why are u crying ?

Romania
January 6, 2007 4:56pm CST
people tell me they had moments in life when they cried of happines. yet i hadn't experienced anythng like this so far. i never found sometething that makes me happy and makes me cry at the same time. when i cry i cry because i feel sad, and i do associate crying with a sad moment. so why people when they are happy feel like crying? when u cry u cry because u are happy or because u are sad?
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@Darkwing (21583)
7 Jan 07
I've cried with happiness. It's just that your emotions get the better of you. I lost my grandson at the age of 7 years 3 months to cancer, and my son and daughter-in-law had another child so that the daughter which was left, would have a playmate. As they've grown, they've both belonged to a drama group in their area and they put on two productions a year at the local theatre studios. My youngest granddaughter is 9 now, but she joined the group when she was 6 and when I first saw her step out onto the floor, it brought tears to my eyes. I wasn't sad, I was happy and proud of her. She still goes to the drama club and has come on a long way, and you know what? I still get emotional, every time she steps out from behind the curtain. :-)
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@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
7 Jan 07
Yes you do deserve the best response for that emotional answer There are multiple reasons for crying in everyones life and hopefully more from happiness than from sad ones. It is good and necessary to have emotions in our lives and to show others how we feel and care for others rather than ourselves.
• Romania
7 Jan 07
i couldn't agree more dee, let's just hope that with gods will, we'll enjoy more happy moments than sad ones. and yes, life without emotions would be meaningless but i just hope and pray that the happy moments can overtake the sad ones. hugs
• Romania
7 Jan 07
that must have been a very painful experience for u. i'm not going to pretend i know what u feel, because i don't, and i think noone knows what went on the u'r heart and in u'r sons and his wifes heart. i'm just assuming that remembering all that is still painful and i'm sorry for that. i did understand however how such a happy moment can be associated with such a sad thing as crying and yet still remain a joy moment. best wishes and blessings for u and u'r familly
@jenbatres (799)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I have cried when I'm happy and cried when I'm sad. I use crying like laughter. Sometimes I fake crying to get my way, no one can tell when I'm serious.
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• Romania
7 Jan 07
so crying is for u more like a "weapon" to use sometimes. thanks for being honest.
• United States
7 Jan 07
Yes I am too tired to do the dishes, I cry . . .poof they are done. . .Men can do the same housework as a women, mine just needs an extra push.
• Romania
7 Jan 07
lol i'd wish i had more then 1 + to give u. i really enjoyed reading u'r reply. i've read it to my boyfriend too, but my situation is not like yours. usually when i cry nothing gets done around the house. when he washes the dishes he usually does it to make me happy, so crying doesn't do me any good. a big + for u and my hugs.
@Jusred (1578)
• United States
7 Jan 07
There have only been a few instances where i have actually cried out of 'happiness'~ I cried when my first child was born, after i held him in my arms and 'saw' him for the first time..I cried after i found out i had a large, rare and deadly brain tumor, after waking up from the surgery and actually realizing i not only survived the surgery, but it was 100% successful in the removal of it, and i was not a 'vegetable'..And there have been a few movies and books, with such intense happy endings, i shed a tear or two~
@Darkwing (21583)
7 Jan 07
What a wonderful and sensitive answer. I wish you all the luck in the world with the rest of your life.
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• Romania
8 Jan 07
indeed u experienced such intense feelings. i don't know why but when i see people sharing their deepest emotions and experiences i feel different somehow, happy maybe for their happy end story, for the fact that they managed to keep their faith and hope, and those were rewarded in the end. thank you for sharing u'r experience. blessings
@Chiriac (286)
• Romania
7 Jan 07
Grief - specifically crying - is a special emotional ability of more advanced mammals. As recently reported by a researcher named Hall from New Zealand, it appears to be a part of our fight-or-flight system which is evolved specifically for animals with highly-developed brains. (Yes other animals cry; not all "lacrimate" or produce tears.) It works something like this: a specific stimulus - real, or in our imagination or memory - would normally make us angry. But more advanced mammals can't afford to just have an anger reaction any old time, so the anger response is "primed" and ready to be released, but is "caught" by higher brain functions which recognize that there is no PHYSICAL reason to be angry. Crying - the grief response - allows us to discharge the electrochemical energy of the "primed" anger response in a safe way which does not stress the system without actually going into a fight reaction. The "snot and tears" are, at least in part, a flushing mechanism which breaks down and washes out the stress-response chemistry so that it doesn't build up and force us into an actual stress response. A lot of grief responses are hard to attach to things that relate to anger, but the more you understand human emotional responses, the more you begin to see how tears always relate to situations that would cause a "fight" response if we didn't have this way of avoiding unnecessary fight responses. This is very new theory by the way and isn't widely accepted yet by neurobiologists, but it's by far the best explanation of crying and grief that I've ever come across. This is just a theory.
