What ever happened

That is a very good question!!!! My daughter's friend wanted to come over one time and her father brought her by. He ended up staying a while talking to me and my partner. So I offered him a drink. But he drink diet soda and I did not have any diet. Even though he took the regular soda, he preceeded to tell me why regular soda was bad for me. Yes, I know that regular soda is bad for me. But that is my choice and I and my partner are the ones purchasing the soda! Why do I have to defend what soda I drink in my own house? Therefore, I can say, I do not walk into any other's home and tell them what they should or shouldn't be doing. I was raised to believe it was rude! But I am finding more and more people do like to dispense their advise when it is not not asked for and not appropriate either! Great discussion!!!

Personally I don't get nervous about "visitor's" advices/critics they give me.... I usually don't pay much attention to it either unless they really hit something worth changing/altering, which rarely happened to me.... I found out that most people only try to give you advises about things that they themselves have had troubles with in the past and think they know exactly how to deal with it now, and are without you asking them, trying to offer some help. Most of the time, I don't pay much attention, and if the person still continues to do it time and time again and somehow got on my nerves, I tell them to shut the f**k up and mind their own business... works all the time...

People are following Bush's rule these days. He thinks it is okay to go into another country and tell them how to live. This is what society is doing now. This habit of others trying to impose their way of living into others is causing all these problems. It is like going to a new country and not following the rules of that country and pulling human rights into it. No offense to Muslim people, there was case couple of years ago about a Muslim girl who went to Catholic School and refuse to say the morning prayer because it was against her religion. She sued the Catholic school against human rights violation. The court actually allowed the case to be filed. These types of people are the ones to go into someone else's house and impose their beliefs on others. This is just wrong.

i dont know but i wont allow it at my house, i will tell them shut up if they dont like it they could leave. i run my house how i want to run it and its none of their business. there are people out there are judgemental and feel they are better than others. thats why.

You will get no argument from me! I had a Mary Kaye Rep come to my house a few weeks ago - she did not want me to come to hers. I warned her that I had a dog and a cat in case she had allergies. I also told her that I am a smoker. She said she had no problems with animals; but then also said, "but you will refrain from smoking while I'm there won't you?", to which I replied, "probably not". I did smoke - it is my house, as you said, but we sat in the kitchen and I did move my chair next to the stove and turn the ventilation fan on. By golly, Molly, we should be able to do as we choose in our own homes!~Donna (however, if a family came into my home with a baby I would refrain or go outside - I'm not a total hard-as#!)

I find that happens more and more. I was in the grocery store once and I was pregnant and remember this old lady came up to me and said sweet heart you are just to young to be having a baby and she proceded to give me a lecture about babies having babies. I let her know that I agreed with her but I was not a baby. She sat there and told me that everybody thinks they are grown up. I gave her my license and she turned bright red. It seems that everybody would like to offer thier opinion on what they believe wethere somebody wants it or not. Why is it that when we don't like something we can't just be polite and walk away from it and let people live thier lives.

I agree with you there and my attitude now is I ignore them it is my House and I will do as I like and if they don't like it then they know what they can do

Society is telling me that my boyfriend is not good for me because he is much younger. Many people predicted that we are not going to be together longer than 6 months. It was 10 years ago. Yet, some people are always telling us that it is wrong. Keep smiling and do what you think is good for you.

Sometimes people have severe allergies or the like, like me. I'm severely alergic to plastic and need to tell people this. Sometimes what someone does in their own house can make you sick; you better tell them in that case.

I agree to this statement "My house, my rules". To me, I am the king of my home and my wife is the queen of the kitchen. Woe betides any of our in-laws who thinks otherwise. Many family problems began when we slack in being firm to both extended family members or friends whom we happened to invite to our home. Especially in Asian countries, people like to comment about the homes they happened to visit as if they are the masters of the home. We are not being unfriendly, but being tactful because the harmony of our relationship between husband and wife is most important.

I'm not certain if society has ever said that this is okay. It is just the rudeness in people today that is causing it to happen so much. Bad parenting and parents not teaching their children respect is adding more and more to problems such as the one you have described. I find it really sad.

When I was dating my husband I was very quiet took other people's criticism even if it was rude or uncalled for. After we got married he reenlisted in the marine corps. so we now have marines at the house all the time. The first time that I allowed one of his friends over, this friend decided to tell me that since I was cooking and he was the guest he would like a certain dish. I of course said hell no and kicked him out. So now, my husband warns them that I make the rules of my house and if you want to break them she will kick you out.

well, i dont go by any society. i make my own rules, and my terms, and i only deal with people who accept my terms. society is a bunch of crap not to be cared about.

I hate it...Thats why room mates never worked with me...the past 2 places I lived it drove me absolutly crazy..."you shoulnt do this" "you should do that".....I wont do it again thats for sure

When did society say it was ok for others to impose their rules in someone else's space? - kab aayega voh dhin . when that will come . this is the expectation by all and this expectation is leading our life and the life is moving . let us wait and see.

I dont think people should come in and tell you how to live you life or what kind of pets you should have unless the living conditions are really bad and could be possibly hurt children then people have the right to tell you how to live.

It really depends upon the person who wants to bring a change in abt u and ur househlod and that crap........... if u like the person ,,,u will love changes made by him else u will keep on hating him as usual and his evry act......