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@Kalachia (230)
United States
January 6, 2007 11:41pm CST
What do you tell a friend that swears she is depressed, but you can tell it's just to get attention?
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6 responses
• United States
9 Jan 07
The worst possible thing you could do is ignore all the warning signs. She may be asking for help in her own way. Maybe you could offer to go and see a doctor with her or go to counseling with her. Sometimes just because you may not think that something is that bad does not mean that it is not affecting your friend differently on the inside. No one in this world can possibly feel what someone else is on the inside. We all handle things differently. Be there for your friend and try to support her in getting some kind of help.
@Kalachia (230)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Well, see, I've had the talk with her, and not only once, really. "Why are you depressed? Is there something I can help you with? Do you want me to go to the doctor with you?" and she says that me just being there helps, and I know that if she needed something, she'd ask, cause that's how our relationship has always been. So, i'm hoping that after I talk to a doctor myself and find out what I can do for her, she'll let me in on what she's feeling, so we can go back to the way things have always been.
@sindai (204)
• Canada
8 Jan 07
tell her that you'll go to the doctor's for a diagnosis. I was suffering from depression, and everyone kept telling me that it was doing it to get attention. The problem was....I didn't know how to ask for help. if you truly want to help her, don't just say "i'm here for you"....do something about it. MAKE the doctor appointment for her and go with her. If she's faking it, then she would fight not to go, and it's your choice to whether or not keep your friendship because it WILL tear the friendship apart. My boss was the one that made the appointment for me, and my friend and co-worker came with me. I was afraid to make the first step. Depression is a serious issue.
@Kalachia (230)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Thanks for that. I'll start making calls as soon as I get the information gathered on it. I wanna make sure I know what I'm dealing with in my part before I go any further, cause I don't wanna be doing something she'll hate me for.
@lonewolfnan (4367)
• Canada
7 Jan 07
Depression affects all of us differently.As a friend,all you can do is be there if/when she needs you but not feed into her depression.Why does she want the negative attention?Is she missing something from her life??And what if she really is depressed??These are all possibilities.Tell her how her you feel when she talks about being depressed.Remember;is she a friend or aquaintance?
@Kalachia (230)
• United States
7 Jan 07
Well, see, we've been friends for going on a year now, and it's alwys been this way, but only when people say something about it. She's into the "emo" type look and music, and alot of the kids that are into that want to come off as "depressed". I've thought about it quite a bit, and I don't want to say that she's lying, because there are lots of things in her life that aren't good for her, but it's not bad enough to make her depressed in the degree she claims. I've told her how I feel about it, and she said I just don't care, but that's why I told her, because I DO care.
@besthope44 (12135)
• India
24 Oct 10
Well, sometimes its unavoidable that we feel depressed for the day..but for the health its not a good side, i believe in Meditation which will balance our mind and helps to be normal at situations
@rsp9098 (755)
• India
8 Jan 07
i hav a friend who always tell me that she is depressed!at first i felt so sad and tried to comfort her!then i felt as if she is making herself depressed,i mean no gud reasons to point out why she feels depressed!some people[not purposely] get depressed not b'coz they want to get attention but thatz their nature!in ur case,better talk to ur friend,ask her why she is so depressed!make her feel that she is lucky!as a gud friend,u should help her!
• United States
8 Jan 07
Many times people mistake the blues or disappointment or boredom for depression. When someone mentions depression they are crying out for help. There are clinics and support groups available to help. Don't ignore the problem.