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• Romania
8 Jan 07
thanks for posting it. although u mentioned it's just a theory i must admit it's the only "scientifical" explanation of crying i read so far.
• Indonesia
7 Jan 07
I cry when im sad and i cry when im happy. Its just a respond to the things happen in our life.
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• Romania
8 Jan 07
thank u for posting
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
yah i think thats weird but ive experienced it once when my sister got out of the hospital i was crying coz finannly shes well but im happy weird huh
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• Romania
8 Jan 07
my best wishes to u and u'r sister. i hope she's well now.
@katyzzz (2897)
• Australia
7 Jan 07
When a friend of mine who had a hard life got remarried. all the women were crying with happiness for her
• Romania
8 Jan 07
that means u'r friend is very lucky coz she has true friends. not all friends share the joy of other in such a way they cry.
• United States
8 Jan 07
I do often. I know I can be rather emotional but mostly it is at family/animal type movies. I really boohooed in the hospital when my grandson was born. Embarrassed the heck out of family members who were there.
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@ddm610 (117)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
i had experienced crying because i was happy. that time i cried because i achieved something that i thought i could not get, and as i received the award, i thanked my mother and grandmother in public because without their endless encouragement and support, i wouldn't have did well. but most of the time i cry because i am sad...
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• Romania
7 Jan 07
congratulations for whatever u acheived and i hope u get many more of those happy moments from now on
@danielf (39)
• Colombia
7 Jan 07
Maybe you haven't find something that make you really happy. Could be something that you have earn after a lot of hard work.
• India
7 Jan 07
I will not say that I cry and laugh at the same time. Infact I will say that there are some moments in our life which makes us extremely happy and maes are tears to drop from our eyes at the same time. This happens when something good which never expected in ur life becomes true. Those tears are called tears of happiness
• India
7 Jan 07
when i got something which is unexpected and to express my feelings on that sometimes i may cry as well as smile on that particular moment .....
@Reviver (339)
• Romania
7 Jan 07
i think if you have heavy personalite ....you can't cry ...especially if you are a boy ...but if you are woman you can't control your sentiment ..and when you are in bad moments you cry to fell beter
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@shomomo (850)
• Israel
7 Jan 07
I've never cried when I was happy, when I reach a point of true happiness my heart beat takes the greatest impact. I cry when I'm sad and frustrated, and that happens seldom.
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• India
7 Jan 07
I cry when I am sad. I have never cried when I was happy. When you get hurt or feel hurt you cry in pain. I think it is a natural human character of crying when you are sad.
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• Romania
7 Jan 07
i feel the same way, i've always cryed when i was sad. strangely it made me feel somehow ... better thanks for replying
@dip_cool (411)
• India
7 Jan 07
well like you i have felt like crying but never had cried in my life and laughed when im happy.im still to experience crying while being happiness.i guess it takes a really strong emotion that happiness brings tears to your eyes.
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
7 Jan 07
I cry when I am sad or hurt. I can name a few occassions that I have cried when I was happy. I cried when I graduated from Basic Training in the Army. I cried when my then youngest child graduated from preschool. I cried when my oldest graduated from kindergarten. I have cried when all 3 of my girls were born. I cried a few times during my wedding, All of these were tears of happiness for me.
@emskoneko (805)
• United States
7 Jan 07
I sometimes when I'm sad and the only reason I ever felt like crying out of happiness was when I watch some happy endings in a movie or read a happy ending in a book. Nothing out of real life out of happiness. I only smile in real life when happy. But there were times when I cried for a reason that I didn't know myself.
@nitrodona (418)
• Italy
7 Jan 07
I've cried of happiness only one time and was a beautiful sensation, was when my father was returned at home after one year!
@onlyme123 (124)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Ah, you must be a very young person, not married yet, and obviously have not experienced the birth of your first child. Even if you are a guy, a man can get all choked up when he sees and holds his new baby in his arms for the very first time. Those are tears of joy. They come from deep down in your emotions when your heart is moved by something beautiful, like your brand new baby in your arms. You've seen news footage of wives and mothers waiting for the return of their husbands or sons from the war? When they see each other, tears of pure joy just roll down their faces. I am sure that in your lifetime, you will get a chance to experience emotions like this. It will probably hit you when you least expect it because it's a gut reaction, not something that you plan on happening. When you experience your first tear of happiness, you will remember that moment for the rest of your life.
@kidsrock (64)
• United States
7 Jan 07
you must not have any children. At the birth of all three of my children the joy and happiness is so overwhelming you can't help but cry.