Why do people fall into the same types of relationships?

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@meme0907 (3481)
United States
January 8, 2007 12:37pm CST
Have you ever noticed that ppl complain about their relationships but if they do gain the courage to leave an unhealthy situation most times they just fall right back into that same type of relationship. Give your insights folks TIA
4 responses
@steerforth (1797)
• Italy
14 Jan 07
I don't think that they love suffer...I don't know why there is this thing but maybe they can't rest in a "normal" relationship because they don't feel love anymore.
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Hey SF ;) That seems logical-I've always believed that some ppl are just addicted to toxic relationships you got +'s :)
@amber81 (288)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I think that the reason people do that as you said leave one unhealthy realationship and go into another unhealthy realationship is cause thats all they know most the time.. thats what they have lived for so long thats what their attracted to even if they dont see it... Most women dont leave unhealthy realationships as soon as they should so they get use to and get attracted those same kind of people..I know that since i was raised around all my moms boyfriends i noticed that i drew my self towards those types of guys or men as i got older cause thats what i was use to... so i had to pull myself away from all that.
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Hey Amber, Thanks for adding that to this discussion you appear to be young if that is you in your avatar pic & I believe your advice will really help young girls who read this You got +'s :)
• United States
9 Jan 07
they just cant help themselves
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Do you think it's lust? thanks for your response here's +'s :)
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Usuallypeople keep falling into the same relationships because they don't stop to think about how they could change THEMSELVES to make better relationships happen. I have lots of people who contact me for spiritual counsling or tarot readings that they are always focsued on those things that are OUTSIDE ofe themselves. Will the guy come back, will the job come through....all things that are outside of them. People will also panick when they lose a relationship and run right out and hop into the very next possibility that presents themselves. They are so afraid of being alone that they don't take time to recover from their initial loss. The last huge resaon that I see, is that people tend to return to what feel "normal" even if it is harmful to them. So they will do this over andover again until they can break the cycle by reevaluating their state of mind, how they iteract in relationships, and then change their ways. It is EXTREMELY difficult but it can be done. I have offered this sort of help to manywithpretty good results. The key is to be patient with yourself so that you can work through things effectively. BEcuase it takes o much time and effort, I havehad clients who were with me for over a year, but still spent less money than they would have on psychiatrists and other sorts of couselors. A holistic approach can benefit you quicker than analysis alone will!
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
11 Jan 07
thanks for that insight I truly believe what you say here's +'s:)