with live-in relation as evry oe finds it to be a fun life but i havent heard of any successful live-ins till date so one of them is the looser and ultimately breks down and starts feeling like a looser.
I take it as a game of playing with emotions and the end result is abortions. there should be a law passed pertaining to this according to me. These days things are easy as theres a lot of demand and more of suppply of things.
@neha211985 (780)
• India
20 Oct 07
i dnt belive in live-in. i think marrige is an important part of life n i belive in love marriges
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
20 Oct 07
In India, particularly among the Hindus, the marriage is a strong and useful institution which binds a man and woman together. That is good and I like it. If we have a good family bondage it is due to the strong pillars of marriage. Look at the west. Morning divorce, evening another marriage, next day again divorce, after one week another woman/man. Marriage is like changing the shirt. Living together what for like animals do, they don ot even know with whom they have slept, just to get lust satisfied. I love Indian culture and I love the institution of marriage which is a good foundation stone for family and bringing up children.
@lilttownmommie (1473)
• United States
6 Jan 07
Well on the subject of having children before you bring a child into this world you should love the other parent unconditionally, and with the way you have stated here if you are not married then you do not love each other uncontionally.
Personally I believe in marriage, I have had 2 "live-in" relationships, the latter developed into marriage, however the "live-in" was not the same, and we are closer now that we are married.
@alienstar (5142)
• India
9 Jan 07
No, definitely i don't believe in live-in relationship and that to in our country it is not even allowed to live ur life like this and it is practised more in western countries and not over here and as far as i believe this kind of relationship won't work for along term and it is good only for short term relationships and for long term relationships to work, you need to have understanding,trust,adjustments,tolerence, more love etc...isn't it?
@ranjit123 (64)
• India
7 Jan 07
i dont think live-in relations will ever work .yes, as u said it needs lots of thing to carry on a relation in a certain manner/form . i dont think it is working well anywhere ? the live-in relation can be harmful for the children . it is an western invention but it will end with divorce
@ashishsab (292)
• Canada
9 Jan 07
Well in my opinion none of the relation can survive for longer if there is no love. In all the types relationships including Live-In Relationships and Marriage as well what a man and a woman share is a bond of love. Till the time this bond of love is missing neither live-in relaitonship can work nor marriage can work. I dont think so that anyone can have a live-in relationship with someone whom he/she doesnt likes and dont love. Even live-in relationship starts with liking and leads to love and if the bond of love is strong enough sooner or later it converts to marriage. People in flirting moods are the exceptions but I think they can also get tied once they are under a bond of love.
