Imaginary friends

Canada
January 8, 2007 8:14pm CST
Does your child have an imaginary friend (or did you have one)? What are they like? Do they have a name? Are they only "around" at certain times or pretty much all the time? Neither of my kids did this and I find it really interesting.
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@tammyr (5945)
• Etowah, Tennessee
21 Feb 07
My Tara had a friend named Sara. She was always doing all the crazy things my daughter did not dare to do. At least once a day Tara would come in and say, "Mommy, look at what Sara is doing!" Of course I would have to ask,"What is that, dear?" , and she would say some really crazy thing like, "She is playing on the ceiling!" Of course I would go make her come down to play on the floor. I think that a lot of the things she came up with were asking if she herself would get in trouble for them, like the time she said Sara was eating the whole cake I had just made. Tara wanted a piece and she wanted to know if Sara was going to get in trouble so she would know if SHE would also get into trouble if she did the same. I do not know why this did not get tons of responses, it is a really good topic, and maybe it will catch on!
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• Canada
21 Feb 07
Hi tammy and thanks ;) I think that's so cool that your daughter was testing the waters by having her imaginary friend do things first. Unfortunately, I used to do the same thing to my younger sister LOL If I wanted chips, I'd send her to go ask my mom or dad for them. That way, if they got mad for "her" wanting a snack before dinner, I didn't get in trouble. It probably would have been a lot kinder if I'd had an imaginary friend! Did Tara keep Sara around for a long time or just until a certain age?
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• Canada
21 Feb 07
i never had any imaginary friends when i was a kid. i don't have a good imagination. i kind of hope my daughter gets one soon, lol. she needs a plamate so i can get a break.
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• Canada
21 Feb 07
LOL!!!! This is just an adorable answer, poppoppop111 - thanks for giving me a laugh to start my afternoon! I'll keep hoping for that imaginary friend for ya! ;)
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@dixielol (1579)
• United States
22 Feb 07
When my cousin was about 3, she had an imaginary friend named "Beckella" Who she called Becky. She talked to her all the time. It was even to the point were she didn't want to leave the house because Becky got sad. Her mom told her to ask Becky to go along with them but she insisted that Becky wasn't allowed to leave there house. Becky was pretty much always there. While watching TV she would just die laughin because Becky did or said somethin funny. One day when my cousin was about 6, I was baby sitting them & was on the computers. it was about 10 at night. So I was on the computer lookin up local gost stories for a class I was takeing in school. As the page was loading, my cousin walked in and said she couldn't sleep. Then she shreacked, "Hey how' did ya get a pictures of Becky?" I looked at the computer & there was a pic of a little girl, about 5 years old. I told her that wasn't becky but she assured me it was becuase that was Becky's dress & Becky's doll. (Girl in pic was holding a ragged doll with an arm & an eye gone) I tooke her back to bed and got her to sleep. Then I went back to the computer to see who the picture was really off. To my horror, there had been a girl named Beckella, Becky for short, her parents had abused her and eventally killed her because she had went to her neighbors to get food. it didnt tell were Becky had lived, only that it was in the same county. As you can imagine, that kind of freaked me out. My niece is 2 years old. She has never been to church & we've never told her anything about God, the devil, angels or demons. Some times she would be in here room playin then she'd look up at the sky & start laughing. When I asked what's in the sky She'd say "Jesus" or an "angel" I just assumed that my mom had said something to her about Jesus & angels in the sky. But then a few weeks ago she was in her room when she started screming "Help me! Help me please!" I ran in & asked what was wrong but she just kept crying. After she calmed down, she didnt want to go back to her room. When I finally got her to go in, she pointed at the closet, tried to hide behind my leg, & said "Deman bad." I asked her what she was talkin about & she said "Demon mean." I was furios, who would tell her somethin like that to scar her? I called my mom, my aunt, my cousin & my sister (the only people my niece has been around) they all swore they never told her anything & she hadn't watched any horror movies. Im still unsure, Can these kids just be seeing something that we can not? Or is it just a big imagination?
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• Canada
24 Feb 07
This is absolutely fascinating to me, dixielol... and, of course, a bit creepy! For those who believe in such things, I've read that children around the ages of 3-5 are really receptive! As I mentioned in another reply, one of my daughters saw someone in my mother's house. It was a man and she saw him in the upper corner of my mother's bedroom, about where the wall and ceiling meet. She asked my mom who the man was and my mom went in the room with her, thinking she meant the photo of my dad on the dresser (my dad had passed away by about three years earlier). She said, "No Grandma.. THAT man... up THERE!" She was just adamant about it. My mom wasn't especially freaked out or anything though because she, herself, used to have many dreams and the events of those dreams would actually take place... so my daughter didn't upset her at all. Like you, I wonder what they are seeing... or whether they imagine things but are so convinced that was they see is real.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I always was interested in how that whole thing works. I never had one, and even when I played with my stuffed animals I KNEW they couldn't really respond. For me, I knew it was all pretend. But when I see kids talking to imaginary friends or to their dolls as if they dolls answer back, I wonder... Do the kids really see this imaginary person? or do the kids know they are just pretending? I've never been face to face with a kid who had an imaginary friend, so I would really love to how they "invent" this person and if they actually know the person is imaginary.
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• Canada
21 Feb 07
I'm very much the same way. I never had one nor did either of my kids. My older daughter did "see someone" in my mother's house but it wasn't an imaginary friend... she asked my mom who the man was in her bedroom. Being a widow who didn't even date, my mom certainly wanted to know who she saw too! ;) I've only observed one child who had an imaginary friend (a friend's daughter who was, I believe, 4 at the time). She sat and played and carried on a running conversation with her "friend" and the conversation really appeared to be two-way. She would ask questions, wait, and then respond to her "friend's" answers. I have to admit I was just fascinated.
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• United States
24 Feb 07
No, I don't remember any imaginery friends. I kind of wish I had one know though. Would be nice to have someone help with dishes and the laundry so I could spend more time on MYLOT. LOL I have 5 children and none of them had any imaginery firends either. Thinking back I can't recall anyone I know having imaginery friends.
• Canada
24 Feb 07
LOL!!! I totally agree... if there is an imaginery friend that can vacuum and clean bathrooms, I want one of those, too -- in addition the one doing dishes and laundry. :D
• United States
21 Feb 07
Yes, my daughetr has been talking about a friend named Pamela for a couple of years now. It kinda freaks me out. Every so often I'll think she's forgotten about it and then out of the blue she'll bring up Pamela again...
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