I gaVE my EX a 2nd cHanCE OnLy because He cAnt GO ON w/o mE.
By katskie
@katskie (128)
Philippines
January 8, 2007 9:42am CST
Yes, were back to each other now because I know he cant go on without me. Im not totally healed yet. All the words said and done but Id like to give it a try again. Am i doing the right thing? I am only back because he has been calling me and telling me his life is miserable without me. I still care for him and I know and I can feel that he is hurting. I feel that my heart beats for him and I just cant let him be like that forever. I care a lot about him and I dont want him getting into trouble because of me. Everything went too fast. I admit that I am still slowly healing from the past but whats important to me now is saving him from his sadness. I just cant let him down. Making him happy means to me than my happiness. Things hasnt change that much. I know anytime there are still chances of him hurting me later but I dont like to think of any negative thoughts now. I just wanna concentrate on whats good for our relationship. Some people seems to be happy knowing were back, some people just disagreed. I hope im doing the right thing. I dont know I am being a hard headed person. Almost all people here in my lot told me I should move on. Im sure theyre not gonna be happy seeing this post but what can I do. I am an inlove person, I follow my heart and not my mind. Does that make me the most stupid person on earth???
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70 responses
@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
8 Jan 07
You are such a nice person, while you hellping him from saddness. This means You love him.No You are not stupid you following your heart..
Many people don' folowing their hearts , they folow their interest.
God make us to folow our heart not interests,Anyway don't give him 3th chance, I believe he has lesson from You , if he'll hurt you again then you leave him forever! So I guess he will now more love You then hurt You..
Regards and many happines! :)
@cathiecarpio (185)
• Philippines
9 Jan 07
everything that makes you happy, go on with it dude. :) we must think about what is happening now rather than what will happen. as long as your happy now, go on dude. :)
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
8 Jan 07
It sounds like you are in this relationship for him and not for yourself. Life is too short to live unhappy. If he has hurt you once, he may do it again. You need time to heal. When I broke up with my ex due to him cheating on me and verbally abusing me, I didn't have time to think let alone heal. He cried about how bad he felt and that he needed me, yadda yadda. Feeling sorry for him, I took him back. What good did all of his promises do? Nothing. He was back to his old self within a month. Four kids later, we divorced. It took 15 years for me to heal from that. Be good to yourself. Give yourself time to heal and to think. You owe it to yourself.
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@jricbt (1454)
• Brazil
8 Jan 07
Well, I will be , or try to be crystal clear with you.
I am a man, once I gave my now ex a second chance and for a while it was good, but it was the BIGGEST mistake I ever made in my whole life.
I really hope that with you everything go well, that you find happiness. What happened doesn't mean that will happen to you. But beware of what you did. And good luck.
@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
• Nigeria
8 Jan 07
well for someone as beautiful as you are there would be no one that would want to leave you for anything if thats really you at the picture... u have a lovely smile..
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@franken_ind (141)
• Ukraine
8 Jan 07
You just gonna follow your heart and do whatever your spirit goes for,I am in love and i know what it looks like falling in love.You are actually doing the right thing,you ain't stupid,you following your heart which is the most important part of it.I wish you the best.
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@zuri25 (2125)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Love is a tricky thing sometimes. I don't know the history behind you and your ex and I don't know exactly how you feel about him. Based on what you've said in this post alone, it seems to me that you are just as afraid to be without him as he is to be without you. When you are with someone for an extended period of time and things become safe and routine in your relationship it is harder to know when it's time to say goodbye because of the fear of change. What concerns me the most is when you said that you care about his happiness more than your own. This concerns me because 1)It is not your job to make him happy, only he can do that 2)Your happiness is your responsiblity. Wouldn't you rather be happy in a relationship based on mutual respect and love than miserable one based on pity and the fear of being alone? Anyway, your heart is in a fragile place right now so take care of yourself and leave his happiness up to him. Heartache is going to happen when romance comes to an end. Let it run its course and see where you are then.
@alecs76 (657)
• Philippines
11 Jan 07
you shouldn't give your ex a 2nd chance just because he cant go on w/o you. you should LOVE him to give a 2nd chance. if there's no love at all, don't take him back. you should able to distinguish PITY and LOVE. you're still young, there's lots of time to realize what are your feelings. i just hope that you can find in your heart what do you really feel. take care!
@swatig (1183)
• India
9 Jan 07
After reading the discussion, I wish to meet you and touch you as you are getting very rare chance of meeting with your ex. I also want to go with my ex but my ex is now married with someother as i heard.
Just do what you think is right and dont listen other people voice as they not understand whats life without lover.
bestofluck for your life and you should go forward and take the things in the manner they are coming.
:)smile
@ladygam (563)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
He can't go on without you... really? And you believed him, wow! But if that's what you really want, it doesn't matter what we say, right? You have made up your mind and whatever we say is just that, words. So, be happy. You don't need us. You need him more. Who knows, this time it would be forever. Good for you.
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
8 Jan 07
there's nothing such as right or wrong in a relationship and i don't know what happened in the past, and how he had treated you..all i can say is, you've decided to give him a chance to reconcile, forget about the past and start afresh. dont let the past haunt you, if not, it's going to be a very hard time for you. Good Luck!
@mgr1987 (689)
• India
8 Jan 07
no.ladies,in general have the tendency to forgive their loved ones even if he has an affair with another woman.it is quite natural and you have done the same thing.but be cautious this time and ensure that you're not going to lose him.have a nice day.
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Following your heart does not make you stupid. It just makes you an emotional, feeling person. I am not certain what I would have done in your place, since I do not remember reading your previous post about your boyfriend. I totally understand your feelings of love and not wanting him to hurt, though. It would be so hard to love someone and have them calling you and telling you how much they miss and need you and not wanting to get back together with them. I just wish you all of the best, and I hope that he treats you better this time, since it sounds like something happened in the past.
@kengkerochi (40)
• Singapore
9 Jan 07
for me u made the right Choice..because u love him..thats really how the love is..i mean, sometimes u have to feel the hurt before u can call it a love..cheer up Girl!
@JellyBeans (639)
• Canada
8 Jan 07
Yes i think that everyone deserves a second(or third) chance.
You did the right thing and gave your love to him one more time. But remember that if something goes wrong there won't be a third chance.or maybe if your lucky. If you follow your heart its because it's the right thing. only follow your mind when doing your work or in a big decision(well that's what i do)
@addict (172)
• India
8 Jan 07
be wid her as a girlfriend (or maybe wife in future) only if u love him that way....if u r doing it coz u like him and u cant see a sad person than u can be just friends....i mean dont sacrifice so that u wont regret ih future.....anyways best of luck to both of u.
